Went ballistic at my OH browsing my facebook

The first sensible post on the thread.

She was being a woman, she was being nosey. They do that. OP...grow up.

Just to clarify since everyone thinks I took her phone off her... It was my phone not hers, think i'd be complaining about her finding out the password to my FB account rather than her browsing it on her phone...

bks. They do NOT all do that.

My wife does not not go through my phone or email. I do not go through hers. I would, of course, have no compunction in ASKING her to go through my emails for me to find something because I have nothing to hide.

That sort of invasion of privacy in utterly unacceptable.

My ex used to check my emails and Facebook, if i changed my password she'd demand to know why. I wasn't arsed about the facebook thing, at that time it was just full of family, a few far away friends and some tts from school.

On the other hand, my emails are rather private, one of the emails she read was from my best friend, discussing our salaries, and a few more personal things from him. And also a few mild drug references. She was very anti smoking, and very anti canabis.

When she rang me about it she was trying to coax me into saying it without dropping herself in it, as she'd obviously realised there was alot in the email she shouldnt of seen. I came clean about having the occasional spliff, but her lack of trust towards me spelt the end of our relationship. IMO, the op should sit his other half down and thrash it out, it'll never work with no trust!

or call out her sister's name

At least she simply browsed your Facebook account and didn't use FB to stir up the st with your relatives and cause a rift in your family.

Jebus, I am perfectly capable of doing that myself, without the help of an ex who turned out to be quite the mentalist.

You hear that CVM! FYI motherfker!

A massive grin and applause emoticon for you sir

Not true, not true. I gave up snooping on any man in my life when I was like 20. All it does is lead to heartache by you ASSUMING the situations regarding something you find when it's actually nothing. A woman's mind can go from normal to psychotic in about 2 seconds if she's already got it set that there's "something to find". It's a massive sign of insecurity and/or usually guilt on their part. Plus it's just plain rude and invasive to snoop.

You need personal space in any relationship. My boyfriend and I have told each other our passwords and pins but they rolled off both our backs because we don't need to know them. I leave emails and facebook open on my computer all the time and step away, but he has no reason to snoop.

In a nutshell, married or not, she shouldn't have invaded your only realm of personal space. If she has doubts or questions about something, she should just ask you, and you should be willing to listen to her concerns.

I believe you had every right to get upset, but you should explain to her that you felt it was violating of her not to trust you and help herself to the probably only personal thing you have left. There's nothing wrong with keeping a little sense of identity to yourself.

I'm with the OP on this, its bang out of order, and it doesn't matter if he has anything to hide or not, there is a certain amount of trust in a relationship, and checking e-mails, texts, facebook etc is just not on, its got nothing to do with them.

Have had a recent argument with my missus(now ex missus), where she guessed my Hotmail password and started reading my e-mails, her reason was that she suspected me of cheating, she then found out i wasn't cheating and it was a completely innocent and friendly conversation i was having with a woman i'm friends with. I dumped the beehatch! sod that for a laugh, there's paranoid, and then being crazy, and she was definately crazy!