Match.com (Vol. 7)

[BunkMoreland]

MitchT said:

Plenty of posturing narcissistic nobodies covered in makeup and photoshop to steal pics from on social media with no risk of them showing up on a reverse search...

For reasons known only to Instagram and its owners. I've been recently "suggested" a few accounts like that. There's a pretty decent looking girl probably mid late 20s, British from the accent.

And her entire profile is these weird 5 or 6s videos with her wearing something revealing, and then saying something idiotically vacuous to the camera like "would you talk to me" or sat at a desk pretending to work then looking up at the camera (flashing the cleavage) and saying "good morning" whilst trying to look seductive, but actually just looking like someone who cant act! There's even reels where she's got a friend with her and that girls videos are also just as stupid in the same vein. Both these 2 girls appear to have OF accounts too.

Obviously the comments are full of simps professing their love. I don't understand it! Even if I met these girls in real life in a coffee shop. I'd think they were ridiculous! Not interesting or someone I'd want to get to know. What's the angle that I'm missing here?

csd19 said:

Is that a definite though? You hear of some people who are "just destined to be alone", are they really just missing their lid?

Of course its not definite! You were born alone and you'll die alone. Don't waste time looking for someone that doesn't exist. Indulge your hobbies and your interests and your friends.

Don't be like so many tragic people that feel incomplete and lonely outside of a relationship. Even if that relationship is terrible. Embrace singledom!

Edited by BunkMoreland on Thursday 4th April 21:44

[csd19]

BunkMoreland said:

csd19 said:

Is that a definite though? You hear of some people who are "just destined to be alone", are they really just missing their lid?

Of course its not definite! You were born alone and you'll die alone. Don't waste time looking for someone that doesn't exist. Indulge your hobbies and your interests and your friends.

Don't be like so many tragic people that feel incomplete and lonely outside of a relationship. Even if that relationship is terrible. Embrace singledom!

Edited by BunkMoreland on Thursday 4th April 21:44

Oh I've done plenty of indulgence over the last 5 years, just getting that itch of wanting someone to indulge with. I'll maybe just buy some car parts or new tools to stem that off!

[bloomen]

I was messaging someone extremely promising only for her to shut her account down.

She sent a message at the same time but you can't read a message from a dud account.

It could've been 'you are the most disgusting thing I have ever encountered' or ' meet me at Skegness registry office tomorrow.' or somewhere inbetween.

I'll never know.

Entire futures pivot on such moments.

Edited by bloomen on Monday 8th April 19:44

[csd19]

So what's the current consensus on best apps to use? Still Hinge or Bumble for a more serious thing?

Or is it best to just ditch all of that and try in the real world?

Edited by csd19 on Monday 8th April 20:41

[ChemicalChaos]

csd19 said:

So what's the current consensus on best apps to use? Still Hinge or Bumble for a more serious thing?

Or is it best to just ditch all of that and try in the real world?

Edited by csd19 on Monday 8th April 20:41

I tended to avoid tinder and bumble, unless you are a permatanned vacuous instagram "model" with tippex teeth then you'll struggle to find a match and even then its likely to be casual at best.

I had by far the most luck (in terms of number of matches, albeit not dates or progressions therefrom) on hinge - not only are the people on there actual real, normal human beings, but the fact you have to comment on a picture or statement is an instant icebreaker and also means the woman gets a notification she can respond to, unlike the pure swiping apps where the algorithm may eventually possibly put you in the deck of someone you've swiped.

Having said that, I met my girlfriend - a truly compatible soulmate - on Facebook dating. Yes, its a thing, and yes there's some absolute council horror stories on there - but there's the occasional genuine, humble diamond not wanting to dip a toe into the shark infested waters of a pure dating app

[csd19]

ChemicalChaos said:

csd19 said:

So what's the current consensus on best apps to use? Still Hinge or Bumble for a more serious thing?

Or is it best to just ditch all of that and try in the real world?

Edited by csd19 on Monday 8th April 20:41

I tended to avoid tinder and bumble, unless you are a permatanned vacuous instagram "model" with tippex teeth then you'll struggle to find a match and even then its likely to be casual at best.

I had by far the most luck (in terms of number of matches, albeit not dates or progressions therefrom) on hinge - not only are the people on there actual real, normal human beings, but the fact you have to comment on a picture or statement is an instant icebreaker and also means the woman gets a notification she can respond to, unlike the pure swiping apps where the algorithm may eventually possibly put you in the deck of someone you've swiped.

Having said that, I met my girlfriend - a truly compatible soulmate - on Facebook dating. Yes, its a thing, and yes there's some absolute council horror stories on there - but there's the occasional genuine, humble diamond not wanting to dip a toe into the shark infested waters of a pure dating app

Thanks for the reply CC, I'll bear that in mind - and also great to have read that you've found a keeper All the best.

I'm not on Facebook unfortunately (fortunately?) and I'm not going to sell my soul to the Zuck just for the chance of a possible date, even if it is a decent starting point. I'm going to try and push myself out of my comfort zone and join a few clubs etc, meet new folk and then take it from there I think. If it doesn't pay off then at least I'll have made some new friends on the way

I'll check out the apps too...

[Adam.]

Second vote for Hinge

I found it to be great (thought being in London seems to help a lot).

Met a keeper a bit too early but certainly not grumbling

[Gigamoons]

5 years ago I enjoyed my time on bumble very much

[Secret lemonade drinker]

I’m passing up on this one, but she’s available

[anonymous-user]

Secret lemonade drinker said:

I’m passing up on this one, but she’s available

She sounds more like one of the normal ones.

[Gigamoons]

pocketspring said:

Secret lemonade drinker said:

I’m passing up on this one, but she’s available

She sounds more like one of the normal ones.

Haha, she sounds spicy

Certainly more fun than the overweight middle aged suburban single mum fodder who’s idea of a good night in is falling asleep on the sofa watching love island…

That particular one would be too young for me, but those off the wall profiles could reveal quite fun personalities that weren’t really taking OLD very seriously. And as such would be up for a bit of noncommittal fun if you matched their vibe.
Also a slim chance you could also wind up a bit dead though if you let her pour the wine out of sight

But it’s just OLD, the world at your fingertips. He who dares Rodney, he who dares…

[Kowalski655]

Imagine if a man wrote that on his profile!

[westberks]

Secret lemonade drinker said:

I’m passing up on this one, but she’s available

love that; would defo swipe right just for the initial chat to establish just how mental she is.

[throt]

Secret lemonade drinker said:

I’m passing up on this one, but she’s available

Yes, i would not bother going there, not that she would actually carry out such a thing but, she's obviously a bit nuts right

Sort of bird that after a couple of hrs you would think ''jeez's , enough now, calm down''

Good luck guys with your searches.

[throt]

And where's Petros ?, did he finally find his soulmate

[Gigamoons]

throt said:

Sort of bird that after a couple of hrs you would think ''jeez's , enough now, calm down''

Perfect!

[shirt]

You’re all showing how internet savvy you are on that one, it’s far from original



So on that score it would be a no, but she’s 19 and has 2 very big plus points that I can see.

Edited by shirt on Friday 12th April 14:05

[ThingsBehindTheSun]

My gut feel from my experience of OLD is that in real life she would be a lot larger and worse looking than the photo suggests.

[POIDH]

[QUOTE]My gut feel from my experience of OLD is that in real life he would be a lot larger and worse looking than the photo suggests.[/QUOTE]

Fixed that for you.

[jdw100]

Here you go, saddos.