Decision needed - help
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Hi
Advice needed, but background first:
My door to door commute is 2 hours each way, and this involves a train journey of 1 hour 20 mins. So 4 hours a day, 20 hours a week just getting to work and back. Southampton - London.
People are being made redundant in my department although I have unofficially been told I will be unaffected. Although my role will change significantly once the redundancies has gone through.
I have finally been offered a job much nearer home that should only be 1 hour door to door, train journey approx 30 mins, near Bournemouth.
However the salary is lower but taking account of the difference in cost of rail season tickets I am only £30 down per month which is nothing in the grand scheme of things.
My reason for wanting to move is to cut down on this ludicrous commute, and to spend a little longer with the family during the week. I would probably want to miove for this reason whether or not the redundancies were occuring.
The office is shrinking here in London, and there will be plenty more opportunities at my new potential employer.
When it is written down in black and white I am struggling to think of a reason to stay but wouldn't mind what anyone else thinks.
Has anyone else done anything similiar?
Advice needed, but background first:
My door to door commute is 2 hours each way, and this involves a train journey of 1 hour 20 mins. So 4 hours a day, 20 hours a week just getting to work and back. Southampton - London.
People are being made redundant in my department although I have unofficially been told I will be unaffected. Although my role will change significantly once the redundancies has gone through.
I have finally been offered a job much nearer home that should only be 1 hour door to door, train journey approx 30 mins, near Bournemouth.
However the salary is lower but taking account of the difference in cost of rail season tickets I am only £30 down per month which is nothing in the grand scheme of things.
My reason for wanting to move is to cut down on this ludicrous commute, and to spend a little longer with the family during the week. I would probably want to miove for this reason whether or not the redundancies were occuring.
The office is shrinking here in London, and there will be plenty more opportunities at my new potential employer.
When it is written down in black and white I am struggling to think of a reason to stay but wouldn't mind what anyone else thinks.
Has anyone else done anything similiar?
You've identified that you want more time and that the new job gives it for relatively little loss in wonga.. The only reservation/consideration for me is that, as a new hire, you are easy to sack within 12 months at the new place. Can you afford be job hunting if it doesn't work out and you are given your week of notice?
TurricanII said:
You've identified that you want more time and that the new job gives it for relatively little loss in wonga.. The only reservation/consideration for me is that, as a new hire, you are easy to sack within 12 months at the new place. Can you afford be job hunting if it doesn't work out and you are given your week of notice?
no, not really.I've been thinking about this all day and I am starting to change my mind.
I get paid overtime in my place and in this industry is unheard of. This can net me an extra 10k a year if i really want it.
The thought of being given the boot and looking for a job with two young kids terrifies me, i,ve been there when my dad was made redundant when we kids, terrible time it was and the thought of putting my family through that makes me feel sick.
I have been in london for 10 years, if the worse happened then I would be paid off ok.
Yes the commute is a ball ache, but for some reason i am liked at work and feel wanted, i can provide for my family nicely. I feel reluctant to give this up and go into the unknown for the sake of an hour or so a day.
Is it the done thing to turn down a job when it is offered to you after you applied for it and were successful?
If the new potential employer has employed someone before, then they really should know not to tell the other applicants 'sorry but no' until you have accepted the job. In writing. ETA - and so you should be OK in refusing the job. For all they know, you might have gone for five interviews and been offered five jobs.
You did say that you wanted more time with the family. More money at the current job does not give you more time with the family, so I suggest you will not be happy carrying on at the current job as it is. As a compromise, could you save like a maniac for a few months and cut your expenses to give you a cash cushion to allow you to change jobs?
Also how amenable would your current employer be to you working from home some of the time? If that is possible in your job. This could give you the time with your family as you can do the work later on when the kids are in bed.
You did say that you wanted more time with the family. More money at the current job does not give you more time with the family, so I suggest you will not be happy carrying on at the current job as it is. As a compromise, could you save like a maniac for a few months and cut your expenses to give you a cash cushion to allow you to change jobs?
Also how amenable would your current employer be to you working from home some of the time? If that is possible in your job. This could give you the time with your family as you can do the work later on when the kids are in bed.
This is a challenging scenario that is being played out a hundred times a day by 'super commuters' like yourself. It's complex, but for sake of brevity; have you considered moving closer to your current post? What is your own motivation for work? Is it absolute ambition, or are you more for family time? If it's the former, you will do what it takes to climb the corporate ladder. If it's the latter, then the balance of pay/career over family life pales.
It may also be that you lack confidence in your own capabilities and thus employability; if you're good, likehood is that you will be good anywhere (within your speciality).
To be most effective (at work and at home) you need to be happy and content. If you're not, then have the courage to take (considered) positive corrective action.
Good luck!
It may also be that you lack confidence in your own capabilities and thus employability; if you're good, likehood is that you will be good anywhere (within your speciality).
To be most effective (at work and at home) you need to be happy and content. If you're not, then have the courage to take (considered) positive corrective action.
Good luck!
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