Housemates

[polus]

Well it wownt be for longer but heres how mines managed to annoy me in the past 6 months,

One of my housemates complained that I wouldnt spend £90 joint house money (£30 for me to pay) on two heaters becuase the storage heaters didnt work... Since I turned them on I havent heard any complaint from her. My point was a) we have storage heaters b) we pay for a rented house with heating and c) Im not cold in extreme 22dc temperatures but I dont have a problem if she wants to buy a heater.

After the storage heater 'discussion' she wouldnt talk to me. After 3 months I had enough and after asking her if she had a nice day and got a evil stare I asked her WTF is the problem....

1 Complained that I went for a shower with my girlfriend (apparently this offends her?) BTW: I had a piss and washed my girlfriends hair - didnt even get my kit off...
2 Complained that I left a 1ft wide box in the 5ft wide corridor between the living room and house extension for 1 day while UPS came to pick it up.
3 Complained that I had (accidentally) left 'the' vacume cleaner in my room (for 1 night).
*by 'the' she means MY vacume cleaner that I kindly purchased and empty for the house.

I share all my kitchen stuff, dont see the problem as long as other people wash it up (which she doesnt..but I forgive her) and she went ape when I used her cheese grater... Apparently she has special kitchen stuff due to her kosha meat requirements but she doesnt mind using my chopping board that I cut all manor of meat and fish on. I wouldnt mind but with this attitude it does irritate me somewhat - she doesnt mind plonking her fat ass on my sofa and eating at my table and chairs (again purchsed by me for all of us living in the house). Not to mention the TV licence that I pay 1/3 out for even though I watch erm 1 program top gear... that really is it.

I cant wait to live with my girlfriend (already lived with her for a while but moved out becuase I got a job 1 hour away and wanted to save money).

Anyone else had a similar experience?





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[ywouldi]

Yep, still quietly seething after doing all the washing up then coming down to see a dirty saucepan left by one of my housemates. I know exactly who it was and he is always doing it, drives me mad. Must be the laziest, most irresponsible bastard going. Problem is that I'm pretty good mates with him and having asked him to wash up in the past resulted in arguments so im gonna leave it for now.

bastards, the lot of em!

[polus]

I dont really have a problem doing washing up. Its a little annoying when I go to use my stuff and shes just left it on the side but its her attitude that fks me off.

I have nothing in comman with my housemates...nothing, well apart from they live in the same house. I cant imagine anything more boring then going out with them to a pub.

I see your a student, No way out eh

>> Edited by polus on Friday 25th November 21:07

[EmmaP]

Take my advice and move out. You will feel better and wonder why you never did it sooner. I lived with someone once and had nightmares for two years after moving out*.

The strangest house mates I ever had were an ex-sub-mariner and man who was receiving electric shock therapy after having tried to murder his girlfriend, whose favourite topic of conversation was commiting suicide. Evenings were a bundle of laughs in that house

*No it isn't you and Judas, Ace-T.

[Gaffer]

www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&f=141&t=217274


Oh yes....he goes next weekend.

Claire

[koenig999]

Polus, he said:

"BTW: I had a piss and washed my girlfriends hair - didnt even get my kit off... "

I thought you had to use beer or shampoo or something ?



Seriously though, once an 'atmosphere' starts, it can be very difficult to get things back on a level footing. My last non-relationship flatshare ending in a cold shoulder from the guy for the last month, all about a strop about cleaning the oven, which I did, but not well enough.

Koenig

[toni896]

yes i nearly took a dumb bell to a bloke who writes sport articles for the Star and SUn, coz he would come home and start banging door.

instead I resorted to leaving childish messages on doors - seemed to pee him off till he left.

[focusonme]

KNow exactly what you're on about. We had a really good house last year, but one of the guys left so we took the plunge and brought someone else in. Oh what a mistake. Aside from the fact he never buys communal groceries, thinks he has a god-given right to watch TV whenever he wants (I bite my tongue, but have made it clear that if anyone messes with Top Gear, they're dead), never does the washing up ("Oh, but I was up what I use." Yes, but we wash up what you use AND everyone else's mess), seems to use up an unlikley amount of bog roll, still hasn't paid me for the last bill he owes me, and is someone I don't like as a person...aside from all that, the other day he absolutely insisted on watching male gymnastics.

And then has the cheek to whinge when we tell him he ought to just come out of the closet. (This is a guy that also watches Hollyoaks regularly, sings along to Madonna, asked for the new Take That album and got really rather excited when he heard they were going on tour, is vain as hell, makes his bed every morning and reads the Gossip pages on Teletext.)

Still, only got another six months of Uni, I think I can last that long without killing him.

[Pigeon]

polus said:

Im not cold in extreme 22dc temperatures but I dont have a problem if she wants to buy a heater.

I'd certainly have a problem if it was 22 deg C and someone wanted to put a heater on. Aircon would be more like it...

polus said:

Complained that I went for a shower with my girlfriend (apparently this offends her?)

She obviously isn't getting enough...

polus said:

Apparently she has special kitchen stuff due to her kosha meat requirements

Sounds like you're getting off lightly, then... ie. she's not demanding two completely separate kitchens for meat and dairy and insisting that everyone else respects the distinction as well...

Have you tried "medicating" her food to chill her out a bit?

[GavinPearson]

Simple answer - move out. Take your kit with you and leave your moron housemates behind. They're clearly idiots.

[Gruffy]

I've just started looking for a flatshare. Been living with friends for 6 years and now I'm looking at sharing with strangers. Really didn't need to read a thread like this. Been dreading it anyway.

Gruffy

[focusonme]

Gruffy said:

I've just started looking for a flatshare. Been living with friends for 6 years and now I'm looking at sharing with strangers. Really didn't need to read a thread like this. Been dreading it anyway. Gruffy

Sometimes you get lucky, sometimes you don't. Most of the people I live I met in university halls, so initially we were all strangers, just thrown together, no screening process, no choice or anything. But we're all pretty close friends now. Just remain open minded and optimistic.

[Pot Bellied Fool]

Gruffy said:

I've just started looking for a flatshare. Been living with friends for 6 years and now I'm looking at sharing with strangers. Really didn't need to read a thread like this. Been dreading it anyway. Gruffy

Noooo. That's the whole fun of it.

Sometimes it goes well, sometmes it goes bad,

But most times it's somewhere inbetween & you have a good few laughs & sometimes end up with egg on your face!

Remember, embaressment<SP> never killed anybody but it gave 'em some fine tales for posting on PH afterwards!!

[polus]

EmmaP said:

Take my advice and move out. You will feel better and wonder why you never did it sooner. I lived with someone once and had nightmares for two years after moving out*. The strangest house mates I ever had were an ex-sub-mariner and man who was receiving electric shock therapy after having tried to murder his girlfriend, whose favourite topic of conversation was commiting suicide. Evenings were a bundle of laughs in that house *No it isn't you and Judas, Ace-T.

Good Luck, Glad you got rid of the guy

koenig999 said:

Polus, he said: "BTW: I had a piss and washed my girlfriends hair - didnt even get my kit off... " I thought you had to use beer or shampoo or something ? Koenig

LOL, thanks I did have mouthful of potato wedges before reading that....

koeing999 said:

Seriously though, once an 'atmosphere' starts, it can be very difficult to get things back on a level footing. My last non-relationship flatshare ending in a cold shoulder from the guy for the last month, all about a strop about cleaning the oven, which I did, but not well enough.

Yeah, she still doesnt say anything to me... I do make the effort so the other housemate doesnt have to bare the cold front so much...

Pigeon said:

polus said: Im not cold in extreme 22dc temperatures but I dont have a problem if she wants to buy a heater. I'd certainly have a problem if it was 22 deg C and someone wanted to put a heater on. Aircon would be more like it... polus said: Complained that I went for a shower with my girlfriend (apparently this offends her?) She obviously isn't getting enough... polus said: Apparently she has special kitchen stuff due to her kosha meat requirements Sounds like you're getting off lightly, then... ie. she's not demanding two completely separate kitchens for meat and dairy and insisting that everyone else respects the distinction as well... Have you tried "medicating" her food to chill her out a bit?

I could but then she doesnt follow the rules anyway - I doubt shes really that bothered, its just another thing to make a fuss out of...

I have further probed into her problem: Apparently I "wouldn’t give her a lift to the hospital when she was serious ill"
I felt like ramming her fat head into the freezer - She had been with us 3 weeks and spent all 3 weeks on her ass on the couch familiarizing herself with British TV. Obviously the first couple of weeks were spent asking her how she was, if I could get anything and if there was anything I could do. On the third week she said that she was going to the doctor and said she was having trouble getting there so I said "would you like a lift" to which the response was "no Ill be ok, there’s a bus, I don’t want to put you out" - Now here was my mistake because instead of persisting I said "Ok, but only if your sure." To which she replied "yes." Now she did actually end up in hospital but they couldn’t find anything wrong so she was sent home. I did feel sorry for her (even a little guilty) but I did offer and she declined. Maybe I should have persisted…

<cheap shot alert> I wish she would stop talking to my other house mate about how good she is at swimming - She’s built like a tank and would resemble one of those floating advantage playgrounds.

And the sob story’s... "Its so difficult getting back from swimming without a car... I try to get lifts but no one goes to this area of xxxxxx" - Translation: No one wants to give you a lift because you’re annoying!




I think the problem is actually very simple. She has never lived away from home so is used to her parents fussing.



>> Edited by polus on Wednesday 30th November 23:45

[deevlash]

My ex(thank god) flat mate was a nightmare! we moved into a flat when we both started uni doing the same course. The guy was a bit of a geek at school so thought he would be the tidy one. then he started being the bigest waster ever. he dropped out of uni after screwing up twice because he didnt go to any lectures.He never did any washing up so i ended up washing everything and locking my half of the stuff in the cupboard with a padlock! his room was filthy and he didnt change his bed for the best part of a year as far as i could tell! So he stopped working and went out partying constantly, didnt pay his rent and eventually ran up 4 months of arrears! this was bad cos it would mean that both of us would end up getting kicked out of the flat and I was still at uni and exams were coming up (hence I hadnt left already!). Then I decided to check if he'd paid his council tax (I was exempt cos i was a student but both of our names were on the bill)and it turns out he hadnt and ran up a 2 grand bill! eeek! phoned his mum to get him sorted out and it then transpired hed been living of credit cards and had maxed out 3 of them and had been hiding all the bills! Eventually his mum dragged him home and i got a nice new flatmate who is vaguely capable of looking after himself.

[EmmaP]

polus said:

Good Luck, Glad you got rid of the guy

It was a woman off my degree course. It was thirteen years ago.

[NiceCupOfTea]

Blimey, that's brought it all back!

Had some awful flatshares when I was a student. There was the flat above a chippy in York, shared with 3 guys I didn't really know from the year above. Most disgusting crappy flat ever, nothing worked, filthy, ancient fittings. Shower didn't work for the whole of the summer term. Other guys would regularly pinch my food, never take out bins, never tidy, etc. Caught one of them taking a piss on the landing once...

Next year in York I had a nice house and much better flatmates but two of them brought new definitions to the word "anal". One was so obsessed by cleaning rotas that another guy eventually had him up against a wall telling him he had exams this week and could be possibly clean the cooker next week? Other guy? Well, I moved out at the end of the summer but needed to store some stuff there for a couple of weeks and sleep there one night. This guy said I could use his room (he was staying for another year) but was going home to mummy & daddy. Next thing is I receive an invoice for a month's rent in the post! Cheeky cnut! a) all his shit was still there! b) he wasn't using it anyway c) subletting against terms of contract!

Spent a year in West Norwood. Good flatmates but one was working away all the time and the other was shagging somebody in north London and so was never home. So a very boring year (and cold, no central heating).

Then there was the year I spent in Harlesden. I have tried to erase this from my memory. Lived with a woman who I can only describe as a psychopath, would regularly scream and shout at me and throw my stuff around. I have never been so depressed in my life.

Since then I have vowed to live on my own (at great expense) or with partner. Definitely the way ahead, but shared flats are a rite of passage.

As others have said, sometimes you are lucky, sometimes not. Just try to be laid back about it. There are a lot of unreasonable spoilt bastards especially if you have jsut started university!

[polus]

EmmaP said:

polus said: Good Luck, Glad you got rid of the guy It was a woman off my degree course. It was thirteen years ago.

Oh.. Woops...

[polus]

NiceCupOfTea said:

Blimey, that's brought it all back! Had some awful flatshares when I was a student. There was the flat above a chippy in York, shared with 3 guys I didn't really know from the year above. Most disgusting crappy flat ever, nothing worked, filthy, ancient fittings. Shower didn't work for the whole of the summer term. Other guys would regularly pinch my food, never take out bins, never tidy, etc. Caught one of them taking a piss on the landing once... Next year in York I had a nice house and much better flatmates but two of them brought new definitions to the word "anal". One was so obsessed by cleaning rotas that another guy eventually had him up against a wall telling him he had exams this week and could be possibly clean the cooker next week? Other guy? Well, I moved out at the end of the summer but needed to store some stuff there for a couple of weeks and sleep there one night. This guy said I could use his room (he was staying for another year) but was going home to mummy & daddy. Next thing is I receive an invoice for a month's rent in the post! Cheeky cnut! a) all his shit was still there! b) he wasn't using it anyway c) subletting against terms of contract! Spent a year in West Norwood. Good flatmates but one was working away all the time and the other was shagging somebody in north London and so was never home. So a very boring year (and cold, no central heating). Then there was the year I spent in Harlesden. I have tried to erase this from my memory. Lived with a woman who I can only describe as a psychopath, would regularly scream and shout at me and throw my stuff around. I have never been so depressed in my life. Since then I have vowed to live on my own (at great expense) or with partner. Definitely the way ahead, but shared flats are a rite of passage. As others have said, sometimes you are lucky, sometimes not. Just try to be laid back about it. There are a lot of unreasonable spoilt bastards especially if you have jsut started university!

Im sharing to keep the cost down while Im working (graduated 2 years ago) so I can build my finances up

Ill be moving in with my girlfriend next year

>> Edited by polus on Thursday 1st December 00:26

[Gruffy]

Well, tomorrow I move into my new place. The first tenant to occupy a five bedroom place. I'm apprehensive to say the least.

I've had various flatshares over the last 8 years. Sharing with friends is ok, but every time I've shared with people I didn't previously know it's been absolute hell. Venturing on with an open mind, but if I crossed my fingers any harder I think they'd break.

Gruffy