Is it ever acceptable...

[walsh]

To punch your father in law in the face?

First PH Rant..

I've been with my other half for a little over 5 years now. Been engaged for 6 months or so.

I have never been anything but correct with the in-laws, however Both of have pretty much hated me from the get go, and tolerate me currently. Her Mum is ok, if a little bit manipulative, but her step-dad drives me up the wall. Never says anything to my face, Infact he is generally quiet pleasant (if opinionated), but he "snipes" and the OH without me present all the fking time, mostly about me. Seriously getting on my tits.

Latest example, and the straw that broke the camels back.

I am currently working a bar job, in-between previous work (due to redundancy) and a new position which starts first working week of June. The situation has taken a little longer to rectify than i would have liked, and i have been "unemployed" (reed- working 20-25 hours PW in a bar) for the last 6-7 weeks or so. Landed the new job last week. She went to visit the inlaws, and they put pressure on her to "perhaps find someone who can look after her" rather than me, as I am obviously a waster. Never says anything to me face to face. No way to say it without sounding luck a smug bd I suppose, but the new position I start in June is a significantly more than both her stepdad and mother earn cumulatively at the moment, and I generally let these sort of comments slide. The OH gets very irritated by this, and I have had words with "stepdad" before regarding antagonizing her over nothing.

Came downstairs a moment ago, to find a seriously pissed off misses, who wouldn't explain the issue ("ill be fine, don'T worry, its just "stepdad"). Drop her off at work, log on to a popular social media site, and sure enough, a very public, very firm, and very incorrect implication that, because I work into the wee hours, I must be out fking everything that moves. "normal people would ask questions."

I replied with the below;

"It's called trust "stepdad", and its a fantastic thing. I've warned you once about deliberately antagonizing "OH" before, on a public forum is inexcusable. You have my number if you want to meet to discuss to work this out, I see no reason to Irritate "her mother" with this, considering the current situation. Regards, Walsh"

Id pop over to ask what his issue is, however her mum was admitted to hospital this week with high blood pressure, so I thought better of it.

Secretly hoping he calls me to meet for a punch up, but I know he will ignore it, and ill end up in trouble with the OH either way for reacting.

Ergh fkety st balls.

</Rant>.

<flaming for being a pansy>.

Cheers

Walsh

[krisdelta]

"Stepdad" is obvious in his stupidity - everyone can see it, your OH, her Mum, you... no need to punch the slow child in the room.

Deep breath and be thankful you're not like that

[Ahhh Moneypenny]

He sounds like a knobber and probably threaten or a little jelouse of you, some people get a kick from st stiring

[vixen1700]

I hated my ex's father, can't put my finger on what exactly it was, but I couldn't bear his whole demeanour.

He also looked like Peter Cushing, who I don't really mind.

Yes, it is acceptable.

[Agoogy]

Start new job.....
A lovely meal out and flowers to celebrate for/with Fiance.
Flowers and maybe a 'thank you for your support' card for mum.
fk all for the dick....or maybe reach in to your pocket and pull out the finger

[HarryFlatters]

Slug 'im...

[Chunkymonkey71]

He sounds like a bell end. Should we get a mob together?

(PS- your response was civil and hopefully put him in his place)

[Disco You]

Just stop spending time with him?

[Chunkymonkey71]

If you ask him nicely, JAYB might slap him with a leather glove then shoot him with his duelling pistol.

[anonymous-user]

You've got the daughter on your side, you've got a better job than them and they called you a waster. You win.

Time for you to ask him why he hasn't got a better job yet.

Next time you're at their house put your arm around your girlfriend and announce "Ah it's great for me and (insert your girlfriends name) getting this job i'm really glad I held out for it. Are you going to change your job (to stepdad) ? Don't you want one that pays better?"

[Dusty964]

Sorry, but.....

'A moment ago'

Then you made your comment on fb

Then on here.........

.......and then talk of meeting for a punch up?

Obviously not so riled that you can delay posting on social media.

I'm sure the guy may well be an arse, but if it's an issue, go and sort it out, rather than mince through it on here.

[SirSamuelBuca]

he sounds like he needs a swift gentlemanly beating. To let him know who the Alpha Male is.

my gfs dad is always trying to prove me wrong and be alpha male i just let him. Im always the first person he comes to when he needs some advice.

We actually get on great but its a man thing.

[okgo]

lol

Just tell her to stop going round there. Remove him from facebook, and stop talking to him.

I am constantly amazed that people put up with this kind of thing just because they're family. The moment someone does these kinds of things to me that will be the last time they see or hear from me. Tell your OH to grow a set and set them straight - if stepdad keeps behaving like this you'll not be seeing me round here.

[Stuartggray]

Just wait till Stepdad starts boasting about how much his 'son-in-law' earns

[Pints]

If you think it's bad now, just wait until you've had kids.

[h0b0]

My father in law leaves guns around the house. These are both hand guns and hunting rifles. I have very inqusitive 15 month old that I hate taking to visit even after I have searched their house for weapons.

he also says stty things about me and implies that I am less of a man because I am involved with my kids upbringing

[walsh]

Dusty964 said:

Sorry, but.....

'A moment ago'

Then you made your comment on fb

Then on here.........

.......and then talk of meeting for a punch up?

Obviously not so riled that you can delay posting on social media.

I'm sure the guy may well be an arse, but if it's an issue, go and sort it out, rather than mince through it on here.

Indeed, fair and expected comment.. Frustration rather than anything else. I can't go slap him really, it would end up being my fault, And knowing my luck, would end in an assault case or something. Or id get my head kicked in, dim doesn't mean soft.Regardless, New job is 120 miles away, so I shouldn't have to deal with it for much longer.

[Grenoble]

h0b0 said:

My father in law leaves guns around the house. These are both hand guns and hunting rifles. I have very inqusitive 15 month old that I hate taking to visit even after I have searched their house for weapons.

he also says stty things about me and implies that I am less of a man because I am involved with my kids upbringing

Yikes. And your wife is happy with the guns?

[Agoogy]

Grenoble said:

h0b0 said:

My father in law leaves guns around the house. These are both hand guns and hunting rifles. I have very inqusitive 15 month old that I hate taking to visit even after I have searched their house for weapons.

he also says stty things about me and implies that I am less of a man because I am involved with my kids upbringing

Yikes. And your wife is happy with the guns?

Hey! don't let him hi-jack this thread with his pathetic whinging...hasn't even got the strength to start his own thread FFS...

[Fitz666]

I did see a t-shirt once that read...

"Your little princess is my little slut"

Might be worth it...