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YesItsAVW
Original Poster
1,583 posts
34 months
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All,
I have found that I have been far too easy to anger since giving up smoking about two months ago. I would go and see the doctor about this, but rather than going straight on tablets are there any old wive's remedies for this? Are the "Kalms" tablets any good?
Thanks, Steve
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Ilikebeaver
960 posts
50 months
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I used to take Kalms to help me sleep when I was anxious about things years ago (exams etc)
If I didn't have Kalms I took Bachs Flower Remedy which seemed good too.
I never thought they would have helped for anger much though, but maybe they would.
I have been finding myself increasingly angrier over the past few weeks. I can't put my finger on why as most things are kushti.
Drink has been fixing it for me so far, but I know this isn't the answer, so might look to the remedies too as I get so angry that I go all tense, and then start getting pains and light of breath.
Is there anything inpeticular that makes you angry?
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YesItsAVW
Original Poster
1,583 posts
34 months
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Nothing in particular, but incidents that wouldn't affect me have made me angry and easy to react. Not in a violent way, I add! I'll try some Kalms, thanks.
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Ilikebeaver
960 posts
50 months
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I think I will try some Kalms too.
Running a bath earlier made me really angry, and the way BMW have dealt with us when buying an AUC car from them recently.
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Ordinary_Chap
7,037 posts
112 months
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As a naturally very aggressive dude, I find training massively reduces my anger levels and helps me feel calm.
Other than that, do you ever ask yourself why you are getting angry?
Lee
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YesItsAVW
Original Poster
1,583 posts
34 months
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I'm looking to up the gym attendance this week! It's small instantaneous incidents, quite prevalent in driving, but can happen with anything. Stuff that would not bother me, has the red mist going now - To the point where if I can't sort it, I would like myself better on the cigarettes!
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goldblum
6,783 posts
36 months
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Ilikebeaver said: Running a bath earlier made me really angry Could you expand on this?
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VinceFox
14,255 posts
41 months
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Ilikebeaver
960 posts
50 months
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goldblum said: Ilikebeaver said: Running a bath earlier made me really angry Could you expand on this? Yes, see here - http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...And now my idiot neighbour has woken me up at 4:55am like he does most days by coming out side for a fag, banging the doors, banging the bin lid, and coughing. He has been told 3 times to stop doing this before 7am and just keeps forgetting, the inconsiderate t  t. So f  king angry now!
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Tyrewrecker
6,419 posts
23 months
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Kalms, st johns wort and a w  k.
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YesItsAVW
Original Poster
1,583 posts
34 months
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Hymen said: Been there done that started smoking again!! I don't have time to elaborate right now as I've gotta go to work, but I gave in after two years and started smoking again as it was a major problem for me. I think once you've relied on the fags your other stress coping mechanisms cease to work anymore! It certainly seems that way! Not something I want to fall back to though.
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Rickyy
3,327 posts
88 months
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I was once a care free, easy going person. Over the last few years the smallest things have tipped me over the edge.
I've destroyed two strimmers, a lawnmower, an ill-placed garden wall clock, punched holes in a door and bookcase (I'm not hard, they were very cheap!).
I blame this on the stress of work (long story). I kept it bottled up and it ultimately led to me becoming depressed.
If there are any underlying factors which you think may be causing this deal with them ASAP! Before it affects the people around you, I've snapped at my girlfriend for the most trivial of things and gone on rampages. I instantly feel ashamed and angry at myself as soon as the red mist has vanished.
Speak to your GP if you are worried.
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AJS-
10,016 posts
105 months
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I've had bouts of this. Always resisted drugs etc. I have found exercise helps, but the trouble with that is as soon as I have a couple of days off, I find myself yelling at my fist again John Cleese style over some triviality.
It comes down to a feeling of lacking control, for me anyway. If I feel in control and on top of things then I don't get angry, I can deal with problems. When something happens that I have no control over and I am negatively impacted by it, I get explosive anger over any trivial nuisance that pops up.
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bacchus180
726 posts
153 months
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giving up and anger.. yup, it takes about 8-9 months for it to dissipate to a level that is acceptable.. that's what the wife tells me. the introduction of exercise helps. everything, just everything was a trigger, f  k I could have killed the cat numerous times, just smashed the door down a couple of times, angry with the lid on some jam.. nothing works.. aaaarrrrggggghhh.........., It was never like this when I smoked!!. sometimes it was simply the wrong food for dinner, So I didn't eat. wrong clothes that didn't fit as i put on weight, wrong people to see us, wrong everything.. just wrong. I never actually had massive tantrums, but I would feel it boiling away inside.. I would remain as calm as I could but get the right arse. It does pass.. to much more infrequent episodes.. it just takes time.. good on you.. keep going.
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Asterix
16,441 posts
97 months
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I was a rather angry person - I still am a bit, but very much less so.
On the recommendation of my father in law, I did a Vipassana meditation course. It's made a marked difference. I'm still no monk but it takes far more to wind me up and when I do get wound up it lasts no where near as long.
I've had a history of being quite self-destructive but I feel far calmer and in control now - the rage is under control. Hard to explain really.
Not only is it good for the above, it does help you sort out a lot of other stuff as well.
Perhaps it's something you could have a look at.
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NeMiSiS
3,701 posts
44 months
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I attended x8 40min sessions of an anger management course. I was also ‘encouraged’ to attended x12 1hr sessions of CBT. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_...In between these two clinics I had psycho therapy which included sessions of hypnotherapy. I found the most benefiting to be CBT, but it was not a cure. I am still angry and aggressive, although using the techniques I have learnt my departures are fewer and far between.
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goldblum
6,783 posts
36 months
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Ilikebeaver said: goldblum said: Ilikebeaver said: Running a bath earlier made me really angry Could you expand on this? Yes, see here - http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...And now my idiot neighbour has woken me up at 4:55am like he does most days by coming out side for a fag, banging the doors, banging the bin lid, and coughing. He has been told 3 times to stop doing this before 7am and just keeps forgetting, the inconsiderate t  t. So f  king angry now! Ah right.Really your anger seems justified.Best thing to do is buy a cheap punchbag and hang it somewhere.Fill it with old clothes then when you are overcome with rage kick f*ck out of it.I've found it's better in the long term than having to fork out for a new lawn mower and PS3 handset. 
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Ilikebeaver
960 posts
50 months
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goldblum said: Ilikebeaver said: goldblum said: Ilikebeaver said: Running a bath earlier made me really angry Could you expand on this? Yes, see here - http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...And now my idiot neighbour has woken me up at 4:55am like he does most days by coming out side for a fag, banging the doors, banging the bin lid, and coughing. He has been told 3 times to stop doing this before 7am and just keeps forgetting, the inconsiderate t  t. So f  king angry now! Ah right.Really your anger seems justified.Best thing to do is buy a cheap punchbag and hang it somewhere.Fill it with old clothes then when you are overcome with rage kick f*ck out of it.I've found it's better in the long term than having to fork out for a new lawn mower and PS3 handset.  Thanks - It's nice to hear others think that is justified. Makes me feel less crazy. Inconsiderate neighbour came out again at 6am, and having not fallen asleep since being woken up an hour before hand I went downstairs and asked him to stop it and rather than coming out the back to go out the front where he would not be annoying anyone. Went back up to bed and just cried! (I am female, so allowed to) Felt like crying again at 7am when the alarm went off. Then tried to go to the local boots on the high street at 8:30 to pick up some kalms or bach rescue remedy before work as my heart is just beating so fast and I feel so angry that it hurts. What made it even worse was that Boots have changed their opening hours to 9:00, so that made me even angrier. Now I am at work, angry. It's month end, and I have had my worst month of sales in ages. It's hard to see how I will get less angry now.
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goldblum
6,783 posts
36 months
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Ilikebeaver said: goldblum said: Ilikebeaver said: goldblum said: Ilikebeaver said: Running a bath earlier made me really angry Could you expand on this? Yes, see here - http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...And now my idiot neighbour has woken me up at 4:55am like he does most days by coming out side for a fag, banging the doors, banging the bin lid, and coughing. He has been told 3 times to stop doing this before 7am and just keeps forgetting, the inconsiderate t  t. So f  king angry now! Ah right.Really your anger seems justified.Best thing to do is buy a cheap punchbag and hang it somewhere.Fill it with old clothes then when you are overcome with rage kick f*ck out of it.I've found it's better in the long term than having to fork out for a new lawn mower and PS3 handset.  Thanks - It's nice to hear others think that is justified. Makes me feel less crazy. Inconsiderate neighbour came out again at 6am, and having not fallen asleep since being woken up an hour before hand I went downstairs and asked him to stop it and rather than coming out the back to go out the front where he would not be annoying anyone. Went back up to bed and just cried! (I am female, so allowed to) Felt like crying again at 7am when the alarm went off. Then tried to go to the local boots on the high street at 8:30 to pick up some kalms or bach rescue remedy before work as my heart is just beating so fast and I feel so angry that it hurts. What made it even worse was that Boots have changed their opening hours to 9:00, so that made me even angrier. Now I am at work, angry. It's month end, and I have had my worst month of sales in ages. It's hard to see how I will get less angry now. You're suffering from stress.. not good for the health and I bet you're BP's through the roof. Could you wear earplugs at night? I do and they block out most noise.Take a holiday.Take up running.Move. 
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YesItsAVW
Original Poster
1,583 posts
34 months
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goldblum said: You're suffering from stress.. not good for the health and I bet you're BP's through the roof. Could you wear earplugs at night? I do and they block out most noise.Take a holiday.Take up running.Move.  Actually with sleeping I now sleep to the radio so there is always noises, that way the unexpected noises are less likely to wake me! Having a good day today, maybe as I'm trying to be more aware of it and stopping myself for getting wound up - I'd sooner sort myself out than get drugs! In regards to the masturbation suggestion earlier, I'm sure there is a link to anger in men.
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