Three in a bed - should I go there?
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littlegreenfairy said:
I personally wouldn't.
Call me old fashioned but to me marriage is between one woman and one man and should stay that way. Anything else isn't cricket and in my eyes is nothing short of adultery, whether it happens with permission or not. It is opening up a whole can of worms and sounds like it is the start of a a very slippery slope...
As much as it is joked about, I do wonder how many could actually go through with it.
Call me old fashioned but to me marriage is between one woman and one man and should stay that way. Anything else isn't cricket and in my eyes is nothing short of adultery, whether it happens with permission or not. It is opening up a whole can of worms and sounds like it is the start of a a very slippery slope...
As much as it is joked about, I do wonder how many could actually go through with it.
Definatly,
when it comes to the crunch you have to ask yourself why is she sniffing elsewhere? Whats going wrong, surely if she was truely hapy with you she wouldn't need to go there?
Nick P said:
personally i couldn't do it.
I think i'd be a bit freaked out by the sight of my missus with another woman.
I think it would be a large helping of 'regrets all round' after
and i'd hate to be a disappointment to 2 women. it would be crushing
I think i'd be a bit freaked out by the sight of my missus with another woman.
I think it would be a large helping of 'regrets all round' after
and i'd hate to be a disappointment to 2 women. it would be crushing
I agree with this although maybe with reservations as to the second sentence, although I think most women would be freaked out about the thought of their man with another woman.
I suppose a question is what if having tried the 3sum approach the other half decides she wants to be more adventourous and try a 4 sum so she can have another man "cos its not fair you've shagged Freda".
Its a very slippery slope and whilst most men would love a 3sum with 2 girls in theory, I suspect that in practice it will often turn into a nightmare.
It would be different if one wasn't in a serious relationship and had nothing to lose!
littlegreenfairy said:
I personally wouldn't.
Call me old fashioned but to me marriage is between one woman and one man and should stay that way. Anything else isn't cricket and in my eyes is nothing short of adultery, whether it happens with permission or not. It is opening up a whole can of worms and sounds like it is the start of a a very slippery slope...
As much as it is joked about, I do wonder how many could actually go through with it.
Call me old fashioned but to me marriage is between one woman and one man and should stay that way. Anything else isn't cricket and in my eyes is nothing short of adultery, whether it happens with permission or not. It is opening up a whole can of worms and sounds like it is the start of a a very slippery slope...
As much as it is joked about, I do wonder how many could actually go through with it.
If this is a serious post, then you evidently aren't 100% happy with the idea. If you don't feel your relationship will withstand it, then it wont.
While blokes like the idea of seeing two women together, how will you feel watching *your* woman with another, especially if/when the other woman can please her better than you can? When you and she are alone together having sex after that, will you not have the constant worry that she will be wishing she was with the other woman instead? What about you? What if you decide you would rather be with the other woman than your own? What if she feel left out and resents you for it?
Question why she feels the need to fulfil this fantasy - is she not totally satisfied by you?
You just need to be in the right frame of mind.I reckon if you do it it will all go tits up, so to speak. Looking from it another way, you do it and your missus realises it was a major let down, then something else creeps into her mind, that God awful question "So how was she?" "Did you like her better than me" etc. For your own sanity don't do it.
staceyb said:
I reckon if you do it it will all go tits up, so to speak. Looking from it another way, you do it and your missus realises it was a major let down, then something else creeps into her mind, that God awful question "So how was she?" "Did you like her better than me" etc. For your own sanity don't do it.
I agree. She sounds like a loon, no disprespect intended.
For any of you who doubt me, I can assure you that I posed the question originally in all seriousness and it is a problem that is giving me some heartache & doubts about my relationship. I am inclined not to go through with it - If that view results in the breakdown of our relationship, then at least I will walk away from it knowing that I did what I believed to be morally right and with my self-respect in tact.
Doesn't mean I don't appreciate the funny side though....
Doesn't mean I don't appreciate the funny side though....
Thinking about this since the thread first went up.
Having considered your question seriously I think that you should do it but make damn sure that there are no cameras anywhere.
If you don’t your relationship’s all but doomed,
If you do your relationship might be doomed but on the other hand you might both wonder why the hell you didn’t do it before and maybe progress to finding out one of the other uses for beer mats…
Whatever you do you need to start thinking about what you would do practically should you and the Mrs split up. Having a back up plan has never been a bad idea…
Having considered your question seriously I think that you should do it but make damn sure that there are no cameras anywhere.
If you don’t your relationship’s all but doomed,
If you do your relationship might be doomed but on the other hand you might both wonder why the hell you didn’t do it before and maybe progress to finding out one of the other uses for beer mats…
Whatever you do you need to start thinking about what you would do practically should you and the Mrs split up. Having a back up plan has never been a bad idea…
If she's quite happy to have a 3-some with another girl what is to stop her coming home one day and telling you she's just shagged some bloke from work and when you look upset saying "but I thought we had an open relationship."?
It's one of those things that sounds great for something like a one-night thing with strangers but you often find that in a situation like you describe where someone wants to do something more unusual that only one of you is ever comfortable with it and the other just goes along with it as they don't want to lose the other person.
It's one of those things that sounds great for something like a one-night thing with strangers but you often find that in a situation like you describe where someone wants to do something more unusual that only one of you is ever comfortable with it and the other just goes along with it as they don't want to lose the other person.
goggs said:
For any of you who doubt me, I can assure you that I posed the question originally in all seriousness and it is a problem that is giving me some heartache & doubts about my relationship. I am inclined not to go through with it - If that view results in the breakdown of our relationship, then at least I will walk away from it knowing that I did what I believed to be morally right and with my self-respect in tact.
Doesn't mean I don't appreciate the funny side though....
Doesn't mean I don't appreciate the funny side though....
Being able to look yourself in the eye in the mirror every morning is one of the most important things in life.
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