The Cancer Kiss off - being dumped after diagnosis

[mikefacel]

Ah, OK

PH'er		donation
Chim		50
mikefacel		20

[mikefacel]

Mobile Chicane said:

Thank you.

You can donate via the email address in my profile.

OK, donation made.

Edited by mikefacel on Friday 21st June 20:17

[Mobile Chicane]

mikefacel said:

Ah, OK

PH'er		donation
Chim		50
mikefacel		20
Mobile Chicane		20

I have set up a PayPal account for donations (see profile) and will handle the admin.

I hope PHers trust me not to run off to Panama, but I'd hope enough know me personally that would not be the case

Edited by Mobile Chicane on Friday 21st June 19:53

[drivin_me_nuts]

indeed we do :-)

[Chim]

drivin_me_nuts said:

indeed we do :-)

Speak for yourself, I'm in the "she'll run off to panama camp"

[Mobile Chicane]

'koff.

[mikefacel]

Sam, I know I've said this before in the original thread, but there's no doubt in my mind that your ex has severe Borderline Personality Disorder. I say this now in case there's anything the lawyers can do to give more reason for your kid to spend more time with you and less with her although getting someone diagnosed with BPD is very difficult, the facts, her behaviour and events lead to that conclusion.

[Kinky]

Guys,

As much as it personally pains me to say this, can we please cease on the request for donations, via this thread and the forums.

Apologies.

K

[Chim]

Kinky said:

Guys,

As much as it personally pains me to say this, can we please cease on the request for donations, via this thread and the forums.

Apologies.

K

Oh come off it Kinky, its always been one of the great things about PH. Helping out a just cause can not surely be frowned upon. Can I take you back to the Emnsman thread, that brought a lot of happiness to a lot of people.

[Kinky]

I agree with you in principle, but rules are rules.

It's not a discussion or debate I'm going to get into, so please lets just let the thread run; but without the voluntary financial requests.

[Mobile Chicane]

Eh?

If there are 'rules' then at least let them be consistently applied: there are fundraising requests all the time on PH.

[Kinky]

Well, I always remove them. So I am being consistent.

So please let this thread run get back on topic.

[Tumbler]

In this case a 'fighting fund' may have an impact on Legal Aid.

[Mobile Chicane]

What about the 'Movember' thread? That ran and ran...

[Kinky]

And I'm not here to discuss the pedantics of what charities PH chooses to support.

I'll be happy to close the thread, or leave it get back on track. I know what I'd rather do, so please let's get it back on track.

[drivin_me_nuts]

... back on track I hope. Forgive me for saying this OP, but I get the impression it very much is a 'lifeline'.

[Chim]

drivin_me_nuts said:

... back on track I hope. Forgive me for saying this OP, but I get the impression it very much is a 'lifeline'.

Exactly, closing this thread would be a travesty, people are only trying to express support and help in any way they can.

Closing this thread would create a lot of pissed of members,

[Mobile Chicane]

drivin_me_nuts said:

... back on track I hope. Forgive me for saying this OP, but I get the impression it very much is a 'lifeline'.

Exactly.

I could set up an 'official' charity, but that will take time, a minimum of three trustees are needed, not to mention the cost of setting up bank accounts.

The thing which impresses me about PH is that it is (or at least was) a 'family'. We look after our own, and do what we can to help those in need.

Kinky, your attitude surprises me, however I'm sure these are not your opinions, merely those of your Corporate Overlords.

A sad day, if we can't use the forum to assist one of our brethren.

Over and out from me - all payments will be processed in aid of Sam. Ya know, the guy that needs our help with legal fees?

[sk7ine man]

I don't know of any other forum, car related or not, with such a wide, diverse collection of people. You guys are right that the charitable nature of members of PH makes it so unique for so many different and often sad causes. I'm not saying this because I want the donations, as I made it clear in the previous thread and this thread that I don't want any donations. Coming out of denial I've realised that maybe it could help as my situation just seems to be getting worse and worse on financial grounds. Tiina so kindly on her own initiative set up a simple account which will be held by her or someone else apart from me for legal reasons. If anything, all you guys that have shown your support, either financial or not, means a heck of a lot to me and it would be a travesty if this thread were closed because of fund raising.

This thread should be kept open irrespective to show the amazing support, effort & advice given to a very real and very difficult situation. It's an example for others to follow and maybe just maybe someone somewhere could take the advice or encouragement and use it to help their own lives.

I'm sorry, my grammar is not very good and I do tend to waffle and not make sense sometimes but I'm just writing as my thoughts come out. I've cried tears of laughter from some epically funny threads and similarly cried tears for some sad threads. What im trying To say is that I've never seen such support and kind hearted gestures given to those in need anywhere else, not behind a keyboard or out In this world. Please don't stop this and ruin something PH has become a source for. Stopping that may one day fail someone in desperate need of what PHers can give, it should be allowed but controlled in a sensible way.

[Slink]

Kinky said:

And I'm not here to discuss the pedantics of what charities PH chooses to support.

so what about the red victor thread, that was on the front page of PH, asking for donations to help rebuild it after it blew the engine up on the strip?

I dont want to get the thread locked so I wont say much more other than I think PH picks and chooses who gets to run donation threads..


right, back on topic.


I really think you do somehow get the money together sam, to fight this evil EX (non human) 'thing'.

I read the original thread on you saying exactly what happened between you, and your EX when she found out you had cancer. I was actually speechless, well and truly speechless, that someone who was 'supposed' to care for you and even have a child with you could even consider this, let alone actually do it. now this is only my opinion, and I dont know all the facts, but I would say she was only with you while you were health, to get to your money, and when there was a chance of you not being around anymore, did the quickest thing to get rid of you, and distance herself.

Might be wrong, but thats my take on it. other than, she is an utterly heartless bh who didnt care for you in the first case, and we are back to my first statement, that she was just after something from you.