Nice or annoying?
Discussion
My job often leaves me wound up by the weekend. I like to go out to bars and clubs to unwind. I prefer to be by myself, I don't know why, I just like it like that. I often find myself being invited to join groups of complete strangers, which is very kind of them I guess. However, I do actually like being on my Jack Jones, nine times out of ten. At which point does folk being nice, become folk being annoying? I don't wish to appear rude to these folk, how do I tell them I wish to be left alone without seeming rude or mental?
I have a similar problem in that random strangers talk to me.
I have been told (by a PHer so it must be true ) that I tend to look at people too directly, maybe even make eye contact without realising, and this is what triggers it.
I'm going to perfect my spitting technique and aim. That should put them off.
I have been told (by a PHer so it must be true ) that I tend to look at people too directly, maybe even make eye contact without realising, and this is what triggers it.
I'm going to perfect my spitting technique and aim. That should put them off.
Carthage said:
I have a similar problem in that random strangers talk to me.
I have been told (by a PHer so it must be true ) that I tend to look at people too directly, maybe even make eye contact without realising, and this is what triggers it.
I'm going to perfect my spitting technique and aim. That should put them off.
That makes sense. I do tend to look straight into people's eyes when I look at them. It's involuntary, but I deffinately do it. I have been told (by a PHer so it must be true ) that I tend to look at people too directly, maybe even make eye contact without realising, and this is what triggers it.
I'm going to perfect my spitting technique and aim. That should put them off.
Gwagon111 said:
My job often leaves me wound up by the weekend. I like to go out to bars and clubs to unwind. I prefer to be by myself, I don't know why, I just like it like that. I often find myself being invited to join groups of complete strangers, which is very kind of them I guess. However, I do actually like being on my Jack Jones, nine times out of ten. At which point does folk being nice, become folk being annoying? I don't wish to appear rude to these folk, how do I tell them I wish to be left alone without seeming rude or mental?
If you like being alone (and I can't say I blame you) why do you go to clubs and bars?Why not sit at home with a drink/DVD/Sky/curry/computer game/porn?
Nobody going to bother you there.
Gwagon111 said:
My job often leaves me wound up by the weekend. I like to go out to bars and clubs to unwind. I prefer to be by myself, I don't know why, I just like it like that.
out of curiosity what do you do? just find an empty bar stool, nurse a drink, people watch and go home?i only ask as i have done this a couple of times when single and mates were all busy/doing couple things - sometimes it ends well and i end up meeting new people, others i feel slightly self-conscious of appearing a billy-no-mates (which i guess i am for an evening)
Adam B said:
out of curiosity what do you do? just find an empty bar stool, nurse a drink, people watch and go home?
i only ask as i have done this a couple of times when single and mates were all busy/doing couple things - sometimes it ends well and i end up meeting new people, others i feel slightly self-conscious of appearing a billy-no-mates (which i guess i am for an evening)
I only do this in local for a couple...feel odd doing that although I've done it plenty...i only ask as i have done this a couple of times when single and mates were all busy/doing couple things - sometimes it ends well and i end up meeting new people, others i feel slightly self-conscious of appearing a billy-no-mates (which i guess i am for an evening)
Eddh said:
Oh so you are 'that guy'... the one who sits in the corner on their own and oggles the 18 year old girls jiggling around?
Not really. The only 18 yr olds I'm interested in tend to be single malts. Sitting at home would bore the crap out of me, I don't mind being in a group once in a while, it's just when I'm trying to be alone, to de-stress, and regroup my thoughts, it's kind if odd (but strangely flattering) that complete strangers seem to want to 'help' me out. I guess it's not a bad thing, I just need a plan of action that doesn't involve offending them.tyrewrecker said:
GTIR said:
I find only misfits and sad singletons go out on their own and stay like that.
I can't think of a time when I've gone out on my own and stayed out like that.
Unless I'm meeting someone of course.
Very odd.
Who do you end up with? Joining groups of guys or girls ?I can't think of a time when I've gone out on my own and stayed out like that.
Unless I'm meeting someone of course.
Very odd.
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