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Wacky Racer said:
Fine Rob, glad to see you are on the mend.
This thread is proof that no matter how depressed and low you are, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Absolutely I've decided that I really would like this thread to help other people, so I'm going to keep posting warts and all! It's amazing what people have shared on here and the support given This thread is proof that no matter how depressed and low you are, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Edited by Robster on Saturday 19th November 23:27
craigjm said:
Robster said:
All good just can't sleep, felt like a chat, you.got in late?
I am at Butlins in minehead (shock horror) for their Madness and Ska weekend. Love madness and ska music but Butlins is definitely not my thing but sometimes you have to do things that are new hey because that's what's good about life right? 
Just got a lovely email from the ex, she's disgusted in me and questioning me as a father, I know I haven't seen the kids for a while, but want to get better first, few weeks ago this would of really upset me, now I just sent a decent reply back! Ending with your the motjer of my children so I'll try to respect you but you make it very hard! Not.goimg to be pushed around anymore!
Edited by Robster on Saturday 26th November 22:42
Morning everyone, sorry haven't updated for a while, got a bit busy posting on pistonheads (which to me is a good sign I'm finding pleasure in doing stuff again 
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so coming up to last of cbt, I feel like I've achieved something as it feels like I have completed something and moved on ,
work have agreed to pay me some of my wages as well as ssp, which had made a massive difference as was able to pay child support this month , speaking of children spoke to them on the phone, still a big mental block in going to see them, so this is my next challenge , ex doesn't understand depression and hates me for not seeing them, a few months ago this would of destroyed me, however I've managed through cbt, pistonheads and good friends to conditioned myself against negative thoughts , and her comments are now like water of a ducks back!
I've been working on resilience with cbt for me it's all about knowing my weaknesses and not putting myself in the wrong situation, e.g. If your an alcoholic you don't go into a pub , for me it's about surrounding myself with the positives.
There could potentially be some exciting stuff coming up, but too early to comment, please pray /cross your fingers it works out
Hope this post makes sense as again I've been up since 2am
Speak soon and thanks everyone for your continued support, if anyone has got any questions about cbt, I'm happy to help!
Ta Rob
) so coming up to last of cbt, I feel like I've achieved something as it feels like I have completed something and moved on ,
work have agreed to pay me some of my wages as well as ssp, which had made a massive difference as was able to pay child support this month , speaking of children spoke to them on the phone, still a big mental block in going to see them, so this is my next challenge , ex doesn't understand depression and hates me for not seeing them, a few months ago this would of destroyed me, however I've managed through cbt, pistonheads and good friends to conditioned myself against negative thoughts , and her comments are now like water of a ducks back!
I've been working on resilience with cbt for me it's all about knowing my weaknesses and not putting myself in the wrong situation, e.g. If your an alcoholic you don't go into a pub , for me it's about surrounding myself with the positives.
There could potentially be some exciting stuff coming up, but too early to comment, please pray /cross your fingers it works out
Hope this post makes sense as again I've been up since 2am
Speak soon and thanks everyone for your continued support, if anyone has got any questions about cbt, I'm happy to help!
Ta Rob
Edited by Robster on Thursday 22 December 07:25
FlyingMeeces said:
Good morning! Even if we are seeing it from opposite sides so to speak.
Yknow dude I don't even know you, but I'm so damn pleased for you. From your worst night to now, you have done so amazingly well to get this far and clearly you're still on the up.
I've wondered about CBT but always end up thinking, well, they can't fix bereavement so what's the point? What do you reckon, if one of the underlying problems is immovable, still worth a go?
Seeing the kids: how about you focus it around an activity. Really doesn't matter what, but something you can do together. Board game, any multiplayer computer or console game, crazy golf (there's an indoor one near me, good at this time of year), one of those climbing ropes courses (Go Ape?) - and then food after. Having something to focus on will give you all a shared experience, which will reduce the horrible anxious don't know what to say moments and provide something to talk about.
Lovely post thank you , regarding cbt , I can definelty recommend to help with bereavement, I've had my fair share, plus splitting up with someone is a kind of bereavement if that makes sense? Cbt helps condition your mind set to better deal with things, feel free to dm if I can help at all , can offer advice on how it's helped me Yknow dude I don't even know you, but I'm so damn pleased for you. From your worst night to now, you have done so amazingly well to get this far and clearly you're still on the up.
I've wondered about CBT but always end up thinking, well, they can't fix bereavement so what's the point? What do you reckon, if one of the underlying problems is immovable, still worth a go?
Seeing the kids: how about you focus it around an activity. Really doesn't matter what, but something you can do together. Board game, any multiplayer computer or console game, crazy golf (there's an indoor one near me, good at this time of year), one of those climbing ropes courses (Go Ape?) - and then food after. Having something to focus on will give you all a shared experience, which will reduce the horrible anxious don't know what to say moments and provide something to talk about.
Markbarry1977 said:
Congratulations rob, I followed this thread from the first night when you had us all worried.
Glad your doing so much better. It's amazing to read the differences in your posts. Stay safe and well and have a great xmas and new year.
Thank you , I can't bring myself to read my earlier posts, find it hard to take any credit , I've had support from you guys , doctors and friends , guess I have a spirit that doesn't want to give up , never want to sound like I have everything sussed, but feel really positive and hope I can help others on a similar journey Glad your doing so much better. It's amazing to read the differences in your posts. Stay safe and well and have a great xmas and new year.
littlepaul said:
Robster said:
Oh no what's up ? You ok?
Not as bad as others but a few things all in short time. First Christmas without my grandad ( passed away recently ) which is very strange. I don't enjoy Christmas At the best of times. Also on Christmas Eve was told that's it I'm no longer needed so no job .with my councillor being off due to having a baby it's bad timing.All just a bit s
t when everyone else around is so happy. HappyMidget said:
Currently in a hotel in Istanbul on an unscheduled layover due to a missed flight connection to Iran, so wishing everyone a happy new year if I don't get online before that. So proud of how you have handled things rob, and we will meet up again soon as both Anne and I really enjoy your company. 2016 has been a bit of a bh for all, here's to a better 2017.
Hi Buddy , what a nice thing to wake up and read , looking forward to catching up with you guys soon, good luck with the flights mate ,h for all, here's to a better 2017.Hope you have a great one !
Hi all its my birthday tomorrow and for the first time for a while I'm looking forward to it , my landlady who has become a friend has encouraged me to have a party , a year ago this seemed impossible, can't thank the people in my life enough , surround yourself with the right people and they will carry you
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