Went ballistic at my OH browsing my facebook

Went ballistic at my OH browsing my facebook

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isee

Original Poster:

3,713 posts

184 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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Caught my mrs browsing my facebook on the iphone, reading the messages from my female friends etc.
There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?

Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.

I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...

It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.

isee

Original Poster:

3,713 posts

184 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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missed an "e" in facebook... can't edit the title

V8mate

45,899 posts

190 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.

Piersman2

6,603 posts

200 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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So much to learn.

B16 RTT

1,871 posts

236 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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Sound to me like SHE is the one with the guilty conscience. If you have done nothing, you have nothing to hide!

isee

Original Poster:

3,713 posts

184 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
in 7 days maybe but at this precise moment in time i feel like i'd help her pack her things.

Tony*T3

20,911 posts

248 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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Epic trust fail by her.

Epic 'nothing to hide' fail by you.

Cara Van Man

29,977 posts

252 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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Good for you.

Sheriff JWPepper

3,851 posts

205 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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isee said:
I confiscated the phone
rofl

sleep envy

62,260 posts

250 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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isee said:
Have I overreacted?
how many black eyes does she have?

V8mate

45,899 posts

190 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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isee said:
V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
in 7 days maybe but at this precise moment in time i feel like i'd help her pack her things.
If you want to play 'secret messages' with other women - unless you are asking their advice on buying your OH a fk-off huge diamond - you have no business being married.

Edited by V8mate on Tuesday 31st March 16:55

HOGEPH

5,249 posts

187 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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Isn't the usual p+p advice

"Kick her back doors in?"

isee

Original Poster:

3,713 posts

184 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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Tony*T3 said:
Epic trust fail by her.

Epic 'nothing to hide' fail by you.
Well she's done that with my text messages in the past and although I didn't like it I didn't stop her. Figured I'd say something now so that she doesn't mistake my lack of protest as a "this is fine and can be done by her routinely" sign

maxrider

2,481 posts

237 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
They're not married.
They're both 14.
HTH

drivin_me_nuts

17,949 posts

212 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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Agree with you. But

<ph bitter divorcee mode>

you will lose your missus, your home, VBRJ will be committed on your cat as it taken from you by the divorce lawyers. The kids will grow up not knowing their father. You will become a junkie and turn into a ladyboy hooker in a desperate attempt to regain your dignity. You will end your days eating from street bins or worse, from the bins multinational burger chains ...

It's all your fault and you know it. Deep down inside, you know you are to blame.

</ph bitter divorcee mode>

isee

Original Poster:

3,713 posts

184 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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V8mate said:
isee said:
V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
in 7 days maybe but at this precise moment in time i feel like i'd help her pack her things.
If you want to play 'secret messages' with other women - unless you are asking their advice on buying your OH a fk-off huge diamond - you have no business being married.

Edited by V8mate on Tuesday 31st March 16:55
I am not married.

stormin

1,304 posts

212 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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So what, talk about making mountains out of molehills, anyone in a good relationship shouldn't have secrets and be able to get through this without asking complete strangers what they think.

V8mate

45,899 posts

190 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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isee said:
V8mate said:
isee said:
V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
in 7 days maybe but at this precise moment in time i feel like i'd help her pack her things.
If you want to play 'secret messages' with other women - unless you are asking their advice on buying your OH a fk-off huge diamond - you have no business being married.
I am not married.
Then why call her your "mrs"?

Is it just a malicious rumour, or are you really just some attention-seeking school-kid?

Georgiegirl

869 posts

210 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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I see why you are a bit annoyed, but that level of reaction means one thing to women - you are very very guilty!
Personally it wouldnt bother me if someone looked at my email, facebook, phone.....anything really

isee

Original Poster:

3,713 posts

184 months

Tuesday 31st March 2009
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stormin said:
So what, talk about making mountains out of molehills, anyone in a good relationship shouldn't have secrets and be able to get through this without asking complete strangers what they think.
I get the feeling you would not object to a police controlled CCTV isntalled in your living room just because "you have nothing to hide"