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Davi said:
Cara Van Man said:
Lucie said:
after a long struggle
that reminds me. I need to upgrade the security on the 'van.
I'm gonna have to think of something to beef the saloon style door up.
Edited by Cara Van Man on Wednesday 18th March 21:35
Lucie said:
Come for a night out on the raz! Split up with my boyfriend today after a long struggle, could do with some man-questioning company!
In light of this chaps, who's going to brave Lecister to pick up this young lass and bring her to DDs?I'm good at questioning men... better at dribbling over cute medical students whilst drinking a lot though
before one of you
s pops up, I mean female medical studentsangryS3owner said:
Lucie said:
Come for a night out on the raz! Split up with my boyfriend today after a long struggle, could do with some man-questioning company!
In light of this chaps, who's going to brave Lecister to pick up this young lass and bring her to DDs?I'm good at questioning men... better at dribbling over cute medical students whilst drinking a lot though
before one of you
s pops up, I mean female medical studentsLucie said:
Cap'n Custud said:
Today, after a long discussion with other half last night, I have packed a few things in a bag and am going to my brothers. We are calling it a break but I am scared it is more. We are great friends just crap at boyfriend and grilfriend. I just cant get my head around this. I instigated it as other half never would, he is a blokey put his head in the sand sort of guy.
The plan is I stay away for a week to think our future through and he does the same.
Why am I telling you? Well I guess I just want to tell some unsympathetic strangers as writing helps. I am afraid you can't have your 2 minutes back though.
Come for a night out on the raz! Split up with my boyfriend today after a long struggle, could do with some man-questioning company!The plan is I stay away for a week to think our future through and he does the same.
Why am I telling you? Well I guess I just want to tell some unsympathetic strangers as writing helps. I am afraid you can't have your 2 minutes back though.
Some of us are PERFECT. Modest, too. Charming, witty, responsible, good looking, wealthy (lets not deny it), well placed and fertile. And liars.
Be good
Cap'n Custud said:
I just wish he would listen to why I can't and will not come back, but he wont.
He probably doesn't want to hear it so his brain is selectively filtering what you are saying.I've never been in the situation so I can't comment. My breakup has been so completely different to yours so I can't even comment there.
I hope it all works out. The only advice I can give is to keep telling him calmly but firmly and perhaps eventually it will sink in.
And don't give him mixed signals by snogging or shagging him.
Edited by JonRB on Monday 23 March 11:01
Cap'n Custud said:
Update: Well the break up hit an all time low yesterady night. The build up was 10-15 calls, 10 emails and then 25 texts where he was telling me he was cutting himself 
this came to a close about 3 this morning.
I was really scared at this point but called his bluff and told him I was sending over help. At this point he admitted that it was a ploy to get me to come over. I have had about 3 hours sleep.
Today is a new tactic, 1 marriage proposal, one email with registry office details and 2 texts so far telling me run of the mill things.
My new tactiq...ignore them. I am at meltdown.
I am a bit scared about the suicide texts though, I have a horrible memory of a PHer last year whose brother comitted suicide over a woman.
I am not being a bh, honest guys, I just want him to accept it is over and move on with his life. I am being as nice as possible but am now wondering if I am doing the right thing by being gentle. I am escaping from a very manipulative person with a big drink problem and anger issues.
Now this information I did not know. this came to a close about 3 this morning.I was really scared at this point but called his bluff and told him I was sending over help. At this point he admitted that it was a ploy to get me to come over. I have had about 3 hours sleep.
Today is a new tactic, 1 marriage proposal, one email with registry office details and 2 texts so far telling me run of the mill things.
My new tactiq...ignore them. I am at meltdown.
I am a bit scared about the suicide texts though, I have a horrible memory of a PHer last year whose brother comitted suicide over a woman.
I am not being a b
h, honest guys, I just want him to accept it is over and move on with his life. I am being as nice as possible but am now wondering if I am doing the right thing by being gentle. I am escaping from a very manipulative person with a big drink problem and anger issues.Stick with the program, no contact. Suicide threats are the last resort, the "S" bomb if you like, attention seeking. You might want to send him an email setting out very clearly in unemotional terms that it's all over for good, explain why, tell him you won't be changing your mind and to please stop pestering you. Then continue to ignore him. Cold and hard I know, there is no other way.
It's sounds as if his obsessive behaviour is beginning to border on harassment, and I can see why you're not sleeping (turn off your phones at night!). If it continues you might need to consider your next course of action. Let's hope it doesn't come to that.
Cap'n Custud said:
I am a bit scared about the suicide texts though, I have a horrible memory of a PHer last year whose brother comitted suicide over a woman.
A horrible situation to be in but if he does decide to do something to himself then you aren't responsible for his actions. It's my opinion that those who threaten it are the ones least likely to actually do it though.
ali_kat said:
What good will a restraining order do? Answer is - not a lot apart from cost money if he decides to ignore it...
Good point. The best answer, as Ali and the others above have pointed out, is to totally ignore Suicidal Syd and hope he gets bored. Then if that fails, there's the "threat" of a Restraining Order, which should get him to pipe down. And then finally, the actual Order itself, but surely that's a long way off. I'd also speak to your phone/internet provider and get them to block him.ali_kat said:
D - big hugs
Change his name in your phone to 'ignore', and ignore it. Don't delete him, cause then you may not know the number and get caught out.
What good will a restraining order do? Answer is - not a lot apart from cost money if he decides to ignore it...
And nothing messes with your head like sleep deprivation (ask the CIA...). Tonight, turn your phones off, turn your computer off, have a long hot bath and a milky drink to help you relax, sleep the whole night through, then see how much stronger you feel about his actions. Change his name in your phone to 'ignore', and ignore it. Don't delete him, cause then you may not know the number and get caught out.
What good will a restraining order do? Answer is - not a lot apart from cost money if he decides to ignore it...
Stay strong. You will be much better off without him.
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