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Lost_BMW said:
One thing that might be worth considering is to have, built in to the agreements etc. as it were, is a "clean break order" to stop her coming back at you later if your income rises, for your pension, your forthcoming lottery win etc.
Whatever you do, whether or not you involve a solicitor for everything else, make sure you DO get a court order for the financial settlement to prevent future claims. After my divorce in 2006 (fairly amicable), I insisted on getting a court order for the finances. Last year I inherited a house, after the death of my Mum (owned outright), and my ex tried to get something out of it, but was told she had no chance due to this financial court order.
JustDerv said:
Lost_BMW said:
One thing that might be worth considering is to have, built in to the agreements etc. as it were, is a "clean break order" to stop her coming back at you later if your income rises, for your pension, your forthcoming lottery win etc.
Whatever you do, whether or not you involve a solicitor for everything else, make sure you DO get a court order for the financial settlement to prevent future claims. After my divorce in 2006 (fairly amicable), I insisted on getting a court order for the finances. Last year I inherited a house, after the death of my Mum (owned outright), and my ex tried to get something out of it, but was told she had no chance due to this financial court order.
brickwall said:
Is this similar to "full and final settlement"?
Just checked, and it is a "consent order", which details the clean-break settlement as well as the child support and access arrangements. Basically means that neither party can pursue the other for claims on capital, pensions or future inheritances.JustDerv said:
brickwall said:
Is this similar to "full and final settlement"?
Just checked, and it is a "consent order", which details the clean-break settlement as well as the child support and access arrangements. Basically means that neither party can pursue the other for claims on capital, pensions or future inheritances.
Just waiting for the Final Hearing in July now.
It seriously strengthens my resolve to deal with her using every legal option open to me when I get a kick in the bollo+ks from her idiot advisor like I did today.
Im almost guaranteed she'll perjure herself on that day.
Perjury attracts up to 7 years I believe, now that would be a nice result to get her put away for that long, her and her grubby thieving freinds.
It seriously strengthens my resolve to deal with her using every legal option open to me when I get a kick in the bollo+ks from her idiot advisor like I did today.
Im almost guaranteed she'll perjure herself on that day.
Perjury attracts up to 7 years I believe, now that would be a nice result to get her put away for that long, her and her grubby thieving freinds.
Do not go back and dig up real or imagined wrongs.
Realistically, there are no net assets in the marriage, so a clean debt split is the only item at issue. I would avoid any attempt to hide anything. I went through a divorce 20 years ago that left me broke, ( I had a son and wanted to ensure no changes to his standard of living), but it was a clean break, I never hid anything and paid the maintenance and so on, the result of which I retained a very good relationship with my son who was not subjected to the pain of parental wrangling. As you have no kids, it will be easier.
When you restart your life post-divorce, you will find that things are brighter than in a failed relationship. Pay off your half of the debt and get on with your life, and don't look back. I met someone else,rebuilt my finances and it has been a delight since. I have no contact, and no ill will to my ex. The book is closed. Let it go and move on.
Realistically, there are no net assets in the marriage, so a clean debt split is the only item at issue. I would avoid any attempt to hide anything. I went through a divorce 20 years ago that left me broke, ( I had a son and wanted to ensure no changes to his standard of living), but it was a clean break, I never hid anything and paid the maintenance and so on, the result of which I retained a very good relationship with my son who was not subjected to the pain of parental wrangling. As you have no kids, it will be easier.
When you restart your life post-divorce, you will find that things are brighter than in a failed relationship. Pay off your half of the debt and get on with your life, and don't look back. I met someone else,rebuilt my finances and it has been a delight since. I have no contact, and no ill will to my ex. The book is closed. Let it go and move on.
Buster73 said:
GroundEffect said:
Marriage really is a waste of time.
30 years this May for me , for,some strange reason I disagree ......After 4 years of dating and now nearly 20 years of marriage, many more years to go I hope.
I did sign up "for better or for worse" and I have been lucky that my husband thinks the same.
littlegreenfairy said:
All these threads are really making me wonder if I want to get married anymore.
Good luck OP. Hope it goes well.
For every 'I'm getting divorced' post there are 3 times as many PHers who are perfectly happily married, but there's not really much point posting about it.Good luck OP. Hope it goes well.
If you have any doubt at all, even a tiny one, then don't get married. But if you don't, then do it. Mrs Gaspode and I have just notched up 26 years, and it keeps getting better.
And yes, OP - I hope it goes well for you
Gaspode said:
For every 'I'm getting divorced' post there are 3 times as many PHers who are perfectly happily married, but there's not really much point posting about it.
If you have any doubt at all, even a tiny one, then don't get married. But if you don't, then do it. Mrs Gaspode and I have just notched up 26 years, and it keeps getting better.
And yes, OP - I hope it goes well for you
Bit late now If you have any doubt at all, even a tiny one, then don't get married. But if you don't, then do it. Mrs Gaspode and I have just notched up 26 years, and it keeps getting better.
And yes, OP - I hope it goes well for you
but it seems ok so far.Good luck OP. Don't let it effect the rest of your life and go and enjoy yourself.
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