Etiquettes - Opening a door for someone
Discussion
Depending on how far they are from reaching the door, I always hold the door open for someone – whether I know them or not.
At work, especially, as we have a shared building, its often you end up holding a door for someone – knowing them or not, they say thank you.
Just had a tw*t at work who knows I work at the firm, come out of the toilet and walking behind him, doesn’t bother holding the door open for me. Utter w**ker.
What does that say about him? (Said person is a Partner at a law firm).
Also, would you be annoyed?
It’s a small thing I know… but really pi**es me off!
At work, especially, as we have a shared building, its often you end up holding a door for someone – knowing them or not, they say thank you.
Just had a tw*t at work who knows I work at the firm, come out of the toilet and walking behind him, doesn’t bother holding the door open for me. Utter w**ker.
What does that say about him? (Said person is a Partner at a law firm).
Also, would you be annoyed?
It’s a small thing I know… but really pi**es me off!
It's always nice to do. There's that awkward moment when you think, are they too far away, will I be here for an age, but at the end of the day, are you in such a rush? If the door would still be moving towards closed when they got there, you hold it open.
As for people who don't say thanks, I always say "you're welcome". Nothing like a bit of good old British passive-aggressiveness. I can't say others not doing it for me bothers me much at work. It tends to be the same people, so it's never a surprise.
As for people who don't say thanks, I always say "you're welcome". Nothing like a bit of good old British passive-aggressiveness. I can't say others not doing it for me bothers me much at work. It tends to be the same people, so it's never a surprise.
People that don't acknowledge you holding a door for them are just downright rude.
At my last place of work after exiting one of the lifts you had to go through a glass door to enter the main office. I was leaving the office and saw two people coming toward me from the lift.
I held the door open for them before I went through and as I'm standing there holding it, both people stop to finish their conversation in the doorway.
About 60 seconds later they both walk off in different directions, completely ignoring the chump standing there holding the door open. Rude b
ds.
At my last place of work after exiting one of the lifts you had to go through a glass door to enter the main office. I was leaving the office and saw two people coming toward me from the lift.
I held the door open for them before I went through and as I'm standing there holding it, both people stop to finish their conversation in the doorway.
About 60 seconds later they both walk off in different directions, completely ignoring the chump standing there holding the door open. Rude b
ds.An early job in London saw me holding a heavy spring-loaded door open for a female grad struggling with a load of box-folders.
She stopped in the doorway to scream at me that is was condescending of me to hold the door open for her, that she didn't need any help from me ever.
So I let go of the door, which promptly sent her and all her files flying.
Still makes me smile to this day - I must be a terrible person.
She stopped in the doorway to scream at me that is was condescending of me to hold the door open for her, that she didn't need any help from me ever.
So I let go of the door, which promptly sent her and all her files flying.
Still makes me smile to this day - I must be a terrible person.
Don1 said:
An early job in London saw me holding a heavy spring-loaded door open for a female grad struggling with a load of box-folders.
She stopped in the doorway to scream at me that is was condescending of me to hold the door open for her, that she didn't need any help from me ever.
So I let go of the door, which promptly sent her and all her files flying.
Still makes me smile to this day - I must be a terrible person.
She stopped in the doorway to scream at me that is was condescending of me to hold the door open for her, that she didn't need any help from me ever.
So I let go of the door, which promptly sent her and all her files flying.
Still makes me smile to this day - I must be a terrible person.
Top bombing.jenzo said:
Just had a tw*t at work who knows I work at the firm, come out of the toilet and walking behind him, doesn’t bother holding the door open for me. Utter w**ker.
What does that say about him? (Said person is a Partner at a law firm).
Probably wanted to let go of it as quickly as possible for fear of getting a pleb infection from the handle. Poor chap probably left his phone at his desk and couldn't call his Coutts Concierge to arrange the door holding thing.What does that say about him? (Said person is a Partner at a law firm).
Reminds me of the YouTube prank of 'holding the door open for people a long way away' 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QpRO39X1rTk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QpRO39X1rTk
What's the best practice when you're with your OH and want to hold a door open for her, but it's one that opens away from you? The rule is supposed the be 'ladies first', but if the door opens away from you, you have to step through the aperture to be able to push it sufficiently open that she can walk though.
MitchT said:
What's the best practice when you're with your OH and want to hold a door open for her, but it's one that opens away from you? The rule is supposed the be 'ladies first', but if the door opens away from you, you have to step through the aperture to be able to push it sufficiently open that she can walk though.
She opens it for you I used to work in Canary Wharf, as you walk through the shopping centre there are many heavy glass door to negotiate, my general rule is that I would look over my shoulder as I reach for the handle and hold the door for the person following. There is one race of people who never ever held the door even if you were immediately behind them It was as if they were being rude, i dont think it occurred to them that they should hold the door for you.
Must admit that if people didnt say thank you I would say you are welcome.
Only had one bad experience which was for a woman who had a wheelie case, I held open the door and she gave me a lot of abuse that I shouldnt have held the door open for because it was demeaning.
Put it down to her having a bad day.
Must admit that if people didnt say thank you I would say you are welcome.
Only had one bad experience which was for a woman who had a wheelie case, I held open the door and she gave me a lot of abuse that I shouldnt have held the door open for because it was demeaning.
Put it down to her having a bad day.
MitchT said:
What's the best practice when you're with your OH and want to hold a door open for her, but it's one that opens away from you? The rule is supposed the be 'ladies first', but if the door opens away from you, you have to step through the aperture to be able to push it sufficiently open that she can walk though.
Simply say "allow me" or "let me get that", step through holding the door open, and allow her to enter.It is easier to manage, when you know it's about to happen, to be leading slightly to make it less awkward of course.
If she should begin pushing the door for herself, allow her to continue.
The above assumes of course, that one frequents establishments that do not employ a doorman, in the company of a lady.
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