Never thought this would happen to me...
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Rude-boy said:
Just out of interest does your work involve or touch on this field?
I only ask as to be honest in the OP’s shoes I think I would have said something very similar, if a little more testily, in response. However you seem quite confident in your view being correct and the manner in which you are expressing it gives a suggestion that you feel you have a better knowledge of the subject in hand than most.
Basically are your views those of Julian64 Doctor/Counsellor/Therapist or Julian64 IT Manager at Jones and Co.?
IIRC, he's a doctor/surgeon type (I think).I only ask as to be honest in the OP’s shoes I think I would have said something very similar, if a little more testily, in response. However you seem quite confident in your view being correct and the manner in which you are expressing it gives a suggestion that you feel you have a better knowledge of the subject in hand than most.
Basically are your views those of Julian64 Doctor/Counsellor/Therapist or Julian64 IT Manager at Jones and Co.?
King Herald said:
Ahem, £3000 a MONTH in school fees????? Why not put the kids in normal schools and live a normal life. I'm pretty sure you would feel and be a lot more relaxed and easy to live with without having to stump up all that cabbage every month.
Definitely agree with this. Ridiculous amount of money to pay. sparks_E39 said:
King Herald said:
Ahem, £3000 a MONTH in school fees????? Why not put the kids in normal schools and live a normal life. I'm pretty sure you would feel and be a lot more relaxed and easy to live with without having to stump up all that cabbage every month.
Definitely agree with this. Ridiculous amount of money to pay. No kid of mine would be seen dead at a £3k a month school. Pffft.
The shame!
GTIR said:
sparks_E39 said:
King Herald said:
Ahem, £3000 a MONTH in school fees????? Why not put the kids in normal schools and live a normal life. I'm pretty sure you would feel and be a lot more relaxed and easy to live with without having to stump up all that cabbage every month.
Definitely agree with this. Ridiculous amount of money to pay. No kid of mine would be seen dead at a £3k a month school. Pffft.
The shame!
Remember this thread? So here's a brief update for anyone interested... (Good therapy for me too). My house sold today. Divorce papers submitted. Agreed alimony pending consent order. Found a house to move to and hope to complete early Jan. Wife moving to rented with the kids. I get them every other weekend plus Wednesdays. Have a girlfriend (completely unexpected) and am very keen. Lost over 4 stone in weight. Now feeling really good about myself again and sporting a 30" waist after nipping in at 40" at the time my wife said she wanted to leave me back in April. Been climbing mountains in the US and keeping my hand in in wales and Lake District too (broke my arm two weeks ago on a mountain so will make moving house a challenge in a couple of weeks).
I tell you....I'm actually smiling and looking forward to my future. Very strange to say that because it was looking pretty s
te a few months back. Just really really apprehensive about not having the kids with me every day.....that's the only dark cloud but I guess I'll just get used yo the 'new normal'.
I tell you....I'm actually smiling and looking forward to my future. Very strange to say that because it was looking pretty s
te a few months back. Just really really apprehensive about not having the kids with me every day.....that's the only dark cloud but I guess I'll just get used yo the 'new normal'. 
. Good for you matey.dondan said:
I only read the first post in the thread, and the last...
Same here. Glad that the past 8 months haven't turned you against all women, as does seem to be the case too often on the more Mumsnetty threads here...! Glad things are looking up - sounds like 2014 could be a great year.SWAT78 said:
Same here. Glad that the past 8 months haven't turned you against all women, as does seem to be the case too often on the more Mumsnetty threads here...! Glad things are looking up - sounds like 2014 could be a great year.
Thanks. Just need to keep an eye on the kids and make sure all this doesn't impact them mentally too much. They seem okay at the moment but the big move out hasn't happened yet. That's to come in January. You'll soon get used to the new normal. Your children will even quicker, much more resilient and receptive to change than you'll ever imagine. Make sure you get the access and quality time for the kids to spend proper time with their dad, that is all the stability they'll neeed for a bright future.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Glad to see things are on the up.
It's amazing how many threads pop up on PH about this...yes, same happened to me in July 2012.
She couldn't get me out of the house quick enough, she wanted to get on with her new life etc. I bought my own house in September 2012.
Initially OH denied any one else involved, then she let it slip in a conversation. I had been reading some of her texts, not pleasant reading but it helped me deal with it.
Anyway, I divorced her earlier this year, did the internet dating thing, happily in another relationship.
It's amazing how many threads pop up on PH about this...yes, same happened to me in July 2012.
She couldn't get me out of the house quick enough, she wanted to get on with her new life etc. I bought my own house in September 2012.
Initially OH denied any one else involved, then she let it slip in a conversation. I had been reading some of her texts, not pleasant reading but it helped me deal with it.
Anyway, I divorced her earlier this year, did the internet dating thing, happily in another relationship.
Why does everyone who breaks up always find the woman of their dreams..........apart from me that is. A mate of mine has just gone very public on Facebook about him and his wife breaking up after 21 years together. She was having an affair, I think for a long time, so he feels very bitter and depressed.
All the comments are from mates who have gone through similar but are saying it all comes good in the end and have all found nicer, better women to share their lives with. I'm talking guys in their 40s to late 50s.
I've posted my commiserations but obviously haven't put that even tho' it happened to me 5 years ago, after 15 years of being together, getting married and having kids, I'm still miserable, stuck with the kids and semi looking after ex-wife as she battles with cancer.
Oh! OP! good to hear and have a great Christmas
and don't mind me.
All the comments are from mates who have gone through similar but are saying it all comes good in the end and have all found nicer, better women to share their lives with. I'm talking guys in their 40s to late 50s.
I've posted my commiserations but obviously haven't put that even tho' it happened to me 5 years ago, after 15 years of being together, getting married and having kids, I'm still miserable, stuck with the kids and semi looking after ex-wife as she battles with cancer.
Oh! OP! good to hear and have a great Christmas
and don't mind me.Croyde,
Perhaps it is because you have not gone on the long walk to freedom yet but are still looking after your wife in her time of need. Your time will come and you will know if any new lady is worthy of you by their reaction to hearing about what you have done/are doing for your ex, which speaks volumes about the sort of person you are deep down. (unless she is well loaded init
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Perhaps it is because you have not gone on the long walk to freedom yet but are still looking after your wife in her time of need. Your time will come and you will know if any new lady is worthy of you by their reaction to hearing about what you have done/are doing for your ex, which speaks volumes about the sort of person you are deep down. (unless she is well loaded init
)croyde said:
.....I'm still miserable, stuck with the kids and semi looking after ex-wife as she battles with cancer.
There are obviously loads of snippets we are not privy too, but if your wife, or her behaviours, initiated the split up of the once happy marriage, I'd baffled why you have burdened yourself with looking after her???You obviously won't be happy until you HAVE moved on.
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