Does an ex-spouse have right to enter house?

[Exwife]

anonymous said:

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Took me a while to respond... I was literally vomiting. Sorry, got to go - chucking up again.

Tonker, I feel your pain. You must have been very, very badly hurt.

[anonymous-user]

anonymous said:

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You have just confirmed my thoughts! Sure let's go to the bank and draw out £xxxxx thousands before anything has been agreed or a mortgage arranged slap it on the table and say there ya go!

My only interest here is for my partners well being and state of mind, which I have to say she is dealing with remarkably well all things considered.

[anonymous-user]

anonymous said:

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I wouldn't be staggered at all, my ex took me for more money than I care to mention, money is not the issue here! It's boundaries

[Red 4]

anonymous said:

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Jeez, and I thought I had a suspicious mind.

Excellent conspiracy theory there tonker.

However, the divorce is due to be finalised in 3 weeks or so iirc so perhaps a little late in the day for the drama.

[10 Pence Short]

Some people are not motivated by money or things, but by problems with accepting the loss of the relationship or control of the ex. Seeing them move on and being happy could be a trigger.

[Jasandjules]

I suppose an additional point to raise is that refusing to allow him entry/changing the locks would be ignored by police as a civil matter (obviously S5 might be in issue). It would then be for him to go to court to obtain entry.

[10 Pence Short]

Two things that can work with a civil harassment action are that it damages can be awarded and a restraining order can be put in place if there is an apprehension that harassment will occur (you don't have to wait for it to get worse and worse).

[Exwife]

anonymous said:

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No, I don't think my opinion is more valid than yours. I just think if ppl come on a site like this we should take them at their word. I was only involved in one divorce, not a real marriage as it only lasted 13 days. It was your comments about single mothers that disturbed me.

My son's father died in 1999, I promised him then that no-one would ever take his place and i have 'provided' for my son without any wanted or needed help. My son has just turned 16 and I would be disgusted if he thought of women the way you just described them.

There are good men and bad men, there are good women and bad women.

You said (paraphrasing), women lie, single mothers, knowingly or not, scheme to get unsuspecting men to provide for their children. I kid you not, I threw up. Men lie, women lie, people lie. Some men, women and children have integrity.

Do you stand by your comments?

[anonymous-user]

anonymous said:

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[Exwife]

Digi,

The main issue is boundaries.

You were married before, did you go through your wife's drawers?

Cutting the grass - go for it mate
Sweeping the drive - go for it mate
Cleaning the windows - mmmmm
Making yourself a snack - hhhhhmmmmmm
Going into your ex-wife's bedroom - noooooooo

Boundaries. Very apt.

[anonymous-user]

Exwife said:

Digi,

The main issue is boundaries.

You were married before, did you go through your wife's drawers?

Cutting the grass - go for it mate
Sweeping the drive - go for it mate
Cleaning the windows - mmmmm
Making yourself a snack - hhhhhmmmmmm
Going into your ex-wife's bedroom - noooooooo

Boundaries. Very apt.

No

[anonymous-user]

anonymous said:

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Exactly

[Parsnip]

digimeistter said:

anonymous said:

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Exactly

3 weeks from divorce? You really want to do this?

See the bigger picture here - wither or not lawyer trumps plod is kind of a moot point - divorce lawyer (his) will now have some decent ammo to fire at divorce lawyer (hers) now.

Legal advice or not - pissing off your girlfriend's copper husband, 3 weeks away from divorce with an act of dubious legality is pretty daft.

[Kateg28]

hora said:

Even a Landlord needs to give 24hrs notice of inspection. Yes I know different scenario but still..

I lived in a house for 13 years that was owned by someone else and they did not have the right to access whenever they want. I know it was rented but there must be some similarities? Owning the house cannot give complete freedom to enter a house as this would affect the rental market.

Oh, and btw, another single mother here (ex husband was shagging work colleague and left me and our 3 week old son) and I agree with exwife. I do now have a partner but took me 12 years before I would let anyone near my son as was never looking for someone to be his father. He has one.

Not all women are SWT.

[vxr8mate]

hora said:

Even a Landlord needs to give 24hrs notice of inspection. Yes I know different scenario but still..

Yes, but there is likely to be a tenancy agreement in place which would specify access etc.

In the case here there is no agreement as the property seems to be jointly owned.

I think the correct legal position was mentioned very early on in the thread by Mr Bread of Van and I can confirm I have received similar advice in the past; so much as to say that unless she obtains a court order the ex is free to come and go as he pleases, after all it's his house as well.

She could always put a padlock on the bedroom door!

[10 Pence Short]

As I would see it, without any other intervention, he would be free to visit and enter his property.

This does not preclude his behaviour leading to intervention that would prevent him from doing so.

[Exwife]

vxr8mate said:

She could always put a padlock on the bedroom door!

For six months I slept in a locked bedroom with my son sleeping on a mattress beside my bed. Do not play down the potential seriousness of this.

On this forum, there are many threads discussing the threat felt by motorists, even if only perceived of their "personal space" I.e. car space being invaded.

Imagine feeling intimidated in your bed at night, and unsure if your child is safe.

I completely understand i was in a very extreme situation, however, the warning sings are there.

I don't know your situation, but think about it... Could you justify it to your mates, going round to the house and going through her personal stuff?