Three in a bed - should I go there?
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Dude, this is all a sneaky set up to get you to agree to what she really wants... getting spit roasted. You have a MFF threesome now and then she'll come out with how she now wants a MMF one, and how it's 'only fair' as you'll have been with two women at once so why shouldn't she have two guys at once? And, of course, because you agreed to the MFF threesome you won't have a leg to stand on because you'll be made out to be a hypocritical bastard otherwise.
Also, think about this. She's going to be looking for other women who are interested in a threesome. What woman is going to be interested in a threesome for the guy? If they wanted to screw a bloke they could do that any time they wish, no, instead she'll be more interested in your girlfriend.
You know that scene in friends where Ross just gets left out whilst his missus and the girl go at it? That's you.
Also, think about this. She's going to be looking for other women who are interested in a threesome. What woman is going to be interested in a threesome for the guy? If they wanted to screw a bloke they could do that any time they wish, no, instead she'll be more interested in your girlfriend.
You know that scene in friends where Ross just gets left out whilst his missus and the girl go at it? That's you.
I reckon it's one of those things you've got to do, you aren't going to be kicking yourself on your deathbed regretting it are you 
but seriously, from a sloshy romantic point of view, where is the love man? 
It takes all sorts to make a world but intimacy is sacred and should be, the bird sounds like she has psychological issues (regarding your relationship) and sounds like something to be avoided, since she's broched the subject, it's a point of no return and I reckon you should get your mental walking boots on and prepare to walk. Having said, do it, put in a good performce, perhaps get some viagra and a load of red bull, when you hit that shit, you've got to hit those poontangs and hit them hard.
Ron would agree. 
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king go for it man!:
but seriously, from a sloshy romantic point of view, where is the love man? It takes all sorts to make a world but intimacy is sacred and should be, the bird sounds like she has psychological issues (regarding your relationship) and sounds like something to be avoided, since she's broched the subject, it's a point of no return and I reckon you should get your mental walking boots on and prepare to walk. Having said, do it, put in a good performce, perhaps get some viagra and a load of red bull, when you hit that shit, you've got to hit those poontangs and hit them hard. Ron would agree.
:king go for it man!:goggs said:
This is posted under a pseudonym for obvious reasons. My dilemma; my other half has bi-sexual leanings about which she fantasizes a lot. Unfortunately she now wants to put these fantasies into reality - she wants to meet another woman, have sex with her and watch me having sex with her. To this end she has signed up with adultfriendfinder and has been e-mailing women with a view to meeting up. She has had one or two hopeful replies. While I am not particularly averse to having sex with another person, I am not sure our relationship would stand the strain and beloved spending her whole time obsessing about whether I would shag anything, whether I have just settled for second best by being with her etc. On the other hand, she is a driven woman & has said that if I do't go along with it, she may just go off & do it without me, which I would consider a breach of trust and adultery. Now it needs to be said that I think our sex life is bloody good, and I have never wandered or felt the need to explore outside our relationship.(On top of this, I am not entirely happy about pictures of her and us going on the internet!)
What should I do? Go along with it or put my foot down & stop it? I am hoping that we'll get to the meeting stage, find out that women met through the internet are real munters and then the whole idea will wither on the vine.
Should I have written this to The Sun instead?
What should I do? Go along with it or put my foot down & stop it? I am hoping that we'll get to the meeting stage, find out that women met through the internet are real munters and then the whole idea will wither on the vine.
Should I have written this to The Sun instead?
If this is a serious post, and not just some troll waiting to be fed...
Everybody has fantasies, but there are some that need to stay as fantasies because the reality of them can be alot harsher than the idea. This sounds like every mans dream, but I suspect the reality would be very different for many of them, especially if their wife or long term partner suddenly decided she wanted to introduce a third party into the bedroom. This situation goes beyond just having anonymous sex with someone and never seeing them again. Once the other person has gone, you're left with you and your partner and a situation that either or both of you may not feel completely comfortable with and live to regret. Jealousy, feelings of inadequacy, lack of trust may all be thoughts and emotions that are left unresolved.
My view is that if you are BOTH happy to do this and think you can have enough trust and communciation in your relationship, then go ahead, but from reading your post it seems you have reservations. What worries me most is that your girlfriend has said she's going to do this with or without your consent, which says to me that she doesn't repect you or your relationship enough, and that I fear is where you are going to fall apart.
Good luck.
If you do go ahead, make sure you come back and post about it!
Oakey said:
Dude, this is all a sneaky set up to get you to agree to what she really wants... getting spit roasted. You have a MFF threesome now and then she'll come out with how she now wants a MMF one, and how it's 'only fair' as you'll have been with two women at once so why shouldn't she have two guys at once? And, of course, because you agreed to the MFF threesome you won't have a leg to stand on because you'll be made out to be a hypocritical bastard otherwise.
Also, think about this. She's going to be looking for other women who are interested in a threesome. What woman is going to be interested in a threesome for the guy? If they wanted to screw a bloke they could do that any time they wish, no, instead she'll be more interested in your girlfriend.
You know that scene in friends where Ross just gets left out whilst his missus and the girl go at it? That's you.
Also, think about this. She's going to be looking for other women who are interested in a threesome. What woman is going to be interested in a threesome for the guy? If they wanted to screw a bloke they could do that any time they wish, no, instead she'll be more interested in your girlfriend.
You know that scene in friends where Ross just gets left out whilst his missus and the girl go at it? That's you.
She denies wanting any other male involved, but I can see where you are coming from. It isn't a pleasant image, is it...
Missed that.
When I was at uni a girl on my course who I was friends with had a threesome with her boyfriend and another girl, and afterwards her and her boyfriends relationship fell to pieces, she said she could not describe the feelings of jealousy she had when her boyfriend was shagging the other girl.
I also know mate who had a threesome with twin sisters, he said its the best moment of his life.
As others have said, in the long term it could do a lot of damage.
I also know mate who had a threesome with twin sisters, he said its the best moment of his life.
As others have said, in the long term it could do a lot of damage.
Yugguy said:
mrstrackside said:
some sensible stuff
Aye, she sounds like a nutter who doesn't give a toss about you.
So do it if you must but then I think I'd dump her for someone who might actually stay faithful to me.
Alternatively accept that its
ed anyway and make hay whilst the sun shines.Mrs Trackside said:
If this is a serious post, and not just some troll waiting to be fed...
Everybody has fantasies, but there are some that need to stay as fantasies because the reality of them can be alot harsher than the idea. This sounds like every mans dream, but I suspect the reality would be very different for many of them, especially if their wife or long term partner suddenly decided she wanted to introduce a third party into the bedroom. This situation goes beyond just having anonymous sex with someone and never seeing them again. Once the other person has gone, you're left with you and your partner and a situation that either or both of you may not feel completely comfortable with and live to regret. Jealousy, feelings of inadequacy, lack of trust may all be thoughts and emotions that are left unresolved.
My view is that if you are BOTH happy to do this and think you can have enough trust and communciation in your relationship, then go ahead, but from reading your post it seems you have reservations. What worries me most is that your girlfriend has said she's going to do this with or without your consent, which says to me that she doesn't repect you or your relationship enough, and that I fear is where you are going to fall apart.
Good luck.
If you do go ahead, make sure you come back and post about it!
Serious, yes. Troll, no.
Those reservations are causing loss of sleep
So, this woman has already dumped another guy to move in with you, so from this we can 'guess' that your relationship had already started?
Now, she wants to experiement with another woman, with your blessing?
Have to say Groggs, from a female perspective, it is a little dubious.......
Even if bi-curious, most women would not really be up for a 3some with someone that they truly love, too many issues afterwards of trust, preferance, etc etc etc Plus the issue of seeing you with someone else/you seeing her with someone else.
Sorry, having discussed it at length with previous boyfriends who "wanted to find out just how bi-curious I was" and "help them fulfil a fantasy"
If a woman loves you, she will not want to sleep with anyone else. Bi-curious or not. They will wait until your relationship has ended and then do it.
And if she has someone in mind - its probably an affair already happening!!
Now, she wants to experiement with another woman, with your blessing?
Have to say Groggs, from a female perspective, it is a little dubious.......
Even if bi-curious, most women would not really be up for a 3some with someone that they truly love, too many issues afterwards of trust, preferance, etc etc etc Plus the issue of seeing you with someone else/you seeing her with someone else.
Sorry, having discussed it at length with previous boyfriends who "wanted to find out just how bi-curious I was" and "help them fulfil a fantasy"
If a woman loves you, she will not want to sleep with anyone else. Bi-curious or not. They will wait until your relationship has ended and then do it.
And if she has someone in mind - its probably an affair already happening!!
Can all you fellas who are saying do it, seriously say that you could watch a woman you love shagging some other bird? Bearing in mind that the other woman will probably bring her more pleasure than you could.
Even if you leave the relationship immediately afterwards, that's an image that will always be in your head. Some of you may like that image, but I don't see how it's any different from your woman shagging another man (apart from biology of course!!)
Even if you leave the relationship immediately afterwards, that's an image that will always be in your head. Some of you may like that image, but I don't see how it's any different from your woman shagging another man (apart from biology of course!!)
Oakey said:
Dude, this is all a sneaky set up to get you to agree to what she really wants... getting spit roasted. You have a MFF threesome now and then she'll come out with how she now wants a MMF one, and how it's 'only fair' as you'll have been with two women at once so why shouldn't she have two guys at once? And, of course, because you agreed to the MFF threesome you won't have a leg to stand on because you'll be made out to be a hypocritical bastard otherwise.
Also, think about this. She's going to be looking for other women who are interested in a threesome. What woman is going to be interested in a threesome for the guy? If they wanted to screw a bloke they could do that any time they wish, no, instead she'll be more interested in your girlfriend.
You know that scene in friends where Ross just gets left out whilst his missus and the girl go at it? That's you.
Also, think about this. She's going to be looking for other women who are interested in a threesome. What woman is going to be interested in a threesome for the guy? If they wanted to screw a bloke they could do that any time they wish, no, instead she'll be more interested in your girlfriend.
You know that scene in friends where Ross just gets left out whilst his missus and the girl go at it? That's you.
Wise words my friend. She says she doesn't want two blokes now but after introducing another girl, she'll be on the phone to the nearest up for it bloke in no time.
Seriously, unless you have a very open relationship and you're both truly up for it, don't do it. It's asking for relationship termination. That said, if you've not been with her very long, and don't take the relationship that seriously.....tally-ho.
Dakkon said:
I also know mate who had a threesome with twin sisters, he said its the best moment of his life.
Twin sisters?? What, like incest??
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