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ewenm
24,437 posts
114 months
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A friend of mine has found what they call Oddparents for his son - non-family members he'd like to be involved in his son's life.
If you're being asked to be a GODparent by religious types, then your role is to look after the child's spiritual and religious indoctrination needs in the event that the parents cannot. You'd already know that as they'd be unlikely to ask someone who's not part of their club anyway.
If you're being asked to be a godparent by non-religious types, then your role is whatever they think it is. Probably the fun uncle/aunt role rather than anything more serious.
It's got nothing to do with bringing up the child in the event of both parents dying - that is defined in a will.
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sday12
4,193 posts
80 months
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ewenm said: Oddparents FFS, my friend had 'Buddies' IF YOU DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO THE RELIGON THEN YOU DON'T GET THE CEREMONIES AND ASSOCIATED TITLES. You are also being condescending and insulting to those who do. Please stop. Thank you.
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wolves_wanderer
7,944 posts
106 months
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TheHeretic said: Top Godparenting. I am Godparent to 2 critters, and my main roll is to tickle them until they cry, and to throw them into the pool. Sometimes I buy them stuff, but it is normally the loudest stuff I can find, (musical stuff, beeping noisy things, and stuff they bang). Their parents always appreciate noisy, loud presents.   Same here, although I have expanded my role to playing with them until they get so over-excited that they're sick - at which point the parents can have them back.
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ewenm
24,437 posts
114 months
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sday12 said: ewenm said: Oddparents FFS, my friend had 'Buddies' IF YOU DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO THE RELIGON THEN YOU DON'T GET THE CEREMONIES AND ASSOCIATED TITLES. You are also being condescending and insulting to those who do. Please stop. Thank you. That would be why he calls them "Oddparents", as they are not Godparents. It's nothing to do with ceremonies and titles, it's to do with giving your child semi-formal access to a few more viewpoints on life IMO. You'd have a point if he insisted on calling them Godparents despite being non-religious. Likewise, the religious don't get to dictate to the non-religious what they can and cannot do - to do so would be condescending and insulting...
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doogz
18,668 posts
56 months
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essayer said: cailean said: If the parents die you need to look after said child. Yeah that'll go down well with the grandparents. It is a very important role, with two main great responsibilities: 1) buy present at Christmas 2) buy present at Birthday My Godfather is a bank manager, so his other main responsibility was to get me a good rate on my last business loan. 
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C.A.R.
1,272 posts
57 months
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Funny topic this, I got asked to be godfather to my nephew on Sunday.
Thing is, there's another 4-5 people who are also 'godparents'
My sister seemed disappointed when I wasn't overjoyed at being asked "will you be his godfather?" I just kind of shrugged my shoulders and mumbled "yeah alright. What do I have to do?!"
If my sisters' form is anything to go by it's because she expects me to buy a more expensive present. I've spoiled my nephew in the past but I'm currently skint, so they'll have to be grateful of a card...
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wormburner
6,388 posts
122 months
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Cock Womble 7 said: jeff m2 said: 6?....It is possible they are Catholic, there is the Compadre system, basically you hook up your child with a handful of useful people.
But...there is also a plus, you also get linked to the other 5 useful people. Are you sure that's Catholicism and not the Masons? Similar gigs really, but in the Masonic secret ceremonies you put things on.
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cwis
414 posts
48 months
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f  k you. I'm not a Christian but I'm going to celebrate xmas. Religious types often forget that their precious ceremonies and festivals have normally been nicked from elsewhere in any case.... sday12 said: ewenm said: Oddparents FFS, my friend had 'Buddies' IF YOU DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO THE RELIGON THEN YOU DON'T GET THE CEREMONIES AND ASSOCIATED TITLES. You are also being condescending and insulting to those who do. Please stop. Thank you.
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Twincam16
27,211 posts
127 months
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Cock Womble 7 said: jeff m2 said: 6?....It is possible they are Catholic, there is the Compadre system, basically you hook up your child with a handful of useful people.
But...there is also a plus, you also get linked to the other 5 useful people. Are you sure that's Catholicism and not the Masons? Interestingly the Masons was founded to provide a comparable support system for Protestants as found in Catholicism and Judaism, so you're not far wrong.
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doogz
18,668 posts
56 months
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cwis said: f k you. I'm not a Christian but I'm going to celebrate xmas. Religious types often forget that their precious ceremonies and festivals have normally been nicked from elsewhere in any case.... Presumably all the "real" christians don't let their kids believe in Santa, that's not what Christmas is about... Or are they really the biggest hypocrites of all?
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Pixel Pusher
4,681 posts
28 months
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C.A.R. said: My sister seemed disappointed when I wasn't overjoyed at being asked "will you be his godfather?" I just kind of shrugged my shoulders and mumbled "yeah alright. What do I have to do?!" You're not alone. I know that I'm a Godparent to one of Mrs. PP's sisters' kids. The thing is, I genuinely can't remember which sister or which kid. Is that bad? 
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richardxjr
3,310 posts
79 months
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hidetheelephants said: missing the VR6 said: I am athiest but will do my best to direct him on a good moral course in life. Bing! We have a winner! This basically. I was asked, but had to decline. My mate (the father) suggested we just lie about our beliefs in front of others, as would he, just to get the nice candle in the quaint village church and a bit of a party afterwards. Nice for the grandparents, too. In the end his even more godless brother stepped in. 
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C.A.R.
1,272 posts
57 months
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Pixel Pusher said: You're not alone. I know that I'm a Godparent to one of Mrs. PP's sisters' kids. The thing is, I genuinely can't remember which sister or which kid. Is that bad? No, I don't think so. Your post just reminded me that I'm already a godparent to one of my cousins, but I don't know which one. There's 6 boys and it's one of them. Number 4 I think.
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Mark Benson
2,534 posts
138 months
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TheHeretic said: missing the VR6 said: My godson is 3.5 years old and is probably the best thing in my life. I see my role as someone to amuse him and do fun stuff with, I suppose I spoil him a bit but not necessarily buy buying him stuff or taking him to kids indoor play areas, zoo's etc, sometimes just by playing with him for a few hours is more than enough to keep him happy.
Not all godparents will take it as seriously as me but I felt a real honour when I was asked to be his godfather. I am athiest but will do my best to direct him on a good moral course in life. Top Godparenting. I am Godparent to 2 critters, and my main roll is to tickle them until they cry, and to throw them into the pool. Sometimes I buy them stuff, but it is normally the loudest stuff I can find, (musical stuff, beeping noisy things, and stuff they bang). Their parents always appreciate noisy, loud presents. This stuff. We chose our daughter's Godparents because they're good people who love kids, have a sound moral compass, who have been true friends to us in our greatest hour of need and most importantly like fast cars They repay us by buying her the noisy toys we try and avoid buying ourselves.....
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durbster
3,037 posts
91 months
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I was asked to be a GODPARENT!, which of course I agreed to even though I didn't really know what it meant. Then later they told me to fulfil the role I'd have to be baptised. I'm an atheist. It's never been mentioned since.
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missing the VR6
1,476 posts
58 months
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durbster said: I was asked to be a godparent, which of course I agreed to even though I didn't really know what it meant. Then later they told me to fulfil the role I'd have to be baptised. I'm an atheist. It's never been mentioned since. I would have just lied if I'd been asked but the vicar never asked any of the 3 odparents.
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Papa Hotel
9,439 posts
51 months
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Those of you who are writing about "godparents" as opposed to "Godparents", is this a conscious decision to make some sort of point?
Whether you're a believer or not, it still has an upper case "G", God is still a proper noun.
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durbster
3,037 posts
91 months
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Papa Hotel said: Those of you who are writing about "godparents" as opposed to "Godparents", is this a conscious decision to make some sort of point?
Whether you're a believer or not, it still has an upper case "G", God is still a proper noun. Nope, just a mistake in my case. I figured it needn't be uppercase when used as a prefix (which doesn't make a huge amount of sense now I think about it).
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wormburner
6,388 posts
122 months
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Papa Hotel said: Those of you who are writing about "godparents" as opposed to "Godparents", is this a conscious decision to make some sort of point?
Whether you're a believer or not, it still has an upper case "G", God is still a proper noun. Hmm. A godparent is a role - uncapitalised. My Godparent is a person - capitalised. Would you capitalise all references to aunties and uncles? Butchers and bakers? I wouldn't. I am an uncle, but I am Joanne's Uncle Rob. I am a godparent but I am Joanne's Godparent.
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ewenm
24,437 posts
114 months
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Papa Hotel said: Those of you who are writing about "godparents" as opposed to "Godparents", is this a conscious decision to make some sort of point?
Whether you're a believer or not, it still has an upper case "G", God is still a proper noun. You'd have a point if people were writing God-parent, but they aren't. The word "godparent" isn't a proper noun. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/godparent?s...
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