Match.com (Volume 6)
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Tiggsy said:
The ones you describe (and yes, i get thats 90% of PH!) did not get their partner of the back of holding up a photo next to 10,000 other guys and saying "pick me"
Indeed. Especially when that photo is of you in a cowboy hat nerding on a flight simulator. ChemicalChaos said:
There are a few genuinely attractive, sane-looking and sensible sounding girls on there with similar interests.....
The problem with this is that attractive, sane, sensible girls are not in your league. They are looking for attractive, sane, sensible guys. Swipe right on some fatties is my advice.
ChemicalChaos said:
That's all very well and good for people who have a good physique naturally, but when one is cursed with a slow metabolism and a love of fine dining, along with a science degree and lack of money that makes long gym sessions impossible.... then what?
Such nonsense.....dont eat rubbish, workout at home. You want to sleep with hot women, be hot back.Its so simple it hurts.
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+1 tonkerGoing to the gym saves me money, means I can't get pissed the night before which actually puts me in profit. Get down there 3 times a week and you'll not only look better but feel allot better too.
Not sure how you can be skint and love fine dining, maybe skint because you spend your money on fine dining. Bulk cook your food and you can spend £30 a week on eating.
If you can't afford the gym then go jogging, but if you can't afford £40 a month for a gym subscription then you may struggle to afford to take a lady out for a drink.
Regarding the profile do not say you are a scientist, I'm a programmer but when asked I always say I work in finance (which is also true). If they try digging and deeper then I just say talking about work is boring, so what do you do for fun!?
It's not a CV it's a dating profile.
You do need to sort your wordrobe out, sure you've got some female friends to help you out. Jan sales are on, few quid spent wisely in TK Max and few bits from primarny could see you in a new outfit for less than £100. Clothes fitting well and being new is more important than being an expensive brand name.
You can put your energy into making excuses or taking action mate.
ChemicalChaos said:
That's all very well and good for people who have a good physique naturally, but when one is cursed with a slow metabolism and a love of fine dining, along with a science degree and lack of money that makes long gym sessions impossible.... then what?
"Slow metabolism" is an excuse. Gyms are cheap. Going for long walks/gentle jogging is effectively free.I normally thought that "love of fine dining" and a "lack of money" were mutually exclusive.
There's also the social element to the gym - better chance of meeting that physically attractive lady if you're down the gym doing the same thing - ie. automatically have at least one thing in common.
Although having said that, I got to the gym at work (a couple of attractive women there that I know) and haven't asked any out. I also go to a local gym most evenings. And have yet to ask anyone out there.
But I am in the best shape of my life ....
Although having said that, I got to the gym at work (a couple of attractive women there that I know) and haven't asked any out. I also go to a local gym most evenings. And have yet to ask anyone out there.
But I am in the best shape of my life ....
One of my gf's friends is on Tinder, well she put herself on it, but didn't use it, so i asked to go through the guys for her, as she wasn't getting many matches. (She's a bit of a Barbie, bleach blonde hair, high heels, tiny outfits etc.)
Although she is very intelligent, complete opposite to the stereotype she gives off.
(It's incredibly difficult to explain to her that when a guy sees a girl like that all they want is to sleep with them & not a relationship).
Anyhow, within 10 minutes i had about 15 matches for (not hard if you're a girl).
Her stipulations were: no blonde guys (ironic), good body, not a geek.
It basically meant i just clicked on match for every single guy who had his top off or was in good physical shape, i did this as i knew seeing her photo they would go for a girl like her. (On looks anyway).
Her exact words to me were: 'if he doesn't look good in his profile photo, i'll just click no'.
So basically, you need to look good, or they won't even click match, 95% of people will generally only talk to someone on a dating app based on first appearance alone.
Although she is very intelligent, complete opposite to the stereotype she gives off.
(It's incredibly difficult to explain to her that when a guy sees a girl like that all they want is to sleep with them & not a relationship).
Anyhow, within 10 minutes i had about 15 matches for (not hard if you're a girl).
Her stipulations were: no blonde guys (ironic), good body, not a geek.
It basically meant i just clicked on match for every single guy who had his top off or was in good physical shape, i did this as i knew seeing her photo they would go for a girl like her. (On looks anyway).
Her exact words to me were: 'if he doesn't look good in his profile photo, i'll just click no'.
So basically, you need to look good, or they won't even click match, 95% of people will generally only talk to someone on a dating app based on first appearance alone.
Tiggsy said:
theguvernor said:
95% of people will generally only talk to someone on a dating app based on first appearance alone.
of course...why would you do anything else? Tinder has thousands of people....whatever you want long term, why start with anything less than a "hot or not" filter?Matched up with a girl who I thought was 'ok', sent a message, she sent one back which I never bothered to back to.
Ended up randomly meeting in a bar, neither of us recognised each other but had an awesome evening together and have hung out a fair bit recently. Bloody awesome girl, smart and a filthy as a tramps undercrackers.
Both of us admitted we didn't think much of each other when we matched up after finally realising we had already 'met'.
Still, I only bother swiping right to the cute ones. Hate getting that Tinder jingle then having the crushing disapointment of it being another moose.
The whole point of tinder (and the reason it works so well) is that it concentrates primarily on looks. As vain as it sounds, that's what makes the world go round - if you don't fancy someone physically, and there's no spark, it doesn't matter what their personality is like or if they can write a good profile. Which means that tinder works really well for good looking, outgoing people (like CB and CountZero23). If you're average to ugly, you have to work extra hard to make your main photo look good or you're going to get nowhere.
Other dating sites say you need a good written profile to get good matches. Yes, that helps, but everyone still looks at the photos first. It's true that you can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter. So your photo needs to show you looking good in an interesting scenario (and to most women that isn't a single seater race car or a flight sim). If you want to play the pilot, then dress in the uniform (ladies like that). Otherwise something exciting like extreme sports, or at the very least go sophisticated - your best evening wear (dinner suit) sipping a vodka martini.
Matt, stop blaming your metabolism, and you don't have to join a gym, just go running, cycling, swimming (or all three). Don't say you don't have the time, it's about prioritising - if you want to look good you have to work at it. If you really want to do it you can make time, it's not like you have dependents or anything. Are you still a student?
Other dating sites say you need a good written profile to get good matches. Yes, that helps, but everyone still looks at the photos first. It's true that you can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter. So your photo needs to show you looking good in an interesting scenario (and to most women that isn't a single seater race car or a flight sim). If you want to play the pilot, then dress in the uniform (ladies like that). Otherwise something exciting like extreme sports, or at the very least go sophisticated - your best evening wear (dinner suit) sipping a vodka martini.
Matt, stop blaming your metabolism, and you don't have to join a gym, just go running, cycling, swimming (or all three). Don't say you don't have the time, it's about prioritising - if you want to look good you have to work at it. If you really want to do it you can make time, it's not like you have dependents or anything. Are you still a student?
anonymous said:
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I caveat this with always listen to tonkers.I have a different view on the exercise thing, im fit (20km running a week, gym 3 times a week, try to eat healthy, hardly drink etc etc) and im still single, I still lack confidence, have a geeky personality/hobbies and frankly I hate dating & idle chit chat.
As for the cost of the gym, well running is pretty much the cost of a pair of trainers, and being fit is 80% diet, 15% exercise and 5% sleep. So sort your diet out, I actually save money when im dieting as its far far cheaper eating 'whole' foods, than stuff that's been monkeyed around with, as for the cost of the gym, my gym membership was £100 for a year with one of the newer large chain.
As for clothes, the most important thing is to wear clothes that fit and are clean and smart, a mans shoes are also very important to women, but you don't have to spend a fortune nobody cares about designer labels thats just media bulls
t.mjb1 said:
Other dating sites say you need a good written profile to get good matches. Yes, that helps, but everyone still looks at the photos first. It's true that you can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter. So your photo needs to show you looking good in an interesting scenario (and to most women that isn't a single seater race car or a flight sim). If you want to play the pilot, then dress in the uniform (ladies like that). Otherwise something exciting like extreme sports, or at the very least go sophisticated - your best evening wear (dinner suit) sipping a vodka martini.
General rule is have a good face/ upper body picture for the first one, then holiday picture (they all ask for someone who travels), extreme sport picture, you looking smart in a suit or similar, one with some friends (although not just one girl as that gets them suspicious). And try and have at least 2 pictures showing your face, otherwise it looks like you have no confidence and/ or are ugly. Plus not too many group photos, if it's not clear who you are they won't bother trying to work out it.Jeez. CC, the original one looked like you wanted an engineering graduate penpal. The second one looks like you want an engineering graduate mate to go drinking with. I'd bin all but the one with the two girls. Maybe keep the bottom right one although it does look like a male friend's trying to wk you off while you enjoy a beer.
k you off while you enjoy a beer.anonymous said:
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You've just highlighted why she's single; it's winter for fk's sake, wearing rubber soles is sensible. Trogging around at this time of year in leather soles will a) destroy the shoes b) land you on your arse when you tread on ice or damp shiny flooring. Unrealistic expectations or pointless fussiness will result in no shagging and dying alone as a crazy cat lady. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff