Major car accident - what happens next?

[JDFR]

Couldn't agree more. If someone has the details for fundraising and the OP is happy, please post and I'm sure many here would donate.

[vincenz]

RSoovy4 said:

I think it's hands in pockets time. If every active PHer gives a fiver that should easily be six figures I reckon. A good start.

Excellent idea-

OP post up a paypal addy or whatever you wish and i'll fire some funds over

Condolences

[BMRuss]

Very tragic reading, my sincere condolences and I too would be more than happy to donate.

[bramley]

OP - thoughts are with you, desperately tragic.

I lost my best mate a couple of years ago in tragic circumstances and he left behind two young boys so I've had some experience either directly or indirectly of watching a world fall apart and family and friends rebuilding it.

Pull together and let those around you help as much as possible. Consider counseling; my mate's fiancee started counseling quite soon after her loss and continued it weekly for a year or so (an hour each time). She found it VERY helpful.

This might seem like a stupid thing to say, but try and be positive about what you have. This hideous situation will make you stronger and is the start of a very special relationship with your nephew, and your wife too.

[Davie_GLA]

Jesus.

And here I am sat at work in a bad mood because my project isn't going as well as i'd like.

Harrowing stuff mate, what a horrible situation. Think i'll hug my 5 year old a little tighter tonight and be careful on my drive up north at the weekend.

D.

[anonymous-user]

Davie_GLA said:

And here I am sat at work in a bad mood because my project isn't going as well as i'd like.

Perspective is a wonderful thing.

[Amused2death]

Only thing I can offer to the proceedings, apart from utmost sympathy, is to suggest you gather everything you can find about his parents, have a very thorough trawl through their online personas. There may well be images and video that can be saved for his future. The poor lad will always miss his parents, but you are well placed to ensure he never forgets them.

[wigglebottom]

You have a PM

[nsa]

I might have misunderstood your concern on the PI front, but I don't think any reasonable motorist would begrudge claims like this turning into very large payments that a driver's insurer has to cover. I bet even the insurer takes a similar view. They buy reinsurance cover themselves to meet exceptional losses. Best of luck and I think it's clear to see everybody here supports you.

[eric twinge]

Goodness me, what a tragic situation. I wish I had something more constructive to give than my thoughts for your family.
I will keep an eye out for the Just Giving link or whatever it may be.

[monthefish]

neil_bolton said:

I wish I could offer help, but unfortunately all I can offer is my condolences as a parent who's biggest fear in life is such a horrific event occurring to my children - so I can only try to imagine the pain you and your family are experiencing.

Ditto this. Sorry I don't have anything more construictive to offer other than so, so sorry.
Lucky that this little lad has a such a decent Uncle.

Edited by monthefish on Thursday 26th September 17:42

[London424]

JDFR said:

Couldn't agree more. If someone has the details for fundraising and the OP is happy, please post and I'm sure many here would donate.

+1...For once I'm not sure what else to say.

[Usget]

Just adding my voice to the many words of consolation and solidarity already expressed. What a dreadful thing to happen. I hope the boy's condition picks up very soon.

[pork911]

Durbster. An awful situation. My thoughts are with you.


You mention a solicitor but what are they currently instructed on?

nsa said:

I bet even the insurer takes a similar view.

you'd lose that bet.

[nadger]

I have nothing of use to add to this, other than expressing my most heartfelt condolences. This situation is my greatest fear, and if it were ever to happen I can honestly say that I would be incredibly proud if my brother reacted the way you have for my children.

[Pontoneer]

vincenz said:

Excellent idea-

OP post up a paypal addy or whatever you wish and i'll fire some funds over

Condolences

I've PM'd Durbster , asking whether there is already something set up , or if he is OK with us having an online collection for him .

I've promised not to do anything without his permission and to respect his wishes .

I understand there may be forum rules regarding this and permission from mods may also be required .

I'm treading carefully , one step at a time , as the last thing I want is to cause upset .

[LoonR1]

pork911 said:

you'd lose that bet.

Ridiculous comment to drive the thread off on the wrong tangent. Grow up and accept you are little more than a redundant ambulance chaser. Graham Ginson of Allianz said after the Agnes Collier record payout that the situation was exactly why insurance is there and they had no issue throughout the process.

[Honk]

otolith said:

Nothing to add but condolences for your loss and admiration for the responsibility you are taking on.

Well done, also, to the resident legal and insurance professionals. Stars.

Agree Would also be pleased to donate.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

LoonR1 said:

pork911 said:

you'd lose that bet.

Ridiculous comment to drive the thread off on the wrong tangent. Grow up and accept you are little more than a redundant ambulance chaser. Graham Ginson of Allianz said after the Agnes Collier record payout that the situation was exactly why insurance is there and they had no issue throughout the process.

Absolutely. I've had many dealings with insurers involving serious life changing injury or death claims and their attitude is first class. There are various procedures to go thru which means final settlement can take a long time but that for the benefit of the claimant, not the insurer. To ensure they get what they are due. And hardship interim payments can be agreed. This may come a shock, but the people who work for insurance company have families too! And they have tragedies in their lives sometimes. They are not robots and they want to do the right thing.

OP, it may not seem much use to point this out now but kids are very resilient, especially at that age. Stuff that sets an normal adult back years is taken in their stride as a kid. I suspect you will struggle much more with losing your brother than he will losing his parents. I'm sure you'll do your best for him and in a couple of years he'll be a normal happy 5y/o with as bright a future ahead of him as any other kid.

Edited by TwigtheWonderkid on Thursday 26th September 20:04

[Chim]

Tragic situation and terrible position to be in, to deal with the loss of your brother and his wife and have your own life changed forever as a result is a lot to deal with. My heart really goes out to you.

Would be more than happy to contribute, suggest it may be a good idea to stick this in the lounge to extend the coverage a little as I know a lot of the guys in there would be eager to help in any way they can and offer some good advice and perhaps some comforting words.