Went ballistic at my OH browsing my facebook
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Caught my mrs browsing my facebook on the iphone, reading the messages from my female friends etc.
There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
Tony*T3 said:
Epic trust fail by her.
Epic 'nothing to hide' fail by you.
Well she's done that with my text messages in the past and although I didn't like it I didn't stop her. Figured I'd say something now so that she doesn't mistake my lack of protest as a "this is fine and can be done by her routinely" signEpic 'nothing to hide' fail by you.
V8mate said:
isee said:
V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
in 7 days maybe but at this precise moment in time i feel like i'd help her pack her things.
k-off huge diamond - you have no business being married.Edited by V8mate on Tuesday 31st March 16:55
stormin said:
So what, talk about making mountains out of molehills, anyone in a good relationship shouldn't have secrets and be able to get through this without asking complete strangers what they think.
I get the feeling you would not object to a police controlled CCTV isntalled in your living room just because "you have nothing to hide"V8mate said:
isee said:
V8mate said:
isee said:
V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
in 7 days maybe but at this precise moment in time i feel like i'd help her pack her things.k-off huge diamond - you have no business being married.Is it just a malicious rumour, or are you really just some attention-seeking school-kid?
Cara Van Man said:
isee said:
Caught my mrs browsing my facebook on the iphone, reading the messages from my female friends etc.
There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
Hello, may I be so presumptious as to ask how old you are?There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
I'm guessing about 12?
Either that or you met your missus at the 'special needs' school disco.
No more age related pisstakes will be dignified with a response from now on just fyi
Dick_Phallus said:
Martial Arts Man said:
The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Fair point, but this is Facebook. It's not going to have sensitive or commercial information on it. He's going to be seeing what people have been doing since school, and sending flirty messages to women. That's what it's for.It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
If she'd been accessing his online banking I could see his upset, even emails, but this just screams 'I'm keeping a couple of other women on the boil' incase things go tits up with you...which is fine but don't be upset when you get caught doing this.
srebbe64 said:
isee said:
Dick_Phallus said:
Martial Arts Man said:
The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Fair point, but this is Facebook. It's not going to have sensitive or commercial information on it. He's going to be seeing what people have been doing since school, and sending flirty messages to women. That's what it's for.It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
If she'd been accessing his online banking I could see his upset, even emails, but this just screams 'I'm keeping a couple of other women on the boil' incase things go tits up with you...which is fine but don't be upset when you get caught doing this.
So, when you want a second opinion you tell your mates? (or the most trusted mate?) who then tells his most trusted mate, who then tells his girlfriend, who then tells her best mate who happens to be your girlfriend? Yeah I can see how that might be a better option...
Rude Girl said:
isee said:
posting something anonymously to a bunch of anonymous people on t'internet!
This is PH. What traditionally happens in response to an assertion like this is that someone posts your name, address and phone number after a little bit of digging.Some people never learn...
I shudder at the thought of becoming "famous" for being that bloke that complained about his mrs checking his facebook. That's up there on the embarassment scale as being caught w
king to midget porn whilst staying at you in-laws isn't it? 
Kermit power said:
bazking69 said:
If she was browsing with a view to catching you out then i'd suggest your relationship has an issue with trust...
Don't let her turn what is her getting caught out snooping round on you like they seem to try. SHE is in the wrong. Make sure she is aware of this.
A lot of people seem to be assuming she was deliberately snooping because she had some sort of trust issue.Don't let her turn what is her getting caught out snooping round on you like they seem to try. SHE is in the wrong. Make sure she is aware of this.
Isn't it equally likely that she was just messing around with the nice, shiny gadget (yes, I know, she's not a bloke, but still not impossible) in a moment of boredom, and the OP had left Facebook open?
What might have just been a bit of idle curiosity then is certainly going to be a trust issue now due to the mad overreaction.
elster said:
I just spoke about this with my ex.
She just said she used to go through and delete people off my facebook and read my messages.
She certainly is a first class bunny boiler.
Your post helped me realise why I hated it so much. It's the controlling nature rather than invasion of privacy.She just said she used to go through and delete people off my facebook and read my messages.
She certainly is a first class bunny boiler.
Raeburn said:
BBS-LM said:
Raeburn said:
Taking her phone off her is very mature.
Your are lucky you are not getting it removed by A&E right now as that's what she should have done.
My O/H can check my emails browse my messages whenever they so wish, it would not bother me in the slightest but then again I hide nothing in my relationship. You kicking off suggests you have something to hide.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on. Your are lucky you are not getting it removed by A&E right now as that's what she should have done.My O/H can check my emails browse my messages whenever they so wish, it would not bother me in the slightest but then again I hide nothing in my relationship. You kicking off suggests you have something to hide.
hahahahahaha
What is she, 13. years of age. To funny.
Silly boy indeed.
M400 NBL said:
Well i have seen plenty of mates join facebook and close their accounts simply because they've cheated (a lot) and girls have tracked them down. OP, has she got any reason not to trust you? Have you emailed any females that you only know through facebook? How would you feel if she had messages from men you don't know? I'm not judging you because i don't know you, but if you have nothing to hide, let her find out for herself. Unless of course someone has asked you specifically to keep it a secret (and you aren't slipping that person a length)
I have a couple of girls on there that she does not know well (but has actually been introduced to)she has a lot of friends male and female that I never heard of.
If she wants to introduce them to me, fine if not then whatever.
I have a few good looking female friends that I would have had a chance with should I have tried. Sounds narcissistic i know, but then her being an absolute stunner, she has a good chance with any straight bloke on the planet. I am not automatically suspicious of her male friends and know that a fair few of them are single and would have no issues slipping her one, should she allow that to happen.
I am of the opipnion that paranoia will destroy you, and if you are looking for something, you will eventually find it. In fact if you are REALLY looking for something you will find it even if it's not there...
Raeburn said:
isee said:
Raeburn said:
BBS-LM said:
Raeburn said:
Taking her phone off her is very mature. Your are lucky you are not getting it removed by A&E right now as that's what she should have done.
My O/H can check my emails browse my messages whenever they so wish, it would not bother me in the slightest but then again I hide nothing in my relationship. You kicking off suggests you have something to hide.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on. Your are lucky you are not getting it removed by A&E right now as that's what she should have done.My O/H can check my emails browse my messages whenever they so wish, it would not bother me in the slightest but then again I hide nothing in my relationship. You kicking off suggests you have something to hide.
hahahahahaha
What is she, 13. years of age. To funny.
Silly boy indeed.
You would be complaining if she found out your FB account password.... however she's free to go into your online banking.
HHHmmmm step back and have a wee think about that will you
Nothing to hide my arse
I may take the more sensible people's advice here and offer her to go through the messages if she is so curious and ask her why she is so presistent in keeping my messages and letters screened, provided she is talking to me today.
Jimbeaux said:
isee said:
Caught my mrs browsing my facebook on the iphone, reading the messages from my female friends etc.
There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
No idea how to use smileys on this forum but [a massive grin and applause to you sir]There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
You are obviously confused about who is in charge....worldwide.
They have half the money and all the pu$$y.
Edited by isee on Wednesday 1st April 16:49
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