Match.com (Volume 6)
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Matt, as someone who was pretty shy with girls befoe I went to Uni, I can only say stop trying to befriend someone you fancy before asking them out.
If you see someone you fancy and they seem to take (half) an interest in you, thats when you ask them.
I'm trying to be as nice as possible here :-)
Part of the fun in a new relationship is finding new things out about eachother.
When I met my future wife it wa sin her last yeat at Uni.
I had left the year before.
I played team sport 3-4 times a week, from the north, Engineer, loved curries and bitter
She smoked, a southerner, hated team sports, accountancy student, hated curries and only drank lager
I didn't know half of this when I asked her out but it didn't matter.
We compromised....actually I did so no curries or real ale pubs for dates :-)
Over 20 years later and we are very much still together with 3 kids and she still hates curries!
Has that made any impression?
If you see someone you fancy and they seem to take (half) an interest in you, thats when you ask them.
I'm trying to be as nice as possible here :-)
Part of the fun in a new relationship is finding new things out about eachother.
When I met my future wife it wa sin her last yeat at Uni.
I had left the year before.
I played team sport 3-4 times a week, from the north, Engineer, loved curries and bitter
She smoked, a southerner, hated team sports, accountancy student, hated curries and only drank lager
I didn't know half of this when I asked her out but it didn't matter.
We compromised....actually I did so no curries or real ale pubs for dates :-)
Over 20 years later and we are very much still together with 3 kids and she still hates curries!
Has that made any impression?
jdw100 said:
leglessAlex said:
Yeah tonker, how DARE you!
I bet Matt is writing a rock ballad right now about nasty Tonker.Its the final countdown for old Tonks I reckon unless he accepts the winds of change.
if i was leonard cohen
or some others song writing master
i 'd know to first get the oral sex
and then write the song after
you can practise writing songs
about romance every day
but if you haven't loved
then you'll have nothing to say
we could have given each other head
on leonard same unmade bed
but i was too shy to suggest it
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKNXude-qqc
Is it worth creating a different 'lets get matt a girl friend' thread, or shall we just rename this one.
Anyway, you have 2 options;
A) Learn to be more attractive to women. This may involve some/all of the following; changing appearance, mentality, dress-sense, personality etc, to align yourself with what the majority of 23 year old women want.
B) Or wait for someone who loves you as you are. This is easier, but you might have to adjust expectations to match. No doubt there will be some attractive rock chick who will fall head over heels for you, but you might have to wait until you're 40 to meet her.
But please, dont complain that you cant find a girlfriend or a shag if you're not prepared to make yourself more attractive. If you want to choose option A, there is plenty of advice already in this thread on what to change.
Anyway, you have 2 options;
A) Learn to be more attractive to women. This may involve some/all of the following; changing appearance, mentality, dress-sense, personality etc, to align yourself with what the majority of 23 year old women want.
B) Or wait for someone who loves you as you are. This is easier, but you might have to adjust expectations to match. No doubt there will be some attractive rock chick who will fall head over heels for you, but you might have to wait until you're 40 to meet her.
But please, dont complain that you cant find a girlfriend or a shag if you're not prepared to make yourself more attractive. If you want to choose option A, there is plenty of advice already in this thread on what to change.
Can CC be barred from this thread ? Or anyone mentioning him ?
Lets get it back on track, I much prefer reading about how you all have chatted online with a real lady and then they go cold and don't want to meet you, it makes me feel great.
Friends in the UK (London & Notts) that use Match, etc only have good things to report, one is a player and a couple are seriously looking for relationships. They are all out whenever they want to be and only have a couple of bad tales between them.
Lets get it back on track, I much prefer reading about how you all have chatted online with a real lady and then they go cold and don't want to meet you, it makes me feel great.
Friends in the UK (London & Notts) that use Match, etc only have good things to report, one is a player and a couple are seriously looking for relationships. They are all out whenever they want to be and only have a couple of bad tales between them.
GreatGranny said:
Matt, as someone who was pretty shy with girls befoe I went to Uni, I can only say stop trying to befriend someone you fancy before asking them out.
If you see someone you fancy and they seem to take (half) an interest in you, thats when you ask them.
I'm trying to be as nice as possible here :-)
Part of the fun in a new relationship is finding new things out about eachother.
When I met my future wife it wa sin her last yeat at Uni.
I had left the year before.
I played team sport 3-4 times a week, from the north, Engineer, loved curries and bitter
She smoked, a southerner, hated team sports, accountancy student, hated curries and only drank lager
I didn't know half of this when I asked her out but it didn't matter.
We compromised....actually I did so no curries or real ale pubs for dates :-)
Over 20 years later and we are very much still together with 3 kids and she still hates curries!
Has that made any impression?
Befriending... I would say stalking them, after choosing them as a likely girlfriend and staying in the background of the group ticking off the list in a notepad that they like X, Y and Z... after spending several weeks following them and agreeing with all they say and what they do... they think of him as the team Chemist... then after a few more weeks whilst at a party he springs, the following:If you see someone you fancy and they seem to take (half) an interest in you, thats when you ask them.
I'm trying to be as nice as possible here :-)
Part of the fun in a new relationship is finding new things out about eachother.
When I met my future wife it wa sin her last yeat at Uni.
I had left the year before.
I played team sport 3-4 times a week, from the north, Engineer, loved curries and bitter
She smoked, a southerner, hated team sports, accountancy student, hated curries and only drank lager
I didn't know half of this when I asked her out but it didn't matter.
We compromised....actually I did so no curries or real ale pubs for dates :-)
Over 20 years later and we are very much still together with 3 kids and she still hates curries!
Has that made any impression?
"We have so much in common (going through the list), do you want to go on a date?"
They f
king panic and run away.Am I close?
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