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ESOG
Original Poster
1,014 posts
27 months
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I have to get the opinions of others about this. Truthfully tell me what you think of the following situation. Surely I cannot be the only man who has gone through this.
My OH and I have been together for a little over 2 years now. We are not married, and not yet engaged, and somehow I feel like that could be a good thing at the moment.
I need to know if I have grounds to be annoyed or if my argument is childish and I should shut up and dismiss it.
She has a small dog that she adopted since before we met. She got him when he was about 9 months old and she babied it from the get-go. She is extremely attached to it, not in the psychotic way some dog owners can be i.e. dressing them up with a different outfit every day, throwing it birth day parties, etc etc but she is attached to it enough that I feel it is interfering with our relationship.
Its not a large dog by any means, but its not a tiny Yorkie size either. Its a mutt so no idea what breed he is. Size is not the problem in any case.
Every night my OH MUST have the dog in bed with us, ALWAYS! Lying, cuddling right by her side. I go to put my arm around her and I have to feel the dog there too. I cuddle up next to her and the dog has its head on her chest staring back at me. I dont want to feel a g'damn animal every time I want to be near my OH! Am I wrong?!?
I confronted her about it tonight and she is now crying in the bathroom, as if I threatened to kill the dog or something!?1 Its not a normal reaction IMO!
Not only that but the dog follows her EVERY G'DAMN PLACE we go in the house. Every time I turn around when in the same room as my OH I nearly trip over it. It so annoying.
Sometimes when the OH isnt looking I give the dog a light boot/push LOL
Its a great little dog though, and I do care for it but FFS when is the line drawn!?
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Podie
38,379 posts
144 months
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Dogs do tend to follow people around - it's the pack mentality.
However, having the mutt in the bed all the time would do my fruit.
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KrazyIvan
2,520 posts
44 months
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Can never understand why people have their dogs in bed with them.
Personally I would start sleeping in another room, when she asks why, just tell her your not sharing your bedroom with a dog any more. If she is happy for you to sleep in separate rooms then I suspect the dog as won and you'd better move on.
Oh and stop kicking the dog is not his fault.
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Jasandjules
45,376 posts
98 months
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I am a dog person, my dogs get shown and they have won crufts. But they NEVER get in the bed with us. That is a line which I don't think should be crossed....
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axgizmo
434 posts
22 months
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I love my dog to pieces & feel my world may crumble a little when she goes but I would never let her sleep in my bed, yuk!
althoug my best friend shares her bed with a jack russell & A staffy. its just not right imho
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ali4390
1,289 posts
34 months
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ESOG said: My argument is childish...
...Sometimes when the OH isnt looking I give the dog a light boot/push LOL I don't know what you are on about, childish?!
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GroundEffect
7,192 posts
25 months
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Oi, stop kicking the dog you f  k. It's done nothing wrong. My dog sleeps where-ever he wants. Normally that means kitchen whilst the house is still warm and by the morning when it's got cooler he'll come and sleep at the end of my bed.
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Efbe
4,863 posts
35 months
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Firstly, yes you are being a bit of a wimp about it, but here are some serious suggestions.
1) Start trying to get attached to it yourself. She see's the dog as completely hers now, so if the job starts liking you more* you will probably find it backs off her a bit. Just remember that if it is sleeping next to you at night instead of her, you can always boot it off the bed!
2) *Dogs don't like you because you are stupidly nice to them, they like you because they respect (?!?) you and assosicate you with good things. This leads on to...
3) Start walking the dog yourself, without the mrs.
4) Start feeding the dog before the mrs gets a chance.
5) As a last resort; To get the dog off your bed, start sneezing and fake an allergy to dog hair. I personally wouldn't go down this route, but it all depends on what you are like as a person.
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Miguel Alvarez
3,281 posts
39 months
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I hate animals and I'm on your side (except for pushing the dog).
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Spanna
1,488 posts
45 months
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I was seeing a girl that babied her chihuahua and it slept in the bedroom, most of the time it would sneak onto the bed. One night I must have rolled over in my sleep and spooked the evil little thing as it attacked me. It didn't hurt as such, but it did catch my face at which point I picked it up by the neck and dropped it on the floor.
I left that night and never went back.
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Lensey
2,377 posts
152 months
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Reading this made me laugh, I realise what it must have been like for my girlfriend, I had a 6 month old black lab when we met, he used to go everywhere with me, he used to come to work with my everyday and therefore was a very loyal dog, he used to sleep downstairs although on the odd occasion we used to wake up and hear him on the landing outside the bedroom  My girlfriend loved him to bits and never came between us. We got married (he was at the wedding) and two years ago he passed away and I was devastated but she looked after me and got me through it, so much so that she wants to get another one now. It's a tough one but I wouldn't like to think I could've missed out on marrying my wife because I spent too much time affection on my dog 
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Puggit
29,481 posts
117 months
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Dog on the bed is wayyyyy over the line. In fact, the line is the stairs!
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SSC!
1,434 posts
49 months
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ESOG said: I have to get the opinions of others about this. Truthfully tell me what you think of the following situation. Surely I cannot be the only man who has gone through this.
My OH and I have been together for a little over 2 years now. We are not married, and not yet engaged, and somehow I feel like that could be a good thing at the moment.
I need to know if I have grounds to be annoyed or if my argument is childish and I should shut up and dismiss it.
She has a small dog that she adopted since before we met. She got him when he was about 9 months old and she babied it from the get-go. She is extremely attached to it, not in the psychotic way some dog owners can be i.e. dressing them up with a different outfit every day, throwing it birth day parties, etc etc but she is attached to it enough that I feel it is interfering with our relationship.
Its not a large dog by any means, but its not a tiny Yorkie size either. Its a mutt so no idea what breed he is. Size is not the problem in any case.
Every night my OH MUST have the dog in bed with us, ALWAYS! Lying, cuddling right by her side. I go to put my arm around her and I have to feel the dog there too. I cuddle up next to her and the dog has its head on her chest staring back at me. I dont want to feel a g'damn animal every time I want to be near my OH! Am I wrong?!?
I confronted her about it tonight and she is now crying in the bathroom, as if I threatened to kill the dog or something!?1 Its not a normal reaction IMO!
Not only that but the dog follows her EVERY G'DAMN PLACE we go in the house. Every time I turn around when in the same room as my OH I nearly trip over it. It so annoying.
Sometimes when the OH isnt looking I give the dog a light boot/push LOL
Its a great little dog though, and I do care for it but FFS when is the line drawn!? So it is the dogs fault. Yet you mention the OH MUST have the dog in the bed with her. Perhaps you should give her a light boot as doing it to a loyal dog is bang out of order. If I caught someone giving my dog a light boot I would remove their foot with an axe! YOU BOTH have to retrain the dog if you BOTH don't want it on the bed anymore. Chances are tho she is happier cuddling something loyal so expect your bags to be packed for you when you suggest the dog off the bed again. 
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antspants
775 posts
44 months
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Firstly don't take it out on the dog, it's only doing what it's been allowed to do.
In the bed is too much IMO, and your gf needs to decide whether you're important enough to her to train the dog to stay out.
If not, then get rid as she's chosen the dog over you.
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JuniorD
3,066 posts
92 months
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Allowing a dog in bed is disgusting! What are the chances it might accidentally fall into the washing machine when you wash the bed clothes? Have you considered doing that? 
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sinizter
3,346 posts
55 months
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In bed ... Not right.
The rest of it can be par for the course.
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bitchstewie
8,765 posts
79 months
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Hate to be you the first time you fancy a bit of early morning action and you find doggie's not in his usual place...
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The Beaver King
3,551 posts
64 months
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There is only one solution.
Biological warfare.....
Give the dog fleas. After one night with a flea infested dog, she'll be reluctant to allow it in the bed again. You can use it as an excuse to banish the dog from the bed and she won't be able to argue.
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ESOG
Original Poster
1,014 posts
27 months
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KrazyIvan said: Can never understand why people have their dogs in bed with them.
Personally I would start sleeping in another room, when she asks why, just tell her your not sharing your bedroom with a dog any more. If she is happy for you to sleep in separate rooms then I suspect the dog as won and you'd better move on.
Oh and stop kicking the dog is not his fault. I have hinted to her that I will be staying in another room in the near future for this very reason. She didnt take it well. To clarify, I dont actually kick the dog, I just give it a little shoe ride aka push away. Gently, I love the dog, would never do anything to hurt it.
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K50 DEL
5,218 posts
97 months
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KrazyIvan said: Can never understand why people have their dogs in bed with them.
Personally I would start sleeping in another room, when she asks why, just tell her your not sharing your bedroom with a dog any more. If she is happy for you to sleep in separate rooms then I suspect the dog as won and you'd better move on.
Oh and stop kicking the dog is not his fault. This.... the idea of having an animal in my bed would be the end of the relationship instantly for me. Dogs, Cats, rabbits, budgies.... I don't want any of them anywhere near where I sleep.
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