Wee lads going to nursery 5days a week..
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Missus is adamant she wants to go back into work after Mat leave..
Makes sense. She has kind of lost the plot being at home with minimal support. Its just us two in the city we live in. Family are pretty far away.
So, the lads going to nursery for five days a week at 1 year old.
Is it natural as a father to be slightly worried/scared for him? Tried telling her she can be a housewife, but she is dead against it.
Her work promoted her while she was on maternity. Go figure!
So thats around £1000 going on nursery a month. I don't really care tbh as he is my little lad, but f
k me its expensive.
I am dead against child minders. Its just I think more adults around him will ensure no one does owt horrible.
Makes sense. She has kind of lost the plot being at home with minimal support. Its just us two in the city we live in. Family are pretty far away.
So, the lads going to nursery for five days a week at 1 year old.
Is it natural as a father to be slightly worried/scared for him? Tried telling her she can be a housewife, but she is dead against it.
Her work promoted her while she was on maternity. Go figure!
So thats around £1000 going on nursery a month. I don't really care tbh as he is my little lad, but f
k me its expensive.I am dead against child minders. Its just I think more adults around him will ensure no one does owt horrible.
In my experience kids who go to Nursery early seem to be slighlty better adjusted - are better in social situations and adapt to things more readily.
He will enjoy it - although natural you shouldn't worry.
Make sure her or your employer pays some of your salary in Childcare vouchers as it will save you a lot of money in tax
He will enjoy it - although natural you shouldn't worry.
Make sure her or your employer pays some of your salary in Childcare vouchers as it will save you a lot of money in tax
Similar position, my wife had just completed her Msc prioir to birth of our daughter and she wants to go back to work to carry on with her career.
It's likely she'll go 3 days as I don't want our daughter bought up by a nursery, 3 days is also the limit where my wife can feel she's still having an input at work.
I'd happily do the 3 days a week and let her go full time (we're both earning the same so it doesn't matter financially) but I'm not ready to do that yet!
It's likely she'll go 3 days as I don't want our daughter bought up by a nursery, 3 days is also the limit where my wife can feel she's still having an input at work.
I'd happily do the 3 days a week and let her go full time (we're both earning the same so it doesn't matter financially) but I'm not ready to do that yet!
Also do add, 5 days at nursery has many positive points, children who do that seem to be more soically developed at a younger age. You usually also get a discount for 5 days, 4 days generally seems like poor value. For us it was a choice between 3 and 5 becuase of this.
Nursery costs are another mortgage.
Nursery costs are another mortgage.
I entirely understand your worries. I don't have kids, but a mate does and his daughter has been in full time nursery from about 6 months, even though his wife works part time. Just seems wrong, quite apart from the £1500 a month.
Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
We're opting for 3 days in nursery when the kiddo starts in the New Year.
I felt a lot easier about it having been very involved and viewing all the options myself. I would say there seemed a gulf between the good and the bad nurseries though. I downloaded all the offsteads and read them in detail, spoke to staff, especially the key member assigned to my child.
Some were just converted front rooms with toys strewn about others had clearly had more thought put in. Others put the little uns in the basement which made for dark atmospheres.
It's a personal decision but I feel happy knowing my OH will be spending quality time with the kid for two days a week and balancing this with the need for socialisation.
I felt a lot easier about it having been very involved and viewing all the options myself. I would say there seemed a gulf between the good and the bad nurseries though. I downloaded all the offsteads and read them in detail, spoke to staff, especially the key member assigned to my child.
Some were just converted front rooms with toys strewn about others had clearly had more thought put in. Others put the little uns in the basement which made for dark atmospheres.
It's a personal decision but I feel happy knowing my OH will be spending quality time with the kid for two days a week and balancing this with the need for socialisation.
HannsG said:
THIS! She is going stir crazy at the moment
Not surprising! Sounds like Mum/wife needs more people around her and to have her own time. Mother and toddler classes only go so far, but they're good for meeting other people and making new friends. As for suggesting her to be a housewife, sounds like thats the last thing she wants - think it through a bit more and perhaps suggest her going to classes on her own while you look after the little one for a night a week.
Tom_C76 said:
I entirely understand your worries. I don't have kids, but a mate does and his daughter has been in full time nursery from about 6 months, even though his wife works part time. Just seems wrong, quite apart from the £1500 a month.
Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
^^^^Totally agree, at that young age, it should be the parents installing their values into their child, and not some unknown adult at some nursery.Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
HannsG said:
I am dead against child minders. Its just I think more adults around him will ensure no one does owt horrible.
Agree with all the posters above, but regarding this, please don't become one of those terrible parents that see's every adult that comes in contact with your child as a potential paedo, and every man with an SLR camera as a pervert desperate to get images of your child for some strange paedo porn site where they sit about looking at photos of fully clothed children.Pixelpeep said:
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Tom_C76 said:
I entirely understand your worries. I don't have kids, but a mate does and his daughter has been in full time nursery from about 6 months, even though his wife works part time. Just seems wrong, quite apart from the £1500 a month.
Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
Old fashioned and financially impossible for many a family house is likely to require both parents to be earning to be affordable - if you have to be able to live on one wage to have children those days are long gone for all but the very wealthy.Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
Engineer1 said:
Old fashioned and financially impossible for many a family house is likely to require both parents to be earning to be affordable - if you have to be able to live on one wage to have children those days are long gone for all but the very wealthy.
Depends what your Mrs earns though. Mine is a nurse so it's really cost neutral with the extortionate cost of nurseries. Only reason she's going back at all is to keep her longer term career ticking over..Wings said:
Tom_C76 said:
I entirely understand your worries. I don't have kids, but a mate does and his daughter has been in full time nursery from about 6 months, even though his wife works part time. Just seems wrong, quite apart from the £1500 a month.
Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
^^^^Totally agree, at that young age, it should be the parents installing their values into their child, and not some unknown adult at some nursery.Don't really understand why you'd have kids if you don't want to bring them up yourself, my Mum gave up work before I was born, and kept busy by running the village playgroup, helping at the school, and generally being part of our lives as we grew up. Guess that's just an old fashioned view though.
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