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marcosgt
6,180 posts
45 months
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Adamp said: well I have got back into lots of work and have got my old car out of hiding and putting it back on the road its a Renault 5 GT turbo. awaiting flaming. Little beats a cheeky little French bit in my experience  I'd love to have a go in a good R5GTT again, just to see if it was as great as I remember! M
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Adamp
Original Poster
131 posts
83 months
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This is all normal? Great!!
she announced this in the local whilst I was away she had a massive argument with my best mate and his mrs the new fella was there too. Lets just say my mate isnt a push over and told her a few home truths.
I would still be really surprised if she contacted me.
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NotDave
20,951 posts
26 months
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Oh aye. Course it's normal. The ex cheated on me fur months, I found out. We split. Few weeks later all "our friends" are being told that Ive been hitting her, abusive, cheated on her, etc etc. all complete b  ks to cover her own guilt.
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Adamp
Original Poster
131 posts
83 months
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So whats in store for me next?
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Sowler
110 posts
18 months
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Ditch all contact with her. Save yourself the aggro. If she texts you just ignore her. Don't get into an argument over text with her.
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Adamp
Original Poster
131 posts
83 months
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Would much rather of spoken to her face to face but she blanks me in public.
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Mobile Chicane
13,999 posts
81 months
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Adamp said: Would much rather of spoken to her face to face but she blanks me in public. Just ignore her. Past is past.
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NotDave
20,951 posts
26 months
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Sowler said: Ditch all contact with her. Save yourself the aggro. If she texts you just ignore her. Don't get into an argument over text with her. this 1000000000000000000000 times, this
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ShawCrossShark
2,012 posts
103 months
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NotDave said: Oh aye. Course it's normal. The ex cheated on me fur months, I found out. We split. Few weeks later all "our friends" are being told that Ive been hitting her, abusive, cheated on her, etc etc. all complete b ks to cover her own guilt. As above. They all try to turn it around so that others don't see them in a bad light, been there, done that, bought the (rather large) t-shirt She WILL get in touch, just to see if she has a hold on you, at some point in the future. She will try and get you to argue as it shows you still care If you don't acknowledge her existence it will be her wanting to know why you don't care any more. If you're lucky they eventually get bored of it Delete and block her number and don't get involved. If you're one of the idiots that keeps casual aquaintances and ex's on facebook then get a grip and get rid there too. This includes her friends and family My best mate is currently going through it. He REALLY needs to read this thread. Tonight! 
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The Beaver King
3,550 posts
64 months
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NotDave said: Sowler said: Ditch all contact with her. Save yourself the aggro. If she texts you just ignore her. Don't get into an argument over text with her. this 1000000000000000000000 times, this Agreed. Do nothing but the above. It was exactly the same with my ex. She started f king around behind my back, lots of Billy Bulls t, swearing nothing was going on, secret texts and phone calls. Kept saying she loved me blah blah blah. Eventually mate you have to draw a line in the sand, because you will destroy yourself if you keep thinking about 'what if's' or listen to the rumour mill. The best thing I ever did was ignore the text messages, asked all my friends to not talk about her in front of me and just focused on myself. Once you remove all reference of her from your life, you'll be surprised how quickly you learn to deal with it all. Also when the time is right, take everything that reminds you of her (presents, cards, photo's etc), grab a beer, pile all the stuff up in the garden and BURN IT. All of it... Don't keep anything 'just in case', burn everything that holds meaning from your past relationship. It really helped me put everything to rest. I think I took some pictures and posted them in the mental thread. Ignore her. Don't talk to her. Don't fool yourself into thinking she just want's a harmless chat, all she wants is for you to still want her, purely to satisfy her own ego. Your friends will make up their own minds about what she is saying, those that believe her are not YOUR friends. Try to remember all the bad times and use that to put up an emotional barrier. Most importantly, you WILL find somebody else. This relationship didn't fail because of you, it failed because it wasn't meant to work. When you meet the next girlfriend, you will wonder what the hell you ever saw in your ex. Good luck
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10 Pence Short
27,552 posts
86 months
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Adamp said: This is all normal? Great!!
she announced this in the local whilst I was away she had a massive argument with my best mate and his mrs the new fella was there too. Lets just say my mate isnt a push over and told her a few home truths.
I would still be really surprised if she contacted me. Mine worked behind the bar in a local pub- she wasn't keen on the job but didn't want to let the landlord down. Then one night, bingo! I and a friend were in said pub one night, the only people in the place, having a few beers and a laugh. She was working and we joked and pulled her leg about a couple of things (nothing nasty, as we were 'getting along' at the time). A few days later, I find out from some friends that she's left the job, telling the boss, and everybody who'll listen, that I and my friend had made her feel 'threatened' behind the bar. A mutual friend (big guy), took it upon himself to offer to rip my head off and threaten me. Her family have stopped talking to me altogether because of it. So yes, what you're seeing is normal behaviour.
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Adamp
Original Poster
131 posts
83 months
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there hasnt really been any contact at all in a fair few weeks I have heard what she has been saying and ignored it but then after the outburst in the local I thought I should say something.
My mates have been great to be fair all know she is lying and even the regulars in the pub think she is full of it to be fair.
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AyBee
5,212 posts
71 months
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It's taken a mate of mine 5 years and he's still not over her 
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Cotty
24,916 posts
153 months
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Adamp said: During a heated text battle Delete and block the number.
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Council Baby
16,089 posts
59 months
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Cotty said: Delete and block the number. Most networks won't let you, just delete it and crack on/off, whatever suits.
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Tyrewrecker
6,419 posts
23 months
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Council Baby said: Most networks won't let you, just delete it and crack on/off, whatever suits. Blackberry have an app for this. You can set an allow list so only numbers in your phone book can contact you and an array of other options.
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Council Baby
16,089 posts
59 months
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Tyrewrecker said: Blackberry have an app for this. You can set an allow list so only numbers in your phone book can contact you and an array of other options. There are various apps available for various phones, they don't block the number though, they just stop the texts appearing in your inbox, they still reach the message center and if they withhold the number your phone will still ring with most of them. It would be ideal if networks allowed you to block people directly... with a message for them when they call saying 'the number you are calling thinks you're a , and has blocked you accordingly'.
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Tyrewrecker
6,419 posts
23 months
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Council Baby said: There are various apps available for various phones, they don't block the number though, they just stop the texts appearing in your inbox, they still reach the message center and if they withhold the number your phone will still ring with most of them. It would be ideal if networks allowed you to block people directly... with a message for them when they call saying 'the number you are calling thinks you're a , and has blocked you accordingly'. Blackberry app stops them calling you.
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V8mate
34,915 posts
58 months
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Tyrewrecker said: Council Baby said: Most networks won't let you, just delete it and crack on/off, whatever suits. Blackberry have an app for this. You can set an allow list so only numbers in your phone book can contact you and an array of other options. The Avast app for Android lets you block calls and/or SMS from nominated numbers. Some Android phones have a 'blacklist' as a built-in phone feature.
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ShawCrossShark
2,012 posts
103 months
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AyBee said: It's taken a mate of mine 5 years and he's still not over her I have one at ten years. Has steadily tried to buy happiness in a variety of non-woman related ways, remortgageing along the way to allow it Has had 1 relationship since, it lasted 2 weeks. She said she couldn't even bring herself to sit on the toilet in his house it was that dirty. Lives in a hovel that he has not spent a penny on in that 10 year period. Piles of clothes everywhere, sits drinking on his own every night. On monday he is handing the keys to his house over, walking away and going bankrupt This is an ex para and serving prison officer In that 10 year period I have had 2 long term relationships, both of whom have run off with blokes from work. I have been seeing the current OH for nearly a year. Let a b1tch ruin your life for you or get back on the horse? I know who I would rather be out of the 2 of us!
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