Adult threatening a child with violence

Adult threatening a child with violence

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Jasandjules

70,474 posts

235 months

Friday 25th November 2016
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BugLebowski said:
Enthusiastic tag? confused
Indeed what does this mean? Did the girl get hurt in any way? Why on earth would the school be involved in a game of tag?

Marvtec

421 posts

165 months

Friday 25th November 2016
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OPs son roughed up a girl then cried like one to daddy when someone pulled him up on it. Daddy thinks sun shines out of sons arse and therefore its everyone elses fault innit.

ROSSinHD

826 posts

157 months

Friday 25th November 2016
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Brads67 said:
Why are you unable to speak directly with this man ?
This country has gone soft. If the OP story is true, and I have no reason to believe otherwise and this was me and my child had been threatened in this manner I would be straight onto the bloke next time at the school gates asking what his game is in threatening a kid. Grow a backbone, man up and deal with it. The police are going to do bugger all, chances are the school will do bugger all too.

Edited by ROSSinHD on Friday 25th November 20:44

Riley Blue

21,558 posts

232 months

Friday 25th November 2016
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When I was younger than 11 I was given a clout by the father of a boy I'd pushed off his bike. My dad had no sympathy whatsoever and told me I deserved it. Another time my grandfather belted my arse for destroying part of his flower garden. Punishment for childhood misdemeanours was often done and dusted, not just by parents, in no time in those days, no questions asked.

poo at Paul's

14,319 posts

181 months

Friday 25th November 2016
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Was it "enthusiastic" in the same way the President Elect introduces himself to women?

NewChurch

228 posts

104 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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solo2 said:
For context he was playing tag at school with girl. The game got 'enthusiastic' but all fine. School knew about it, nothing to deal with. Other child's mother aware and knows boy wouldn't hurt her child and says its a non story having finally been able to speak to her hours after posting this.

What is not a non story is another child's Uncle heard untrue rumours and threaten boy whilst boy was attempting to make his way home from school minding his own business. The same boy that escorted this Uncles Niece home only days ago when no relative bothered to turn up from school to collect her to make sure she got home safely.

As such boy is now incredibly scared of Uncle due to him actually being a decent kid.
As an outsider observer, I interpret this as:

  • Boy does something not acceptable to girl
  • Uncle finds out and tells boy to stop being a dick
  • Parents talk to each other and resole it
  • Boy deflects blame from himself on to Uncle




Devil2575

13,400 posts

194 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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NewChurch said:
solo2 said:
For context he was playing tag at school with girl. The game got 'enthusiastic' but all fine. School knew about it, nothing to deal with. Other child's mother aware and knows boy wouldn't hurt her child and says its a non story having finally been able to speak to her hours after posting this.

What is not a non story is another child's Uncle heard untrue rumours and threaten boy whilst boy was attempting to make his way home from school minding his own business. The same boy that escorted this Uncles Niece home only days ago when no relative bothered to turn up from school to collect her to make sure she got home safely.

As such boy is now incredibly scared of Uncle due to him actually being a decent kid.
As an outsider observer, I interpret this as:

  • Boy does something not acceptable to girl
  • Uncle finds out and tells boy to stop being a dick
  • Parents talk to each other and resole it
  • Boy deflects blame from himself on to Uncle
Or boy accidentally knocks girl over in Tag and she bumps her head. School and Parents are involved because girl requires minor first aid and/or has a bruise.

School and parents recognise this is just a playground incident.

Uncle weighs in and threatens boy.

The first two points will be well known to anyone who has children in primary school.

I'd be having a chat with the uncle myself. I would also mention it to the school. I would not involve the Police.

If it happens again I would though.



Edited by Devil2575 on Saturday 26th November 06:45

Devil2575

13,400 posts

194 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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Jasandjules said:
BugLebowski said:
Enthusiastic tag? confused
Indeed what does this mean? Did the girl get hurt in any way? Why on earth would the school be involved in a game of tag?
Children get hurt in the playground all the time and in my experience most of the time it is just as a result of over enthusiasm.

If your child gets a bruise then the parents will ne informed by the school.

If the school are involved and they are taking no action then it will have been an innocent event.

People trying to infer that there must be more to this clearly don't have children in primary school. There may be more to it but the OPs story is perfectly plausible.

solo2

Original Poster:

902 posts

153 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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Marvtec said:
OPs son roughed up a girl then cried like one to daddy when someone pulled him up on it. Daddy thinks sun shines out of sons arse and therefore its everyone elses fault innit.
fksake NOT everyone is a bloke on here.

I'm a snakes with tits, yell mumsnet if you fking wish BUT IM NOT A fkING BLOKE!!!!!!!

solo2

Original Poster:

902 posts

153 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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And for the constant doubters, the game of tag or 'it' as it was called many moons ago when I was a kid involved him tagging her but she sulked and didn't want to play because she got caught or tagged. Not rough and tumble, no hurting, no inappropriate stuff according to the child's mum who I spoke to directly. She said her child had gone off crying to staff because she was caught and didn't now want to play despite my son saying us boys normally play this but you wanted to join in so don't sulk when its your turn, yet she did.

And I can't speak to the Uncle of the other girl as I have no contact details, I only know its her Uncle because the tag girls mum told me it was him who was at the school that day.

School totally supportive of my child, to the point I was called to check he'd got home ok yesterday and will happily give Police all info if we go that route.

Not everyone has a hidden story you know, some of us are telling stories as straight up as we say.

MTech535

613 posts

117 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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Calm down, dear.
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hondafanatic

4,969 posts

207 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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I don't think talking to the uncle would be much use even if you did have his contact details. If the bloke is able to blow something like a game of tag to the point that he threatens a child, I suspect he'd been worse when an adult squares up.

Has the other mother said she'd have a word with the uncle?

Devil2575

13,400 posts

194 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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solo2 said:
And for the constant doubters, the game of tag or 'it' as it was called many moons ago when I was a kid involved him tagging her but she sulked and didn't want to play because she got caught or tagged. Not rough and tumble, no hurting, no inappropriate stuff according to the child's mum who I spoke to directly. She said her child had gone off crying to staff because she was caught and didn't now want to play despite my son saying us boys normally play this but you wanted to join in so don't sulk when its your turn, yet she did.

And I can't speak to the Uncle of the other girl as I have no contact details, I only know its her Uncle because the tag girls mum told me it was him who was at the school that day.

School totally supportive of my child, to the point I was called to check he'd got home ok yesterday and will happily give Police all info if we go that route.

Not everyone has a hidden story you know, some of us are telling stories as straight up as we say.
This is PH, where talking crap matters.

Ignore the idiots.

Rovinghawk

13,300 posts

164 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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solo2 said:
fksake NOT everyone is a bloke on here.

I'm a snakes with tits, yell mumsnet if you fking wish BUT IM NOT A fkING BLOKE!!!!!!!
Would Mumsnet not give you a response more in keeping with what you would like to hear? They might even approve of the gratuitous bad language.

If you ask a question, be prepared for the fact that you might not like some of the answers.

Devil2575

13,400 posts

194 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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Rovinghawk said:
solo2 said:
fksake NOT everyone is a bloke on here.

I'm a snakes with tits, yell mumsnet if you fking wish BUT IM NOT A fkING BLOKE!!!!!!!
Would Mumsnet not give you a response more in keeping with what you would like to hear? They might even approve of the gratuitous bad language.

If you ask a question, be prepared for the fact that you might not like some of the answers.
It would be more accurate to say "If you ask a question be prepared that some of the responders might be aholes"



deltashad

6,731 posts

203 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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I see the normal PH responses to a reasonable post are alive and well....

Jasandjules

70,474 posts

235 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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solo2 said:
Not everyone has a hidden story you know, some of us are telling stories as straight up as we say.
If what you say is absolutely correct then I would be at the school gates for the next few days to go and have a word with this fellow.

Spanglepants

1,743 posts

143 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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Just re read this thread and only just realised that the Uncle is not related to the girl in the OP, I haven't read that wrong have I ?
If so, what has caused him to get involved if the girls mother is ok with what actually happened?

Boosted LS1

21,198 posts

266 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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deltashad said:
I see the normal PH responses to a reasonable post are alive and well....
Yes, it's a shame.

Riley Blue

21,558 posts

232 months

Saturday 26th November 2016
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Boosted LS1 said:
deltashad said:
I see the normal PH responses to a reasonable post are alive and well....
Yes, it's a shame.
Indeed it is. If the facts we know now had been available from the start, I doubt the thread would have developed as it did. I would hope a meeting has been arranged between the uncle, the school and the lad's mother to re-establish harmony outside the school gates.