Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Secret lemonade drinker said:
How would you guys react if your missy’s said her last bf had a tiny penis, that yours was perfect in size and then finished by saying because her ex husbands was way too big
I'd say I'd nailed all of them too and she got her ex husband and last bf mixed up. PAUL.S. said:
mickythefish said:
I've struggled on traditional dating website,apps so started using tinder. Two days on, chatting to a girl who ticks all my boxes and would definitely not have a chance in real life proper stunner.
Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
Tinder is notorious for catfish and other scammers, just be mindful of such when things seem to good to be true, suggest meeting up asap, if they drag it out, find excuses then you may well be dealing with one.Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
Hopefully she is the very rare genuine article.
mickythefish said:
Yeh I want to meet up. Seems genuine but who knows lol
This is the perfect time of year to look at the weather forecast to see when a nice evening/weekend is approaching. Msg her saying "the weather on Thursday evening looks lovely, have you ever been to xyz park, they've got a lovely al fresco coffee shop". It's absolutely fine if she's busy but your intentions are made clear and if she is busy then you'd expect her to say "Sadly I'm busy on Thursday, but do have some free time on Saturday". You're not looking for a pen pal and nor is she. mickythefish said:
I've struggled on traditional dating website,apps so started using tinder. Two days on, chatting to a girl who ticks all my boxes and would definitely not have a chance in real life proper stunner.
Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
I am confused - you are both on a dating site. Stop chatting and ask her on a date! That is not desperate, its the point of the app.Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
One thing I read about and put into practice was minimal chat and move to a physical data asap. No one thought I was desperate, and most ladies agreed it was the best thing to do. I moved to Whatsapp pretty quickly, a couple didnt want to which is totally faiir enough (not giving out their number) so we continued chatting on the app. But my rough limit was maybe 10-15 minutes of messaging before I suggested meeting for a drink.
Nothing clever, just "you seem great and I like your profile, rather than chatting endlessly on phones, lets meet in person and see if we click"
Only 1 (of maybe 40 chats) wanted a video phone call so I just canned her.
mickythefish said:
I've struggled on traditional dating website,apps so started using tinder. Two days on, chatting to a girl who ticks all my boxes and would definitely not have a chance in real life proper stunner.
Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
She won't look anywhere near as good as her photos in real life. Also proper stunners, 8 and 9s do not need to use dating sites they have a line of men wanting to date them.Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
She will be chatting to lots of men, any women on dating sites are inundated with messages, the hot ones so many messages they cannot read them all.
Also don't underestimate how many women are on dating sites for the attention and ego boost but have no interest in going on dates.
Ask her and don't put her on a pedestal, women can smell desperation and nothing is more off putting.
Adam. said:
mickythefish said:
I've struggled on traditional dating website,apps so started using tinder. Two days on, chatting to a girl who ticks all my boxes and would definitely not have a chance in real life proper stunner.
Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
I am confused - you are both on a dating site. Stop chatting and ask her on a date! That is not desperate, its the point of the app.Just not sure how to take it forward as I like her a lot and don't want to come across desperate, as well as she is probably messaging loads of other blokes as well.
One thing I read about and put into practice was minimal chat and move to a physical data asap. No one thought I was desperate, and most ladies agreed it was the best thing to do. I moved to Whatsapp pretty quickly, a couple didnt want to which is totally faiir enough (not giving out their number) so we continued chatting on the app. But my rough limit was maybe 10-15 minutes of messaging before I suggested meeting for a drink.
Nothing clever, just "you seem great and I like your profile, rather than chatting endlessly on phones, lets meet in person and see if we click"
Only 1 (of maybe 40 chats) wanted a video phone call so I just canned her.
Some forget the whole end game of a dating app is to find someone to.. y’know… actually date!
If I had wanted a phone based pen pal to fill dead time I’d rather just unmute various friends and family WhatsApp groups and be more involved there.
Seize the moment, ask for the date.
If she’s not reciprocating then move on.
Better to know you’re dealing with a messer early imo.
ThingsBehindTheSun said:
She won't look anywhere near as good as her photos in real life. Also proper stunners, 8 and 9s do not need to use dating sites they have a line of men wanting to date them.
She will be chatting to lots of men, any women on dating sites are inundated with messages, the hot ones so many messages they cannot read them all.
Also don't underestimate how many women are on dating sites for the attention and ego boost but have no interest in going on dates.
Ask her and don't put her on a pedestal, women can smell desperation and nothing is more off putting.
100% all that She will be chatting to lots of men, any women on dating sites are inundated with messages, the hot ones so many messages they cannot read them all.
Also don't underestimate how many women are on dating sites for the attention and ego boost but have no interest in going on dates.
Ask her and don't put her on a pedestal, women can smell desperation and nothing is more off putting.
Yes, hot ones have their mobiles pinging and flashing like a pinball machine.
What worked for me was to treat it all as a bit of fun and to have zero expectations. Don't go in there thinking "she is really hot, I must try and impress her", all that will happen is she will instantly spot your desperation and you will get the standard "Sorry, I didn't think there was a spark" text as you get home.
Go on dates with women who will be fun, but probably not relationship material. Single mums are great for this, a lot of the time they just want someone to go out with for the evening and have sex with on the weekends the dad has the children. Some you will never see again, some will become friends with benefits and some will randomly message you out of the blue months later to see if you want to meet up again.
When I was first online dating I put loads of pressure on myself before a date and this nervousness/desperation definitely came across. I would message them the next day thanking them for a lovely evening and would get the "Thank you, but I didn't feel a spark"
After I had a few women I was occasionally seeing my confidence grew and I was a lot more relaxed on dates. Without realising it I wasn't instantly replying to messages or even bothering to chase them after a date and suddenly they were the ones who were chasing me for another date.
Women are constantly being chased by men, when they have one who isn't doing this and actually doesn't seem bothered it triggers something and makes them want to know why.
A man who clearly has options is desirable, a man who is desperate clearly doesn't and is therefore not desirable.
Go on dates with women who will be fun, but probably not relationship material. Single mums are great for this, a lot of the time they just want someone to go out with for the evening and have sex with on the weekends the dad has the children. Some you will never see again, some will become friends with benefits and some will randomly message you out of the blue months later to see if you want to meet up again.
When I was first online dating I put loads of pressure on myself before a date and this nervousness/desperation definitely came across. I would message them the next day thanking them for a lovely evening and would get the "Thank you, but I didn't feel a spark"
After I had a few women I was occasionally seeing my confidence grew and I was a lot more relaxed on dates. Without realising it I wasn't instantly replying to messages or even bothering to chase them after a date and suddenly they were the ones who were chasing me for another date.
Women are constantly being chased by men, when they have one who isn't doing this and actually doesn't seem bothered it triggers something and makes them want to know why.
A man who clearly has options is desirable, a man who is desperate clearly doesn't and is therefore not desirable.
Blown2CV said:
it's like job interviews. Seem too keen and it shifts the power balance away from you.
Very good analogy. In the past I have always appeared too keen in job interviews and I know that is why I accept lower salaries than other people. A few years ago I had a job interview for a job I didn't really want and took an online test that I got a really good score on. I really didn't want the job.The agent kept emailing me, I ignored them. He then kept calling me and I ignored them to. In the end I got sick of him calling so I answered and said I didn't want it. He immediately offered another £5K salary, I said I still didn't want the job. He still kept calling me, leaving voice messages telling me that they were prepared to offer me even more money.
It's the same with online dating, a few times I have been on dates with women who I really wasn't that bothered about so just ignored their messages. Most women get the hint at this point, but some will just keep sending message after message ignoring the fact that you haven't replied. I had one keep calling my phone again and again until I eventually got so sick of it I answered. I hate to say it, but when you have someone basically saying "come over, I will cook you anything you want and do anything you want" it is really hard to say no.
On the other hand I have been on dates with women who I felt I got on really well with, chatted all night and didn't end up leaving the bar until chucking out time. You send them a message the next day saying you had a great time and would like to see them again and you get "Sorry, I felt there was no spark". It's almost like as soon as you show the slightest interest they don't want to see you anymore.
Weird old game.
Petrus1983 said:
interstellar said:
Planning to stay Saturday but not met you yet? Seems a bit lively!
What’s happened to the one on hols with her ex?
Same girl. We've met. What’s happened to the one on hols with her ex?
mickythefish said:
One thing is she keeps saying she doesn't like to message yet has a tiktok account where she replies to comments. Not sure if that is my line to ask for her number as women don't exactly tell you straight. Or is she just chatting for attention. All hard to know tbh.
Sounds like an utter time waster who only uses the dating apps for attention.If she is as hot as you say and goes looking for attention and validation via her Tik Tok account then she must inundated with messages.
Personally I would ignore her, but I can understand why you would want to continue for the 1% chance she is genuine.
Message some normal, non narcissistic women and go on some non pressure dates for some fun. Ignore all of these Tik Tok, Instagram love island wannabees.
mickythefish said:
One thing is she keeps saying she doesn't like to message yet has a tiktok account where she replies to comments. Not sure if that is my line to ask for her number as women don't exactly tell you straight. Or is she just chatting for attention. All hard to know tbh.
I am not following:she doesn't like to message via tinder?
why are you stalking her on TikTok?
why bother asking for her number?
why haven't you asked her out on a date?
out of interest how old are you?
Adam. said:
I am not following:
she doesn't like to message via tinder?
why are you stalking her on TikTok?
why bother asking for her number?
why haven't you asked her out on a date?
out of interest how old are you?
No I met her on tiktok common interest, thinking she doesn't like to message via tinder?
why are you stalking her on TikTok?
why bother asking for her number?
why haven't you asked her out on a date?
out of interest how old are you?
Yes all these women on tiktok love attention. But maybe I've found a real one, that's the gamble and I do genuinely like her, not just because she has big tits
mickythefish said:
No I met her on tiktok common interest, thinking
Yes all these women on tiktok love attention. But maybe I've found a real one, that's the gamble and I do genuinely like her, not just because she has big tits
I am not saying she is out to scam you, but I think you should watch some of these videos.Yes all these women on tiktok love attention. But maybe I've found a real one, that's the gamble and I do genuinely like her, not just because she has big tits
https://www.youtube.com/@CatfishedOnline
Like you, these people keep the "relationship" going even thought deep down they know it is fake on the 1% chance it is real.
mickythefish said:
No I met her on tiktok common interest, thinking
Yes all these women on tiktok love attention. But maybe I've found a real one, that's the gamble and I do genuinely like her, not just because she has big tits
Aha I see.Yes all these women on tiktok love attention. But maybe I've found a real one, that's the gamble and I do genuinely like her, not just because she has big tits
With respect, stop dicking around and ask her out.
a) all this prevarication makes you look unconfident aka a loser
b) it will soon confirm if she is real
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