Guys and crying....

[Pesty]

Slinky said:

I'd like to know your reasons for disagreeing, if you don't mind sharing that is..

I preety much said why in my first post. also I don't like to see it so I would be a hypocrit* if I did it. I realise this makes me some kind of monster thought criminal.

who knows perhaps there may be something that sets me off I doubt it and if there is I am sure I will be able to stop myself. I just don't have those kind of feelings ( or have not yet since being small and I'm 40 so seen my share of things that have made others cry).

I porbably have some kind of syndrome

[HOGEPH]

I cried at the end of the film "Awakenings". Fortunately, so did a lot of other blokes in the cinema.

Proper cried when I buried one of my cats in Oct. Cried a bit when I had to send one of my cats back to Cats Protection.

[sneijder]

When my daughter was born, I wasn't able to stay over due to which ever flu scare it was at the time, so I drove home.

I had to pull over half way home, as my eyes were really runny due to dust, road pollution and pollen. The pollen also caused a bizarre side effect. I called my mother and blubbed down the phone 'This is the happiest moment of my life, nothing has ever meant anything until now >dramatic pause< grandma.'

[Slinky]

Pesty said:

I preety much said why in my first post. also I don't like to see it so I would be a hypocrit* if I did it. I realise this makes me some kind of monster thought criminal.

who knows perhaps there may be something that sets me off I doubt it and if there is I am sure I will be able to stop myself. I just don't have those kind of feelings ( or have not yet since being small and I'm 40 so seen my share of things that have made others cry).

I porbably have some kind of syndrome

Not at all, I just wanted to understand your point of view...

You see I find it rather emotionally overwhelming to feel that I need to say sorry to my disabled daughter, that's what last made me cry, in company..

[Pesty]

I watched both my daughters being born. Just sat there like a lemmon then went home when they told me to ps off and IIRC got pissed off with everybody making a fuss phone calls etc etc

Too many bangs on the head maybe when small. My girls are my world. Didn't see what all the fuss was about when they were born though. I realise this will be taken as internet hard man post but thats how it was.

[scannellski]

FFS! all you PH keyboard hardmen! "I'd never cry and haven't since i was 12" bks.

In this day and age, it is perfectly acceptable for a man to cry, as long as you follow these 4 simple rules:

1. There are no more than 2 of you in the room.
2. You are both male.
3. The other man is your dad.
4. One of you is dead.

Easy really.

[Y282]

i'm getting worse these days. never used to but i can go at the drop of a hat nowadays.

see, now i've just remembered the end of watership down. i'm bloody off again.

[GroundEffect]

Pesty said:

Don't do it.
Ever

serves no purpose makes you look a tt

All my opinion you may dissagree

Neither does laughing, or smiling, or frowning...it's an emotional response that you don't have a huge amount of control over.

It's completely ridiculous to tell someone to never cry. And such an old-fart way to look at gender roles.

[Hackney]

At the end of Field of Dreams. It is allowed.

TBH I well up (rather than cry) a lot more than I used to. Not sure of the exact timing but if you pushed me on it I'd say it was roughly since my dad died.

Actually a lot of "sport" films get me.

[Pesty]

Slinky said:

Not at all, I just wanted to understand your point of view...

You see I find it rather emotionally overwhelming to feel that I need to say sorry to my disabled daughter, that's what last made me cry, in company..

You have my sypmpaties. I do have feelings but they just don't seem to lead to tears.

You have just jogged my memmory though something that made me well up but I managed to stop myself it was over very quickly, thats the closest I have been and I would not have got that far in company.
It was a tv programme about a man who's wife died of cancer and his daughter hurt during birth she was almost fully dissabled but had a fully functioning brain. She was talking to her dad asking him to never leave her at about the age of 13.

Perhaps that would tip me over if I was there or it was somebody I knew but I would leave and do it in private.

Again this is just me and I would never hold it against anybody even if I don't like to see it.

Ps my first post was too flippant and done quickly without too much thought. These says people seem to cry for all sorts of reasons like going on reality tv shows etc etc thats what I was thinking about when I wrote that.


I have been to all my grandparents funerals. they never set me off I don't know why, the week my grandmother died she phoned the landline every day and begged me to talk to her. I never answer the landline (yes I am wierd) we got the messages after she had passed.
Still wasn't enough. even though the answer machine service confused her so she thought i was talking to her and then kept asking why I wasnt speaking because she knew I was there.

GroundEffect said:

It's completely ridiculous to tell someone to never cry. And such an old-fart way to look at gender roles.

well I am an old fart and glad of it sometimes yes I am a dinosaur. You are correect though I was wrong its not up to me to tell others how to live their lives or give them rules to live by.

Edited by Pesty on Wednesday 3rd August 23:32

[MrChips]

Last time was at the funeral of a good friend from uni. I'd lost touch with him and only found out he'd been battling cancer after it was too late. Made a 450mile round trip to the service and was ok for the most part.
Right up until they played "one day like this" by elbow and asked us all to just listen. For some reason it just set me off knowing that the order of the service was all his choice, down to the speakers and the timings. Must've been so st it's unimaginable.
RIP you Ginger welsh bd.

[MrChips]

[anonymous-user]

Whenever you need to do it to, if you think it would make others uncomfortable then take yourself off somewhere private. It's a normal natural healthy emotion, one that for some reason society thinks we should coach out of the male population after infant hood which is quite rankly riduculous.

[dvance]

EDIT: Ooops, replied waaaay too late

[Pesty]

dvance said:

EDIT: Ooops, replied waaaay too late

Its been emotional

[davepoth]

I may have cried a little at the end of Toy Story 3. But it was probably a bit of grit in my eye.

[crackthatoff]

I cried when my grandad died, I cried when my daughter was born, I also sometimes shed a tear when I'm pissed as a fart and emotional...... I'ts fine and in my opinion makes a bloke a bigger man....... let another man tell me otherwise in the midst of it..... I dare thee!

[sebhaque]

I get a bit weepy on my old best friends' death anniveraries (unrelated deaths, heart failure and cancer). When I visit their graves, the waterworks come out).

Other than that, I very rarely shed tears that aren't laughter. Although I did get a bit teary when I drove away from my Impreza for the last time. Didn't cry, but definitely got a bit misty. My OH at the time couldn't hold back the tears and was in floods. Very interesting first drive in the VX.

[JuniorD]

[Mobsta]

Pesty said:

Don't do it.
Ever

serves no purpose makes you look a tt

All my opinion you may dissagree

I've been told by women I know well and women I don't, that I'm generally speaking attractive to women.

If I ever do cry, and 50% of the time I do if a pet dies, I'm told not to hide it as it makes me attractive.

I don't find crying women attractive but in my experience women (the ones I've been out with) seem to like to see or know that side of me exists.

Why hide what is there, let it out like a man. And be done with it.