Make a big life decision for me
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Muzzer79 said:
Using this logic, you've gone from seeing your wife briefly for a couple of days during this two week period, because of your massive commute, to not seeing her at all for 3 nights over this two week period because you're staying over to avoid the massive commute?
Not worth it for that money.
It would mean i'm never doing the 3 hours more than once in a day - which I assumed would be a good thing, not being completely knackered to do anything once i'm home.Not worth it for that money.
Not enough money to cover the time. Work out your hourly rate at the moment.. Then work out what it is including the time for travel. is it still 'worth it'. Then factor in the things you do now that you can't/won't be able to do and ask yourself the same question. is it still worth it?
it's only money and you cannot buy back time.
it's only money and you cannot buy back time.
If you were single then I would consider it, but with your wife and young boy, I would say no.
Even though the commute isnt a daily thing all the nights in the hotel will get lonely without them around. It would be a big undertaking for your wife having to look after the child single handed while you are away. Have you asked her what she thinks?
Even though the commute isnt a daily thing all the nights in the hotel will get lonely without them around. It would be a big undertaking for your wife having to look after the child single handed while you are away. Have you asked her what she thinks?
advicedout said:
Is an average of 9 hours a week travelling so bad?
Am I right in thinking a lot of responses on here are on the basis that the commute will be daily?
Maybe my maths is pants but you said in your OP it was 5 days in the office over 2 weeks.Am I right in thinking a lot of responses on here are on the basis that the commute will be daily?
6 hours a day travelling for each working day means a total of 30 hours commuting time for those 5 days.
You're doing that for half of a 2 week period, so it means an average of 15 hours per week commuting?
In any case, it's the time that the commute robs relative to your home life.
10 hours a week commuting 1 hour each way every day, for example, is fine.
10 hours commuting over 2 days, for example, means you're out of the picture for 2 full days a week (more or less)
This has a significant effect on your home life, even if you are at home the rest of the time.
advicedout said:
I'd still feel it's physically doable - i'm 28. But looking at the responses on here, don't think i've fully considered the effect it'll have on my home life.
Indeed. I guarantee that your wife and child already think they don't see enough of you as it is. Now picture that time being even less and you're also too tired at the weekends/evenings to go to the park/playzone/swimming pool etc with the small person and you have no energy left to work on your relationship with your wife. CinnamonFan said:
If you were single then I would consider it, but with your wife and young boy, I would say no.
Even though the commute isnt a daily thing all the nights in the hotel will get lonely without them around. It would be a big undertaking for your wife having to look after the child single handed while you are away. Have you asked her what she thinks?
She actually doesn't mind. She hasn't gone back to work since the baby, so is a full time mummy right now. Even though the commute isnt a daily thing all the nights in the hotel will get lonely without them around. It would be a big undertaking for your wife having to look after the child single handed while you are away. Have you asked her what she thinks?
Muzzer79 said:
Maybe my maths is pants but you said in your OP it was 5 days in the office over 2 weeks.
6 hours a day travelling for each working day means a total of 30 hours commuting time for those 5 days.
You're doing that for half of a 2 week period, so it means an average of 15 hours per week commuting?
In any case, it's the time that the commute robs relative to your home life.
10 hours a week commuting 1 hour each way every day, for example, is fine.
10 hours commuting over 2 days, for example, means you're out of the picture for 2 full days a week (more or less)
This has a significant effect on your home life, even if you are at home the rest of the time.
I think it's 3 hours to London each way but he'd be staying in hotels while he's there6 hours a day travelling for each working day means a total of 30 hours commuting time for those 5 days.
You're doing that for half of a 2 week period, so it means an average of 15 hours per week commuting?
In any case, it's the time that the commute robs relative to your home life.
10 hours a week commuting 1 hour each way every day, for example, is fine.
10 hours commuting over 2 days, for example, means you're out of the picture for 2 full days a week (more or less)
This has a significant effect on your home life, even if you are at home the rest of the time.
Jimmy Recard said:
Muzzer79 said:
Maybe my maths is pants but you said in your OP it was 5 days in the office over 2 weeks.
6 hours a day travelling for each working day means a total of 30 hours commuting time for those 5 days.
You're doing that for half of a 2 week period, so it means an average of 15 hours per week commuting?
In any case, it's the time that the commute robs relative to your home life.
10 hours a week commuting 1 hour each way every day, for example, is fine.
10 hours commuting over 2 days, for example, means you're out of the picture for 2 full days a week (more or less)
This has a significant effect on your home life, even if you are at home the rest of the time.
I think it's 3 hours to London each way but he'd be staying in hotels while he's there6 hours a day travelling for each working day means a total of 30 hours commuting time for those 5 days.
You're doing that for half of a 2 week period, so it means an average of 15 hours per week commuting?
In any case, it's the time that the commute robs relative to your home life.
10 hours a week commuting 1 hour each way every day, for example, is fine.
10 hours commuting over 2 days, for example, means you're out of the picture for 2 full days a week (more or less)
This has a significant effect on your home life, even if you are at home the rest of the time.
Muzzer79 said:
Maybe my maths is pants but you said in your OP it was 5 days in the office over 2 weeks.
6 hours a day travelling for each working day means a total of 30 hours commuting time for those 5 days.
You're doing that for half of a 2 week period, so it means an average of 15 hours per week commuting?
In any case, it's the time that the commute robs relative to your home life.
10 hours a week commuting 1 hour each way every day, for example, is fine.
10 hours commuting over 2 days, for example, means you're out of the picture for 2 full days a week (more or less)
This has a significant effect on your home life, even if you are at home the rest of the time.
Your maths is fine. But there is an option of staying over whenever I need. So I would plan to stay over twice to cover those 5 days. i.e Week 1 - travel Monday, stay in a hotel, come back Tuesday. Travel and come back Thursday. Week 2 - Travel Tuesday, come back Wednesday. So 5 days done, and only 18 hours spent travelling. therefore 9 hours per week.6 hours a day travelling for each working day means a total of 30 hours commuting time for those 5 days.
You're doing that for half of a 2 week period, so it means an average of 15 hours per week commuting?
In any case, it's the time that the commute robs relative to your home life.
10 hours a week commuting 1 hour each way every day, for example, is fine.
10 hours commuting over 2 days, for example, means you're out of the picture for 2 full days a week (more or less)
This has a significant effect on your home life, even if you are at home the rest of the time.
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