I've been asked to join the Freemasons
Discussion
Think I might have to pull out before its even started for me...
Personal circumstances have changed now expecting our second little un and frankly just cannot see me having any free time whereas before the age was coming up to where I could slip way every now and again.
I feel like I'm going to be letting him /my proposer down - I do certainly want to get involved but even a mere 6 nights of the year (which are Saturdays ) I don't feel that it is fair on my wife and also I love my child and the early years are so so special.
Thoughts? Is it something that I could postpone until the time is right for me ?
Personal circumstances have changed now expecting our second little un and frankly just cannot see me having any free time whereas before the age was coming up to where I could slip way every now and again.
I feel like I'm going to be letting him /my proposer down - I do certainly want to get involved but even a mere 6 nights of the year (which are Saturdays ) I don't feel that it is fair on my wife and also I love my child and the early years are so so special.
Thoughts? Is it something that I could postpone until the time is right for me ?
Welshbeef said:
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Thoughts? Is it something that I could postpone until the time is right for me ?
Yes.Thoughts? Is it something that I could postpone until the time is right for me ?
I would write a letter to the Lodge setting your regret and reasons out to add to your verbal communications. Will set you in good light for 3-4 years time when you feel you may have the time again. Do bag up though before you put in the next application
Welshbeef said:
Think I might have to pull out before its even started for me...
Personal circumstances have changed now expecting our second little un and frankly just cannot see me having any free time whereas before the age was coming up to where I could slip way every now and again.
I feel like I'm going to be letting him /my proposer down - I do certainly want to get involved but even a mere 6 nights of the year (which are Saturdays ) I don't feel that it is fair on my wife and also I love my child and the early years are so so special.
Thoughts? Is it something that I could postpone until the time is right for me ?
Hmm. mixed thoughts on this. You say there are limited nights through the year where you would be away, and congratulations on the soon to be new addition to you family. Always remember that it should never interfere with your regular life but please do sit down and think about it. Certainly run it past your proposer. It can be a welcome retreat or a chance to share with the brethren your new family additions. Indeed it might even offer some additional time for your wife and new born but these are all subjective opinions and i respect you putting your family first as you should.Personal circumstances have changed now expecting our second little un and frankly just cannot see me having any free time whereas before the age was coming up to where I could slip way every now and again.
I feel like I'm going to be letting him /my proposer down - I do certainly want to get involved but even a mere 6 nights of the year (which are Saturdays ) I don't feel that it is fair on my wife and also I love my child and the early years are so so special.
Thoughts? Is it something that I could postpone until the time is right for me ?
Over the years i've missed many meetings with family, work and just wanting to spend time with me. Bu, and i know this might sound as if i'm favouring the order.... but i'd join and take out of it what you put in. There are many years to get involved but the first, second and third step are achievable under most circumstances.
Good luck.
Welshbeef,at my interview i as told by a Grand Officer that you take these in this order
Your Family
Your Work
Your Masonry
Luckily in 24 years i have only missed one two meeting both due to illness.
What i would suggest is have a chat with your wife, (and prop and second) but not at the same time, and explain the situation. I would say that if you can manage the fees, and the first year is the worst!! Get the initiation done, and if you have any Classes (Lodges)of instruction, get to them as well. The reason i say this is whilst you can only attend certain COI/LOI, they are normally in the evening and last a lot less than a normal meeting, it also shows your intention, and keeps you in the mind of the brethren.
Best of luck with whatever you choose
Your Family
Your Work
Your Masonry
Luckily in 24 years i have only missed one two meeting both due to illness.
What i would suggest is have a chat with your wife, (and prop and second) but not at the same time, and explain the situation. I would say that if you can manage the fees, and the first year is the worst!! Get the initiation done, and if you have any Classes (Lodges)of instruction, get to them as well. The reason i say this is whilst you can only attend certain COI/LOI, they are normally in the evening and last a lot less than a normal meeting, it also shows your intention, and keeps you in the mind of the brethren.
Best of luck with whatever you choose
Welshbeef, discuss this with your wife first as you'll only be giving up an hour or so a week to LOI, you don't even have to go each week. The other thing is that I found Masonry a great way of getting away from the pressures of real life for a short while each week and it was a great outlet. You can also compromise with your wife so she can get a night out each week or so as well.
Edited by jagracer on Monday 24th February 14:55
silverfoxcc said:
Moose,
It must be near 'that' time, can you pm me details.
Ron
RonIt must be near 'that' time, can you pm me details.
Ron
I must apologise for missing this. I've not been too well recently which has made life rather hard whilst trying to get my head around everything.
Anyway, I'm now in the chair and just got back from my first (full) meeting - a 2nd degree which was good. I really enjoyed it. Another 2nd in May as the next meeting.
How's everyone getting on?
Fer said:
Moosie, I would like to come over to Marlow if you fancy a visitor from across the water.
Tomorrow is my last meeting as IPM, and then it's tiler for me for a year. Oh, and assistant secretary.
You'd be more than welcome. Next meeting in May is actually our 200th meeting so we have a few special things planned for the evening.Tomorrow is my last meeting as IPM, and then it's tiler for me for a year. Oh, and assistant secretary.
PM me and I can forward on the summons when it comes out.
We've just launched our new website as well which is initially going well.
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