drivin_me_nuts RIP & Funeral Details
Discussion
FlyingMeeces said:
ali_kat said:
FlyingMeeces said:
There's a post from his wife on FB saying that only people she had personally contacted were welcome at the funeral, and that that would only be people who had attended their wedding - are we sure it's cool if any of us lot show up? I wouldn't want to deepen anyone's distress by rocking up when unwelcome for all that I very, very much want to say goodbye.
Do you really think CB & I would put it on here without her blessing? Especially as it outlines her request to us in the OP!We're all hurting, let's not attack each other too eh?
I believe that CBs post was after talking to Russ' wife and later than her FB post. Unless I hear otherwise from either CB or Ali-kat I think the misunderstanding is over.
Edited by James P on Wednesday 10th August 14:07
FlyingMeeces said:
ali_kat said:
FlyingMeeces said:
There's a post from his wife on FB saying that only people she had personally contacted were welcome at the funeral, and that that would only be people who had attended their wedding - are we sure it's cool if any of us lot show up? I wouldn't want to deepen anyone's distress by rocking up when unwelcome for all that I very, very much want to say goodbye.
Do you really think CB & I would put it on here without her blessing? Especially as it outlines her request to us in the OP!We're all hurting, let's not attack each other too eh?
Do you really disrespect DMN so much? And how dare you try to imply that we do!
James P said:
I wasn't at their wedding but people posting on here were.
I believe that CBs post was after talking to Russ' wife and later than her FB post. Unless I hear otherwise from either CB or Ali-kat I think the misunderstanding is over.
thank you.I believe that CBs post was after talking to Russ' wife and later than her FB post. Unless I hear otherwise from either CB or Ali-kat I think the misunderstanding is over.
JP is correct - CB & I and our partners (& others) were at their wedding. We are also in pretty much daily contact with his widow & the family; we have been asked to be the ones to communicate with their friends & PH in order to save Mrs DmN the pain of repetition
Please show respect and let this matter rest
Not wanting to prolong things, but neither person appeared to be attacking the other reading the messages as an outsider, it looks like a mix up when people are hurting. I can understand FlyingMeeces asking as if there was a misunderstanding - it is better to sort it out online, rather things go differently than wished at the funeral. There was no way for a lot of people to know which post came first, as even if you check the posting times she may have changed her mind but not informed everyone (or assumed the other post would be used).
RIP driving_me_nuts. I didn't know him personally, but did recognise his posting on here and he seemed a decent guy.
RIP driving_me_nuts. I didn't know him personally, but did recognise his posting on here and he seemed a decent guy.
James P said:
I wasn't at their wedding but people posting on here were.
I believe that CBs post was after talking to Russ' wife and later than her FB post. Unless I hear otherwise from either CB or Ali-kat I think the misunderstanding is over.
Sorry for the silence my side, up to my eyes in it with work.I believe that CBs post was after talking to Russ' wife and later than her FB post. Unless I hear otherwise from either CB or Ali-kat I think the misunderstanding is over.
James is spot on, I spoke with Jeanette who said "all PHers welcome, he loved the community, it would be what he wanted"
No sharing of funeral details on public FB as there are certain people who neither he nor her would want attending.
Kill the forum bickering ladies and gents, it's all good, let's make it a good day
I never met him but chatted on PH before now. Remember reading the other thread about his heart attack and being glad he was ok. Gutted, a great forum member who will be missed. I will strap a teddy in the car this weekend when racing as someone pointed out he always traveled with one. Condolences to his family and friends, much love to you all!
Balls.
I'm working on the 16th and as ever, it's my "duty" week. I'm off today but I'll be looking tomorrow if I can get the Tuesday off. If I can, it'll be a there and back for me in the day. I'm not hopeful though, as of course, it's August and people on my team are already on leave.
If I can't get the day off, I'll be making sure I'm somewhere quiet at 2.15 to give DMN a couple of minutes of my day.
I'm working on the 16th and as ever, it's my "duty" week. I'm off today but I'll be looking tomorrow if I can get the Tuesday off. If I can, it'll be a there and back for me in the day. I'm not hopeful though, as of course, it's August and people on my team are already on leave.
If I can't get the day off, I'll be making sure I'm somewhere quiet at 2.15 to give DMN a couple of minutes of my day.
So sorry, I've just started a new job and won't be able to make it. It grieves me. He was a Trivial Thread stalwart with whom I am glad to have shared on-line banter, the occasional email, one very long lunch and a love of thick cut marmalade.
I miss you, Russ, and think of you often.
I miss you, Russ, and think of you often.
Dibble & Dicky - Don't worry, spare a thought and raise a smile at 2:15 and a glass in the evening, Russ would have said that work cones first; you know that!
I hear him telling me not to take the day off because 'little old me isn't worth it' (as a contractor I'll not get paid). Sorry Russ, but you are worth it to me
I hear him telling me not to take the day off because 'little old me isn't worth it' (as a contractor I'll not get paid). Sorry Russ, but you are worth it to me
k, no no no no....ali_kat said:
Dibble & Dicky - Don't worry, spare a thought and raise a smile at 2:15 and a glass in the evening, Russ would have said that work cones first; you know that!
I hear him telling me not to take the day off because 'little old me isn't worth it' (as a contractor I'll not get paid). Sorry Russ, but you are worth it to me
Ali, I don't know if I've missed it, but can those of us who can't attend the funeral contribute to a charity? Lily's hospice perhaps?I hear him telling me not to take the day off because 'little old me isn't worth it' (as a contractor I'll not get paid). Sorry Russ, but you are worth it to me
DickyC said:
ali_kat said:
Dibble & Dicky - Don't worry, spare a thought and raise a smile at 2:15 and a glass in the evening, Russ would have said that work cones first; you know that!
I hear him telling me not to take the day off because 'little old me isn't worth it' (as a contractor I'll not get paid). Sorry Russ, but you are worth it to me
Ali, I don't know if I've missed it, but can those of us who can't attend the funeral contribute to a charity? Lily's hospice perhaps?I hear him telling me not to take the day off because 'little old me isn't worth it' (as a contractor I'll not get paid). Sorry Russ, but you are worth it to me
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