Split with the GF- she's making things awkward
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Some of you may have been following my depressing thread a few months back.
Well now I have parted ways with my now ex girlfriend, we share a rented house together, and quite frankly I want out. So I want to speak to my landlord to end the tenancy early. Trouble is, she wants me to stay in a "house share" scenario, which I'm not happy with.
I want a clean cut, but she is reluctant to ask her dad to use his bed for a bit till she finds somewhere and I don't want to just f
k off leaving her in the lurch as she can't afford the place on her own.
Part of me tells me to just pack my bags, but there are high value things in the house I have also invested in, which she wouldn't give me half for.
I also don't want to totally screw her over, but on the flip side I don't want to be paying for somewhere I don't want to be....! I have somewhere I can stay semi temporarily till I find an apartment, so I want to end all unnecessary expenditure so I can save quickly for a new place. This can't happen if I'm shelling out for a house I'm not living in.
Hope this all makes sense and any advise you can give me would be appreciated
TIA
Well now I have parted ways with my now ex girlfriend, we share a rented house together, and quite frankly I want out. So I want to speak to my landlord to end the tenancy early. Trouble is, she wants me to stay in a "house share" scenario, which I'm not happy with.
I want a clean cut, but she is reluctant to ask her dad to use his bed for a bit till she finds somewhere and I don't want to just f
k off leaving her in the lurch as she can't afford the place on her own.Part of me tells me to just pack my bags, but there are high value things in the house I have also invested in, which she wouldn't give me half for.
I also don't want to totally screw her over, but on the flip side I don't want to be paying for somewhere I don't want to be....! I have somewhere I can stay semi temporarily till I find an apartment, so I want to end all unnecessary expenditure so I can save quickly for a new place. This can't happen if I'm shelling out for a house I'm not living in.
Hope this all makes sense and any advise you can give me would be appreciated
TIA
If the shoe was on the other foot would she do the same for you? I know it's not 'tit for tat' and sometimes we have to take the moral high ground, but when it's over. it's over, clean break move on fresh start, at least she has somewhere to go and it is only temporary, in a few years time will you even care what she thinks, thought?
I'm at the tail end of going through a similar situation with my gf.
Here's what we did:
Sit down and split up the items you own together, based on value.
Each pay half of the rent until we have each found somewhere else as quickly as possible.
The person living in the flat paying all of the utility bills for the duration that they are the only one there.
In my situation this worked as she moved out to her parents' house, and I am taking up a room in my college as soon as one is available (2.5 months after she moved out). Yes this has resulted in her paying for the flat that she doesn't live in, but we moved in together because of her, and we split up because she is a cheating we, so it's basically her fault so she can suffer because of that.
Here's what we did:
Sit down and split up the items you own together, based on value.
Each pay half of the rent until we have each found somewhere else as quickly as possible.
The person living in the flat paying all of the utility bills for the duration that they are the only one there.
In my situation this worked as she moved out to her parents' house, and I am taking up a room in my college as soon as one is available (2.5 months after she moved out). Yes this has resulted in her paying for the flat that she doesn't live in, but we moved in together because of her, and we split up because she is a cheating w
e, so it's basically her fault so she can suffer because of that.Imagine this scenario:
You're laying in bed late one night, perhaps a Sunday. You have work in the morning, which depresses you slightly.
All of a sudden, you hear a tapping from next door. Not loud, but constant. The beat continues for a few minutes, you can't block it out, it it becomes annoying and stops you falling asleep.
Suddenly you hear another noise over the top of the tapping. It sounds like the wind blowing, but you can't be sure. You strain to listen harder. It becomes louder and louder, but still you can't work out what it is.
Then you hear it....
"Oh yes! fk me harder Tim!"
And that is why you never live with an ex....
You're laying in bed late one night, perhaps a Sunday. You have work in the morning, which depresses you slightly.
All of a sudden, you hear a tapping from next door. Not loud, but constant. The beat continues for a few minutes, you can't block it out, it it becomes annoying and stops you falling asleep.
Suddenly you hear another noise over the top of the tapping. It sounds like the wind blowing, but you can't be sure. You strain to listen harder. It becomes louder and louder, but still you can't work out what it is.
Then you hear it....
"Oh yes! f
k me harder Tim!"And that is why you never live with an ex....
I moved out, left her with everything (tvs, sofa, furniture, pretty much everything that wasn't specifically mine). At the time seemed fair and sensible as I was going to be moving into a place for a few months while I searched for somewhere to buy.
I'm just finishing renovating a house that I bought and having to buy everything - everything - brand new. Christ it's expensive. Regretting it now, but at the time it was the 'nice' thing to do.
I'm so glad my ex-fiancee, and her new boyfriend who moved in just 6 weeks after I left, have got all these wonderful expensive things to use.
I'm just finishing renovating a house that I bought and having to buy everything - everything - brand new. Christ it's expensive. Regretting it now, but at the time it was the 'nice' thing to do.
I'm so glad my ex-fiancee, and her new boyfriend who moved in just 6 weeks after I left, have got all these wonderful expensive things to use.
TonyHetherington said:
I moved out, left her with everything (tvs, sofa, furniture, pretty much everything that wasn't specifically mine). At the time seemed fair and sensible as I was going to be moving into a place for a few months while I searched for somewhere to buy.
I'm just finishing renovating a house that I bought and having to buy everything - everything - brand new. Christ it's expensive. Regretting it now, but at the time it was the 'nice' thing to do.
I'm so glad my ex-fiancee, and her new boyfriend who moved in just 6 weeks after I left, have got all these wonderful expensive things to use.
Ouch.I'm just finishing renovating a house that I bought and having to buy everything - everything - brand new. Christ it's expensive. Regretting it now, but at the time it was the 'nice' thing to do.
I'm so glad my ex-fiancee, and her new boyfriend who moved in just 6 weeks after I left, have got all these wonderful expensive things to use.
You did the right thing. Good lad.
TonyHetherington said:
I moved out, left her with everything (tvs, sofa, furniture, pretty much everything that wasn't specifically mine). At the time seemed fair and sensible as I was going to be moving into a place for a few months while I searched for somewhere to buy.
I'm just finishing renovating a house that I bought and having to buy everything - everything - brand new. Christ it's expensive. Regretting it now, but at the time it was the 'nice' thing to do.
I'm so glad my ex-fiancee, and her new boyfriend who moved in just 6 weeks after I left, have got all these wonderful expensive things to use.
That's just it! I don't want to be in that exact situation, I don't want to leave my tv, ps3 etc etc etc as shell just sell them and make a profitI'm just finishing renovating a house that I bought and having to buy everything - everything - brand new. Christ it's expensive. Regretting it now, but at the time it was the 'nice' thing to do.
I'm so glad my ex-fiancee, and her new boyfriend who moved in just 6 weeks after I left, have got all these wonderful expensive things to use.
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