Guys and crying....
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Mr_annie_vxr said:
Burying all your emotions in my experience can be detrimental to your mental health long term.
Then on top of that the constant threat they were under, IED risk, risk of snipers and the knowledge that they were never safe, the IRA would happily kill them in their bed.
Every single one I know that used to bottle up their emotions has had a breakdown, suffers from PTSD, or has been alcoholic or all three.
Cotty said:
Yep watched it. I'm welling up but not for the reason you think.That You Tube clip is probably the most disgusting example of twisted, cynical Government sponsored propaganda that I have seen in a long while.
In particular, the Airport shot at the start? Absolute filth. And I don't mean that in the usual PH way.
HTH
My g/f described the reaction of the Ironman competitors to Team True spirit brought me right to the edge, and I feel no shame in admitting that.
The respect from competitors toward those showing incredible courage in both the service of this country and their determination to overcome adversity should raise emotion in anyone.
Team True Spirit
As they approached the start line, all the crowd and other competitors parted and shepherded them through to the front, and allowing them to start first, together with a standing ovation. Bugger the competition, these guys were given the respect they deserved.
The respect from competitors toward those showing incredible courage in both the service of this country and their determination to overcome adversity should raise emotion in anyone.
Team True Spirit
As they approached the start line, all the crowd and other competitors parted and shepherded them through to the front, and allowing them to start first, together with a standing ovation. Bugger the competition, these guys were given the respect they deserved.
TVR1 said:
Yep watched it. I'm welling up but not for the reason you think.
That You Tube clip is probably the most disgusting example of twisted, cynical Government sponsored propaganda that I have seen in a long while.
In particular, the Airport shot at the start? Absolute filth. And I don't mean that in the usual PH way.
HTH
Propaganda yes- but the joy on those kiddies faces still shines. Would be very moving if it wasn't a blatant PR exercise!That You Tube clip is probably the most disgusting example of twisted, cynical Government sponsored propaganda that I have seen in a long while.
In particular, the Airport shot at the start? Absolute filth. And I don't mean that in the usual PH way.
HTH
This 'soldier homecoming' is better...but makes you smile more than sad: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysKAVyXi0J4&fea...
Mr_annie_vxr said:
<snip> Work? First time was looking at the little boy dying in the road at my first fatal.
I really do not know how you deal with that.Just over a year ago I was the second person to arrive at a nasty road accident. I found a man and a woman, both flat on their backs, laid out behind a car that had just hit them. Both of them were obviously seriously injured. The woman asked me [and this is fu*king difficult to write] if her children were OK.
I could only see *one* child - who was underneath the car - and the car was at an alarming angle. The car could have slid down at any time and crushed the child.
I remember telling the woman that there was only *one* child, and that she was obviously mistaken. She screamed that there were two children. The only place that there could have been another child was under the sump. However, there was not any space between the sump and the ground.
I ran back to my house to get a torch. We used the torch to find the 3 year old in the hedge.
It took 6 days before I was able to drive to the bottom of the street without seeing that woman's face.
On the sixth day I learned what post traumatic stress was.
I have an enormous respect for those people who attend accidents.
Don
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I cried at download festival this year. Sat on the ground surrounded by thousands of people. I put it down to being very hungover from the night before and recent troubles with my long time girlfriend. Anyway, I managed to hold myself together for the most part until two of my best mates told me they were there for me etc etc and I started bawling like a bairn.
Before that I dont remember the last time I cried.
Before that I dont remember the last time I cried.
NismoGT said:
If you think i'm a t
t for crying? You can go fk yourself.
Absolutely. All this "it's not done" macho st for crying? You can go fk yourself.t is pure bks really. We are all human and have emotions and that isn't really arguable. It doesn't mean I'm less of a man, I don't cry often (last time properly was 6 years ago regarding my above post) to be honest as stuff like sad films or music doesn't get to me, but I'm not embarrassed when I do.LukeSi said:
If you want a good cry watch Marley and Me. It is especially sad if you have dog/s / pet/s.
Only film I've ever misted up at 
The only thing in the last few years that has made me cry (a few times) is when it hits me with my nan; I was always very, very close to her growing up. She has Alzheimer's now, I'm over there caring for her most days of the week. It does get to me sometimes.
I tend not to wear my heart on my sleeve. Usually I'm able to laugh at anything, it's my way of dealing with anything, but this is the only thing that really deeply gets to me
I cried for days when my mum died. I cried when I mentioned her in my wedding speech last year. I cried for days when a girlfriend died. I have cried whenever a dog of mine has died. I don't accept that any of this shows any weakness at all. I cried the first time I saw "Life is Beautiful". That was a bit of a surprise and fairly embarrassing, but resulted in me having brilliant sex with the girl I had taken to see it!
A good friend of mine had as his facebook status for a day or so:
Did you know you can prevent yourself from crying when cutting an onion by chewing gum? And you can prevent yourself from crying in any other situation by not being such a little bh.
I did chuckle, and asked him what I should do when I cry at chick flicks.
Seriously, I'm of the opinion that repressing feelings in order to try to appear stronger/more manly is old fashioned testosterone fueled man nonsense. I could even suggest it points toward an insecurity...
Did you know you can prevent yourself from crying when cutting an onion by chewing gum? And you can prevent yourself from crying in any other situation by not being such a little b
h.I did chuckle, and asked him what I should do when I cry at chick flicks.
Seriously, I'm of the opinion that repressing feelings in order to try to appear stronger/more manly is old fashioned testosterone fueled man nonsense. I could even suggest it points toward an insecurity...
CarlT said:
I cried when our poor doggie died a few months back, didnt cry at my Nans funeral (go figure)...
Ahhh so I'm not the only one?perhaps in my case it was due to the fact that the dog showed a decade of un-flinching loyalty and devotion, yet the grandmother saw me once a month for about 20years due to her being cold/heartless/too wrapped up in her own world.
(that said, sending-off the other grandmother, nearly killed me. Since she'd practically raised me, before a 10year stint of alzheimers destroying her financially, mentally and then phsyically)
I last cried on February 8th when I sat, working from home, and realised that it would have been my Dad's birthday if he hadn't died 19 years ago when I was 15 - what tipped me over the edge was that I couldn't really remember what he looked like or what his voice sounded like.
Still makes me sad now
Still makes me sad now
LukeSi said:
If you want a good cry watch Marley and Me. It is especially sad if you have dog/s / pet/s.
Funny you should say that - me & her watched this at the weekend for the first time. Was obvious what was going to happen, but the bit which tipped me over was when he walked up through the cornfield with the dog and the dog couldn't quite make it up the hill. Exactly what happened with my old pooch about 15 years ago, and I thought I was completely over that - but....!!!C8PPO said:
LukeSi said:
If you want a good cry watch Marley and Me. It is especially sad if you have dog/s / pet/s.
Funny you should say that - me & her watched this at the weekend for the first time. Was obvious what was going to happen, but the bit which tipped me over was when he walked up through the cornfield with the dog and the dog couldn't quite make it up the hill. Exactly what happened with my old pooch about 15 years ago, and I thought I was completely over that - but....!!!Cotty said:
I was watching that when something extremely large and irritating lodged itself in my eye. Propaganda or not the joy of the children and family is genuine, I think it is human to get moved by something like that, I couldn't give a flying fk if some pseudo macho-man thinks I am somehow inferior because I have emotions.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff