Your lowest point?
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what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. dont let the b
ds grind you down.
All good sayings and very true but when you really are at the end of your tether you do need your friends and family,
Like others have said keep your chin up and let us know how you are getting on.
I think most of us of a "certain age" have been up st creak without a paddle but its amazing how something seems to turn up just when you least expect it
ds grind you down.All good sayings and very true but when you really are at the end of your tether you do need your friends and family,
Like others have said keep your chin up and let us know how you are getting on.
I think most of us of a "certain age" have been up s
t creak without a paddle but its amazing how something seems to turn up just when you least expect itsc0tt said:
Wait till you hit a low point. When you phsically won't or can't get out of bed because there doesn't seem any point. You don't eat and you attempt suicide a mulitude of times.
I think the exact nature of "low point" depends on the person and isn't that prescriptive. Some people won't attempt suicide repeatedly - repeat attempts can be a separate phenomenon. It's been at least a decade since I looked at the stats, but from recollection, repeat attempters were a distinct group from those who actually completed. Some people can hit rock bottom and still not contemplate ending it, particularly if they have dependents. And then you get people for whom suicidal ideation is a routine fact of daily life, even when functioning fairly well.To the op - if it keeps your head above water, just keep selling the stuff. It's just stuff. Think of it as a rather inefficient savings plan. Even a car and house are just stuff, if it comes to it. Most things are survivable.
Edited by oldbanger on Sunday 9th November 21:25
I've been off work for 15 weeks after breaking and dislocating my elbow...Like yourselves I didn't get any real help and I didn't claim any sick pay..With hindsight I should have done..
I've now closed my business that I've had for 9 years as I'm unable to continue with my trade(20 years worth)
It all took it's toll, financially, home life, marriage, depression etc etc
Last week I've started a new menial job on very average money and I'm very happy to be out in the world again and earning..
Like yourself, driving was a big part of my life..
Chin up mate, and best of luck tomorrow.
I've now closed my business that I've had for 9 years as I'm unable to continue with my trade(20 years worth)
It all took it's toll, financially, home life, marriage, depression etc etc
Last week I've started a new menial job on very average money and I'm very happy to be out in the world again and earning..
Like yourself, driving was a big part of my life..
Chin up mate, and best of luck tomorrow.
Edited by rhubarb777 on Sunday 9th November 22:01
Broke my heart reading your post Chilli, been there as well many years ago and I know the pain of hopelessness. Trust me here though, these points in life can be the turning point. You have little more to lose and all to gain, start thinking, start looking, if money is the problem and sounds like it is, there is always a solution. Its now that you need to get hungry and throw everything into making life happen for you, think out of your own little world, look for opportunities in other places, in other countries even. If you need a job ask here, don't be ashamed, set out your skills, tell us what your talents are, if no one has a position we can help you trawl and look for something. Even if it the job means living in shiftily digs far away from home for a while it can be worth it.
As I said, been there. Life for me now is thankfully very far away from that awful place. It was in that awful place though that I found the huger and passion to go out and find a better life and fought like hell to get it.
Ps, can you PM your email address, like others I may be able to help in the short term at least.
As I said, been there. Life for me now is thankfully very far away from that awful place. It was in that awful place though that I found the huger and passion to go out and find a better life and fought like hell to get it.
Ps, can you PM your email address, like others I may be able to help in the short term at least.
Glad to hear you've got something to get you back out of the house and keep the wolves from the door.
If you're bogged down by loans & bills rather than simple lack of income then get yourself an appointment at one of the money advice centres - they negotiate realistic payments on your behalf, negotiate freezing interest (ie reducing to 0%), and manage changes in income & circumstances as well.
We were in a debt repayment plan for 3 years and we'd have been sunk without the help of our local centre - fortunately we are now past that and have money in the bank once again.
Chin up, and enjoy earning more than nothing
If you're bogged down by loans & bills rather than simple lack of income then get yourself an appointment at one of the money advice centres - they negotiate realistic payments on your behalf, negotiate freezing interest (ie reducing to 0%), and manage changes in income & circumstances as well.
We were in a debt repayment plan for 3 years and we'd have been sunk without the help of our local centre - fortunately we are now past that and have money in the bank once again.
Chin up, and enjoy earning more than nothing
Chilli, fair play to you for posting this. Hopefully today goes well for you and you can get back into the swing of things. I've been through a tough year and I'm nowhere near out of the woods yet but you just need one thing to go right for you and it makes such a massive difference. I hope the job you've started is the start of many good things to happen to you and your missus.
I've been very fortunate to have been protected from being in a situation like yours. And I'm truly grateful for that. No one can choose what circumstances they're born into or what life throws at them.
I'd say, build from the ground up. You have a solid partner and between you, you can overcome this adversity. Take one step at a time. In five years you'll look back and be amazed at how far you've come
Scott. You're a knob. Asking about suicide is something doctors do. Some counsellers do as well. Knowing how to respond is the key. You clearly know fk all about this arena so should fk off and not try being cleverer than you are. Knob.
I'd say, build from the ground up. You have a solid partner and between you, you can overcome this adversity. Take one step at a time. In five years you'll look back and be amazed at how far you've come
Scott. You're a knob. Asking about suicide is something doctors do. Some counsellers do as well. Knowing how to respond is the key. You clearly know f
k all about this arena so should fk off and not try being cleverer than you are. Knob. 
ali_kat said:
How was today?
Sorry for the late reply, and i'm knackered if i'm honest Jobwise, great. It was fantastic to go back and finally do a days work, its certainly not what i'm used to but i enjoyed every minute of it from sweeping the yard, to washing vehicles and playing with some clever machinery, (remote controlled cherrypickers.) I'll sleep well tonight, but looking forward to tomorrow.
On a sidenote did have a couple more knockbacks, (getting used to these) 1 from the dvla and 1 from the "legal firm" who have supposedly been fighting my case against the pub where the accident happened that started this whole sorry affair off. The solicitors sent me an email from the pubs investigation team, that is accusing me of something that isn't true, and it is pretty insulting of me personally. They are accusing me of being drunk and refusing to serve me. I was stone cold sober, I am so angry and fuming at this and can prove that they are referring to the wrong person, as i have 3 witnesses. I passed this info on to the solicitor who appears to have lost interest now as he says that the pub have proved they reguarly mop the floor, and apparently that is a good enough defence. He shows no interest at all that the pub are talking about somebody else, who they have mistaken as being me even though i can prove this.
I was upstairs in the toilet, whilst the pub were dealing with the person at the bar who they think was me. Its just nuts.
I'm changing my username to LUCKY i think.
Oh well, bed for me, work tomorrow and thanks again to everyone for the comments and some truly amazing emails over the last couple of days.
Sir
Just a bit of helpful advice...
If the pub thing isn't material to getting your licence back. Then just drop it.. remove a stressful thing, it is not worth pursuing. rather put the energy into getting 3rd, 4th, 5th medical opinions..
If I have misunderstood this or got the worng end of the stick apologies.
What did the DVLA letter say?
A
Just a bit of helpful advice...
If the pub thing isn't material to getting your licence back. Then just drop it.. remove a stressful thing, it is not worth pursuing. rather put the energy into getting 3rd, 4th, 5th medical opinions..
If I have misunderstood this or got the worng end of the stick apologies.
What did the DVLA letter say?
A
chilistrucker said:
Sorry for the late reply, and i'm knackered if i'm honest
Jobwise, great. It was fantastic to go back and finally do a days work, its certainly not what i'm used to but i enjoyed every minute of it from sweeping the yard, to washing vehicles and playing with some clever machinery, (remote controlled cherrypickers.) I'll sleep well tonight, but looking forward to tomorrow.
On a sidenote did have a couple more knockbacks, (getting used to these) 1 from the dvla and 1 from the "legal firm" who have supposedly been fighting my case against the pub where the accident happened that started this whole sorry affair off. The solicitors sent me an email from the pubs investigation team, that is accusing me of something that isn't true, and it is pretty insulting of me personally. They are accusing me of being drunk and refusing to serve me. I was stone cold sober, I am so angry and fuming at this and can prove that they are referring to the wrong person, as i have 3 witnesses. I passed this info on to the solicitor who appears to have lost interest now as he says that the pub have proved they reguarly mop the floor, and apparently that is a good enough defence. He shows no interest at all that the pub are talking about somebody else, who they have mistaken as being me even though i can prove this.
I was upstairs in the toilet, whilst the pub were dealing with the person at the bar who they think was me. Its just nuts.
I'm changing my username to LUCKY i think.
Oh well, bed for me, work tomorrow and thanks again to everyone for the comments and some truly amazing emails over the last couple of days.
Jobwise, great. It was fantastic to go back and finally do a days work, its certainly not what i'm used to but i enjoyed every minute of it from sweeping the yard, to washing vehicles and playing with some clever machinery, (remote controlled cherrypickers.) I'll sleep well tonight, but looking forward to tomorrow.
On a sidenote did have a couple more knockbacks, (getting used to these) 1 from the dvla and 1 from the "legal firm" who have supposedly been fighting my case against the pub where the accident happened that started this whole sorry affair off. The solicitors sent me an email from the pubs investigation team, that is accusing me of something that isn't true, and it is pretty insulting of me personally. They are accusing me of being drunk and refusing to serve me. I was stone cold sober, I am so angry and fuming at this and can prove that they are referring to the wrong person, as i have 3 witnesses. I passed this info on to the solicitor who appears to have lost interest now as he says that the pub have proved they reguarly mop the floor, and apparently that is a good enough defence. He shows no interest at all that the pub are talking about somebody else, who they have mistaken as being me even though i can prove this.
I was upstairs in the toilet, whilst the pub were dealing with the person at the bar who they think was me. Its just nuts.
I'm changing my username to LUCKY i think.
Oh well, bed for me, work tomorrow and thanks again to everyone for the comments and some truly amazing emails over the last couple of days.
Very nice to hear you had a good day Chilli and also feel the same as Andrew or is there someone a mate that can be put in control of the process where possible to remove some stress from you.
Ultimately any outcome isnt going to alter how you are other than finanically I pressume and that the right thing is done by you. However cant help but think it will be a disappointment or anticlimax once sorted and cause you unnecessary stress. I dont see dropping it at this stage necassarily but stepping back would be a good option imho.
Beet of lucks
Simon
Ultimately any outcome isnt going to alter how you are other than finanically I pressume and that the right thing is done by you. However cant help but think it will be a disappointment or anticlimax once sorted and cause you unnecessary stress. I dont see dropping it at this stage necassarily but stepping back would be a good option imho.
Beet of lucks
Simon
AndrewCrown said:
Sir
Just a bit of helpful advice...
If the pub thing isn't material to getting your licence back. Then just drop it.. remove a stressful thing, it is not worth pursuing. rather put the energy into getting 3rd, 4th, 5th medical opinions..
If I have misunderstood this or got the worng end of the stick apologies.
What did the DVLA letter say?
I think you are mistaken in thinking that the OP got knighted at some point along this story. Have you confused two stories?Just a bit of helpful advice...
If the pub thing isn't material to getting your licence back. Then just drop it.. remove a stressful thing, it is not worth pursuing. rather put the energy into getting 3rd, 4th, 5th medical opinions..
If I have misunderstood this or got the worng end of the stick apologies.
What did the DVLA letter say?
Back to your advice for him to drop it - are you serious? An accident has completely ruined his life and you advise him to forget about it as though he can just switch off and pretend it never happened?
No offense but that is s
t advice.blindswelledrat said:
AndrewCrown said:
Sir
Just a bit of helpful advice...
If the pub thing isn't material to getting your licence back. Then just drop it.. remove a stressful thing, it is not worth pursuing. rather put the energy into getting 3rd, 4th, 5th medical opinions..
If I have misunderstood this or got the worng end of the stick apologies.
What did the DVLA letter say?
I think you are mistaken in thinking that the OP got knighted at some point along this story. Have you confused two stories?Just a bit of helpful advice...
If the pub thing isn't material to getting your licence back. Then just drop it.. remove a stressful thing, it is not worth pursuing. rather put the energy into getting 3rd, 4th, 5th medical opinions..
If I have misunderstood this or got the worng end of the stick apologies.
What did the DVLA letter say?
Back to your advice for him to drop it - are you serious? An accident has completely ruined his life and you advise him to forget about it as though he can just switch off and pretend it never happened?
No offense but that is s
t advice.Nobody would possibly take advice from someone who starts his post with 'Sir'.
7 years ago I was homeless and sleeping rough. I remember waking up one night and brushing the frost off my sleeping bag, looking at the stars and thinking 'could be worse I suppose.. at least its not snowing'.
Whenever my life gets me down I always think back to that day and try not to feel sorry for myself.
Be thankful for what you have now.
It can always be worse.
Whenever my life gets me down I always think back to that day and try not to feel sorry for myself.
Be thankful for what you have now.
It can always be worse.
Buff Mchugelarge said:
7 years ago I was homeless and sleeping rough. I remember waking up one night and brushing the frost off my sleeping bag, looking at the stars and thinking 'could be worse I suppose.. at least its not snowing'.
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You lucky b.
d. Where did you get the sleeping bag?Whats the back story to that then? How did you get back on your feet?
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