Dodging Rounds
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When it is my round I use my 50p off a pint CAMRA vouchers in Wetherspoons
Look after the pennies....
To be fair if anyone else is buying I always give them the vouchers to use as well.
There is no chance someone would shy out of a round amongst my friends, they would be made to buy 2 for even trying.
A kitty is a fairly easy way (albeit girly) of doing things if you are all on pints and you can find someone to look after it.
Look after the pennies....
To be fair if anyone else is buying I always give them the vouchers to use as well.
There is no chance someone would shy out of a round amongst my friends, they would be made to buy 2 for even trying.
A kitty is a fairly easy way (albeit girly) of doing things if you are all on pints and you can find someone to look after it.
Does this count as round dodging?
Our team tends to have a get together every few months. For the last few times now, I've not been given the opportunity to buy a round.
Two of my colleagues in particular are already bickering about getting the first round before we even get anywhere. Then another chap insists on getting drinks before you are even ready for the next, often with a fresh pint appearing in front of you after only having taken a few sips on the last (not helped by him drinking pints twice as fast as everyone else).
And another then gets properly pissed and starts forking out on expensive shots and refuses to let anyone else chip in.
I've only managed to get a round in once, and that was simply because i arrived before anyone else!
Our team tends to have a get together every few months. For the last few times now, I've not been given the opportunity to buy a round.
Two of my colleagues in particular are already bickering about getting the first round before we even get anywhere. Then another chap insists on getting drinks before you are even ready for the next, often with a fresh pint appearing in front of you after only having taken a few sips on the last (not helped by him drinking pints twice as fast as everyone else).
And another then gets properly pissed and starts forking out on expensive shots and refuses to let anyone else chip in.
I've only managed to get a round in once, and that was simply because i arrived before anyone else!
littlebasher said:
Does this count as round dodging?
Not really - it just works out like that sometimes. The thing is, if you go out multiple times, it will even out. Some nights you'll buy more, some nights less.It's the blatant piss-takers who intentionally dodge (or at least try to) every time that this thread is about.
The thing that I like about stories like this is the reaction of various dodgers and group members when someone is called out. When I was an apprentice I started going out with the guys around town. One of the older guys was famous for dodging rounds and after a few nights I noticed and said something to a pal. He just laughed and said he had always been the same and it had gone on for so long that nobody said anything. On my round I asked for the order, went to the bar and ordered it and said "come on John get your hand in your pocket it's about time you stood your corner"
I expected everyone to laugh/cheer/look embarrassed but they all just looked in shock. The guy in question put his glass down and walked out. No one spoke to me for ages so I made my excuses and left. The following Monday at work no one mentioned it either.
I'd obviously broken some unspoken rule but I felt really awkward. The guy left not long after but I don't think that was down to me!
I expected everyone to laugh/cheer/look embarrassed but they all just looked in shock. The guy in question put his glass down and walked out. No one spoke to me for ages so I made my excuses and left. The following Monday at work no one mentioned it either.
I'd obviously broken some unspoken rule but I felt really awkward. The guy left not long after but I don't think that was down to me!
On a similar theme i used to work with a girl who with her boyfriend bought their first house together and decided to invite another couple over for an evening meal.
Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
They would also come out to gatherings in restaurants to celebrate someones birthday but not have a meal. Then if any leftovers were offered would sit and pick at them!
My problem was the opposite when we all used to go out from work. After several beers i was too generous but started to notice that wallets and purses swiftly dissappeared as soon as i approached the bar. I eventaully wised up but dread to think what i used to spend on nights out.
Funny thing is though, as i'm fairly money conscious and talk about the value of items and getting value for money, etc. alot of people call me tight when the opposite is true.
Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
They would also come out to gatherings in restaurants to celebrate someones birthday but not have a meal. Then if any leftovers were offered would sit and pick at them!
My problem was the opposite when we all used to go out from work. After several beers i was too generous but started to notice that wallets and purses swiftly dissappeared as soon as i approached the bar. I eventaully wised up but dread to think what i used to spend on nights out.
Funny thing is though, as i'm fairly money conscious and talk about the value of items and getting value for money, etc. alot of people call me tight when the opposite is true.
Kwackersaki said:
On a similar theme i used to work with a girl who with her boyfriend bought their first house together and decided to invite another couple over for an evening meal.
Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
Excellent - the moment would have been excruciating when they produced 'the bill'!Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
Vocal Minority said:
Kwackersaki said:
On a similar theme i used to work with a girl who with her boyfriend bought their first house together and decided to invite another couple over for an evening meal.
Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
Excellent - the moment would have been excruciating when they produced 'the bill'!Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
littlebasher said:
Does this count as round dodging?
Our team tends to have a get together every few months. For the last few times now, I've not been given the opportunity to buy a round.
Two of my colleagues in particular are already bickering about getting the first round before we even get anywhere. Then another chap insists on getting drinks before you are even ready for the next, often with a fresh pint appearing in front of you after only having taken a few sips on the last (not helped by him drinking pints twice as fast as everyone else).
And another then gets properly pissed and starts forking out on expensive shots and refuses to let anyone else chip in.
I've only managed to get a round in once, and that was simply because i arrived before anyone else!
Got any vacancies? Our team tends to have a get together every few months. For the last few times now, I've not been given the opportunity to buy a round.
Two of my colleagues in particular are already bickering about getting the first round before we even get anywhere. Then another chap insists on getting drinks before you are even ready for the next, often with a fresh pint appearing in front of you after only having taken a few sips on the last (not helped by him drinking pints twice as fast as everyone else).
And another then gets properly pissed and starts forking out on expensive shots and refuses to let anyone else chip in.
I've only managed to get a round in once, and that was simply because i arrived before anyone else!
p1stonhead said:
Vocal Minority said:
Kwackersaki said:
On a similar theme i used to work with a girl who with her boyfriend bought their first house together and decided to invite another couple over for an evening meal.
Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
Excellent - the moment would have been excruciating when they produced 'the bill'!Said girl came into the office a few days before and was asking us what they should charge the invitees for the food!! We had to explain that wasn't the done thing.
The best of it was they weren't exactly skint, both having good jobs and the guys dad had given them a hefty deposit for the house so they only had a very small mortgage.
They accounted for every penny they spent, even going as far as writing it all down in a book at the end of the day! WTF.
Shnozz said:
Interesting thread this to read of other people's experiences and frustrations. No real judgement on it but find it interesting what an emotive subject to is, more so to some than others.
One thing that bothers me is the sense of entitlement that can sit with some people in these circumstances. I witness many occasions whereby its almost viewed as automatic that someone who is present but less wealthy, female or considered more junior expect them to be paid for. No appreciation or thanks for it, just expectation. I am not talking about dates or work events whereby the participants are invited to attend, but social events where they have invited themselves. The idea of me rocking up to something expecting someone else to fund it is beyond me. If I couldn't afford an event I wouldn't go rather than expect a subsidy.
My wife's sister and aunt both do that. You get to the end of the meal and there isn't even the slightest indication that they might be inclined to pay their share.One thing that bothers me is the sense of entitlement that can sit with some people in these circumstances. I witness many occasions whereby its almost viewed as automatic that someone who is present but less wealthy, female or considered more junior expect them to be paid for. No appreciation or thanks for it, just expectation. I am not talking about dates or work events whereby the participants are invited to attend, but social events where they have invited themselves. The idea of me rocking up to something expecting someone else to fund it is beyond me. If I couldn't afford an event I wouldn't go rather than expect a subsidy.
There's no embarrassment, they just don't expect to pay anything.
I know someone like this and has turned her husband into one too over the last couple of years.
A classic was going out for my wife's birthday, she (my wife) invites her friends plus family's, with an average of 2 kids on tow, the restaurant has the usual kids option for 5-6 quid, obviously the bills going to be spit between adults, at this point she had no kids.
Well I'm sure she had no need to worry, but blimey she was squirming from the second she sat down, (my wife pointed this out as it proved to be quite an amusing distraction from a bunch of spaghetti chucking kids) as the bill was presented she slammed down 2 tenners (which didn't even cover their share..funnily enough) and ran off, as "we don't want to stay longer because the parking charge will go up another 3 pounds"
Those that heard her were just confused, I'm pretty sure that she was of the opinion that was a pretty good excuse to leave.
And I was left to cover the shortfall.
She doesn't drink, and I'm 99% sure the reason is because she can't face putting her hand in her purse, or her husbands wallet.
A classic was going out for my wife's birthday, she (my wife) invites her friends plus family's, with an average of 2 kids on tow, the restaurant has the usual kids option for 5-6 quid, obviously the bills going to be spit between adults, at this point she had no kids.
Well I'm sure she had no need to worry, but blimey she was squirming from the second she sat down, (my wife pointed this out as it proved to be quite an amusing distraction from a bunch of spaghetti chucking kids) as the bill was presented she slammed down 2 tenners (which didn't even cover their share..funnily enough) and ran off, as "we don't want to stay longer because the parking charge will go up another 3 pounds"
Those that heard her were just confused, I'm pretty sure that she was of the opinion that was a pretty good excuse to leave.
And I was left to cover the shortfall.
She doesn't drink, and I'm 99% sure the reason is because she can't face putting her hand in her purse, or her husbands wallet.
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