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Thanks for the link, I lost my sister to cancer almost 3 years ago ...she was only 41...with 3 kids ...she looked after herself never smoked just the occsional tipple.
As a footnote my Mum got me some rather nice cufflinks & christmas presents for the grandkids from here
http://www.josiesdragonfly.org/
As a footnote my Mum got me some rather nice cufflinks & christmas presents for the grandkids from here
http://www.josiesdragonfly.org/
I know that for us it was very important to get my father out of the hospital and home for his last few days. Something that CRE wrote has just reminded me slightly of this. One of the things that facilitated all of this was a Marie Curie nurse. People have mentioned Cancer Research and other related charities on here - I have regularly donated to Marie Curie since my father passed away. These people do an amazing job and allow others to spend their last moments at home with their family in familiar surroundings. I'm not sure my dad was really aware of it at the end but it brought some comfort to the rest of family.
I really salute what these people do and see their charity as an extremely worth while cause.
I really salute what these people do and see their charity as an extremely worth while cause.
Had a call from a friend today who learnt over xmas of his 10 year old Niece being diagnosed with bone cancer, and within just a few weeks has now several tumours on her lungs.
Given just a few weeks to live now.
It's very aggresive and just nothing they can do.
Just didn't know what to say to the guy, I had a lump in my throat while he was telling me.
Just so sad and at such a young age.
Given just a few weeks to live now.
It's very aggresive and just nothing they can do.
Just didn't know what to say to the guy, I had a lump in my throat while he was telling me.
Just so sad and at such a young age.
CRE said:
Jesus H, this is bringing back quite a lot of bad memories, my wishes to all of you who are suffering either directly or indirectly, for what its worth this is my slice of cancer s
t.
My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel fking heartbroken when I think about her.
Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
Very sad reading, my partner had the same thing in 2005, nasty mole spotted by myself on her back *it had been there 15 years* but it changed, had it removed * just over 1mm thickness* she has checks every six months, last check new years eve....., we have had another 2 children since 2005 against doctors advice, we thought f**k it.t.My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel f
king heartbroken when I think about her. Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
Your story made me choke, very upsetting :-(
After losing family and very dear freinds too this evil disease i really wish they could find a cure fast, respect to all the people working hard to resolve cures and helping loved ones though hard times.
Best wishes to all people in this thread who have been hit with this.
Andy
My very best wishes to all of those who are facing this terrible disease head on. I lost both grandparents on my mums side a few years ago and the thought of it touching our family again frightens me. This thread certainly puts situations into perspective and highlights the value of life.
CRE said:
Jesus H, this is bringing back quite a lot of bad memories, my wishes to all of you who are suffering either directly or indirectly, for what its worth this is my slice of cancer st.
My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel fking heartbroken when I think about her.
Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
Jesus that has made me sad t.My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel f
king heartbroken when I think about her. Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
It puts my problems in to perspective.....I wish you and your son all the best.
Some real sobering posts here , so sad to read some of them , I always thought it only happened to others .
My father was diagnosed 3 months ago , I was sat beside him as the doctor att St Georges broke the news , the first time I had seen my dads eyes fill up .
It is not operable and he is being managed with a mild chemo every 3 weeks and takes daily tablets .
Friday he had the 9 week scan to find out what is happening , we get the hard facts in the morning , hoping for best but expecting the worst
My father was diagnosed 3 months ago , I was sat beside him as the doctor att St Georges broke the news , the first time I had seen my dads eyes fill up .
It is not operable and he is being managed with a mild chemo every 3 weeks and takes daily tablets .
Friday he had the 9 week scan to find out what is happening , we get the hard facts in the morning , hoping for best but expecting the worst
CRE said:
Jesus H, this is bringing back quite a lot of bad memories, my wishes to all of you who are suffering either directly or indirectly, for what its worth this is my slice of cancer st.
My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel fking heartbroken when I think about her.
Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
OMG !My Heart goes out to you.I'am speechless,i hope you light a candle every year to remember.Best Wishest.My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel f
king heartbroken when I think about her. Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
rolex said:
will be cure for all its forms in the future?
Fair question. We could reduce the heredity (process whereby genetic factors are transmitted from one generation to the next) factors attributing to cancer (and many other diseases) by screening embryos to either select healthy embryos or splicing in "healthy" genetic information. I guess what rolex would have said:
On every child? Some parents will object and refuse based religious ideals or prejudices against genetic modification
If this was done with only a small section of the population could influence the whole population within twenty to thirty generations (depends on various factors like how many children they have and the initial uptake rate).This is on the edge of what has become technically possible within the last five years and really the only people stopping us are ourselves. Like all new technologies some people are resistant to change but, in a very real way, this could make the lives of all future generations much better and alleviate unnecessary suffering.
Anyway, another pint?
So many experiences.
So much pain.
My Mum died last June of Carcinomatosis.
Didn't even know she had it - she was suffering from Parkinson's for the last 10 years of her life.
Cancer just slipped in unnoticed...
A guy at work had his first Son three years ago.
Poor little guy has already lost an eye through Retinoblastoma.
Every checkup, every month is a nightmare.
My best friend died of Leukaemia five years ago.
He was 34.
Not a day goes by when I don't think of them all.
God, this is hard to write!
So many memories - good and bad.
Cancer doesn't care.
Life can be beautiful.
It can also cut you to the core.
Carpe Diem.
God bless.
So much pain.
My Mum died last June of Carcinomatosis.
Didn't even know she had it - she was suffering from Parkinson's for the last 10 years of her life.
Cancer just slipped in unnoticed...
A guy at work had his first Son three years ago.
Poor little guy has already lost an eye through Retinoblastoma.
Every checkup, every month is a nightmare.
My best friend died of Leukaemia five years ago.
He was 34.
Not a day goes by when I don't think of them all.
God, this is hard to write!
So many memories - good and bad.
Cancer doesn't care.
Life can be beautiful.
It can also cut you to the core.
Carpe Diem.
God bless.
My thoughts to everyone who's lost or suffering with this evil cancer. Im 24 I lost my mum at the age of 56 (I was 22), you know you never think it'll happen to you or your family thats the hard part. My mother never told us of her being diagnosed with early signs of cancer, she just didn't want us children to worry(we found out with only a week before she died that it was cancer, I still remember that day on the train we where on the way over to see her. My mum told us all she was getting better but you font go to a hospice to "get better" . We visited in the week before she passed and seeing her for the first time in the hospice was the worst moment in my life, seeing a healthy beautiful mother close to resembling a skeleton isnt nice and Id rather not remember my mum looking like that I remember her as the good loving beautiful mother she was. My mum was on so much morphine? she wasn't all there and hallucinating, but she was still smiling. I always remember her cold hands and kissing her goodbye - it felt atleast I knew she could hear me and told her I would one day see her again and tell all my future children about their nan. That was the last time I saw her alive, apparently she was waiting to "let go" when her children wasn't there and I can see why she did it and am thankful.
The cancer started at the cervix and later spread to the lungs, there was only so much the radiotherapy etc could do, although and still think they could of acted a lot quicker with the treatment.
Cancer runs on my mums side, I also lost my grandfather(her father) a few years before her death from it, atleast there together now. Also my nan her mum had breast cancer luckily had the lump removed and still alive today.
Father had lump on testicle few years back and had it removed and still here today so there is hope people, I have to always check myself and be aware of cancer seeing as it runs in my family.
What I will leave you with is to cherish everyday you have with your family. Nowadays I have come to terms with the death, I believe things happen for a reason, it has brought my family so much closer and thats what gets you through it.
Good luck all.
. We visited in the week before she passed and seeing her for the first time in the hospice was the worst moment in my life, seeing a healthy beautiful mother close to resembling a skeleton isnt nice and Id rather not remember my mum looking like that I remember her as the good loving beautiful mother she was. My mum was on so much morphine? she wasn't all there and hallucinating, but she was still smiling. I always remember her cold hands and kissing her goodbye - it felt atleast I knew she could hear me and told her I would one day see her again and tell all my future children about their nan. That was the last time I saw her alive, apparently she was waiting to "let go" when her children wasn't there and I can see why she did it and am thankful. The cancer started at the cervix and later spread to the lungs, there was only so much the radiotherapy etc could do, although and still think they could of acted a lot quicker with the treatment.
Cancer runs on my mums side, I also lost my grandfather(her father) a few years before her death from it, atleast there together now. Also my nan her mum had breast cancer luckily had the lump removed and still alive today.
Father had lump on testicle few years back and had it removed and still here today so there is hope people, I have to always check myself and be aware of cancer seeing as it runs in my family.
What I will leave you with is to cherish everyday you have with your family. Nowadays I have come to terms with the death, I believe things happen for a reason, it has brought my family so much closer and thats what gets you through it.
Good luck all.
Edited by Ellis456 on Tuesday 13th January 01:23
Edited by Ellis456 on Tuesday 13th January 01:24
Edited by Ellis456 on Tuesday 13th January 01:26
Jesus CRE I just had to take a wander outside after reading your post. We all plan a life together with our loved ones and we think we are going to be together for an eternity...I just can not imagine anything taking that away from me.
My father in law is going through a big scare at the moment. He is one of my closest friends and I'm terrified something will happen.
At the end of 2007 he had a mole move / change on his neck so he went to the family doctor and he kept telling him its okay with nothing to worry about. He went back 3 times about it but kept on being told the same thing...he wouldnt ask for another opinion as he is just not that kind of bloke.
We managed to convince him to go to a skin check clinic (one every other suburb here in aus) and they took one look and got him a hospital bed there and then...he had to call work and the family from his bed at hospital!
So they removed a big plug of skin that had got a melanoma.
He had to have scans every few weeks all through 2008 and around September they gave him an all clear.
In November 2008 he could feel a lump in the same spot as where the melanoma was taken from so he had more scans done and they found a couple of malignant tumours attached to glands in his neck. They also saw shadows on his left lunge but at the time he had a cold so it could have been fluid from that so they discounted those scans.
He went to hospital on December 29th where they near as damn it cut his head off to get at the tumours in his neck...an incision from behind his ear all the way to his adams apple. More scans were done of his chest.
He was discharged a week later with a clean bill of health and was told he did not have to go through radiotherapy.........until today
He has been called back in for a 2nd opinion.
My father in law is going through a big scare at the moment. He is one of my closest friends and I'm terrified something will happen.
At the end of 2007 he had a mole move / change on his neck so he went to the family doctor and he kept telling him its okay with nothing to worry about. He went back 3 times about it but kept on being told the same thing...he wouldnt ask for another opinion as he is just not that kind of bloke.
We managed to convince him to go to a skin check clinic (one every other suburb here in aus) and they took one look and got him a hospital bed there and then...he had to call work and the family from his bed at hospital!
So they removed a big plug of skin that had got a melanoma.
He had to have scans every few weeks all through 2008 and around September they gave him an all clear.
In November 2008 he could feel a lump in the same spot as where the melanoma was taken from so he had more scans done and they found a couple of malignant tumours attached to glands in his neck. They also saw shadows on his left lunge but at the time he had a cold so it could have been fluid from that so they discounted those scans.
He went to hospital on December 29th where they near as damn it cut his head off to get at the tumours in his neck...an incision from behind his ear all the way to his adams apple. More scans were done of his chest.
He was discharged a week later with a clean bill of health and was told he did not have to go through radiotherapy.........until today
He has been called back in for a 2nd opinion.
Ozone said:
CRE said:
Jesus H, this is bringing back quite a lot of bad memories, my wishes to all of you who are suffering either directly or indirectly, for what its worth this is my slice of cancer st.
My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel fking heartbroken when I think about her.
Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
Jesus that has made me sad t.My wife was diagnosed with skin cancer in 2005, nothing too dramatic just slice it off and dont worry. Every year after we had some sort of cancer scare, but fortunately it was just a scare each time. February 2008 and Nic came home from work with a terrible headache and blurred vision, after various visits from the Doc who prescribed stuff for viral infections etc she was admitted to hospital in March. They diagnosed that the cancer had come back, and had spread to her brain and her lungs. They did as much as they could for her, gave her all the latest drugs and enough radiotherapy to nearly kill her there and then.
We knew it was bad, and we started creating a memory box for our 3 year old son, and did as much as we could together as a family. We even managed to get her up Snowdon just a few days before she finally passed away in the hospital.
I am proud that I nursed her all the way to the end, she didnt end up in a hospice, she was at home until 4 hours before she went.
Even now, I stiil reach for the phone to text her when something good happens, still wonder why she died at such a young age (36)and feel f
king heartbroken when I think about her. Please excuse the rambling post.
For those people effected by cancer, I found a really useful site to find help, information and support;
www.cancerbuddiesnetwork.org
J
It puts my problems in to perspective.....I wish you and your son all the best.
swerni said:
These posts really are heart wrenching.
So many of us how have been touched with cancer either directly or indirectly.
They're also many more who have this disease waiting to ambush them or a loved one.
The positives to be gained are the increasing number of people surviving cancer each year.
While we can't change the past (and I'm sure many of us would give anything to be able to) we can help effect the future.
With the skills, compassion and ingenuity constantly shown on PH we must be able to come up with something to either, raise money, raise awareness or even bring some happiness into sufferers lives.
I want to put a team into the 3 peaks this year to raise money for cancer research.
anyone up for it or got any other ideas????
Good idea Steve.So many of us how have been touched with cancer either directly or indirectly.
They're also many more who have this disease waiting to ambush them or a loved one.
The positives to be gained are the increasing number of people surviving cancer each year.
While we can't change the past (and I'm sure many of us would give anything to be able to) we can help effect the future.
With the skills, compassion and ingenuity constantly shown on PH we must be able to come up with something to either, raise money, raise awareness or even bring some happiness into sufferers lives.
I want to put a team into the 3 peaks this year to raise money for cancer research.
anyone up for it or got any other ideas????
I did a sponsored "twitch" (technical birdwatching term) back in 2004.
swerni said:
I want to put a team into the 3 peaks this year to raise money for cancer research.
anyone up for it or got any other ideas????
I doubt if my body is up to the 3 Peaks Steve, but i'll support whatever is decided.anyone up for it or got any other ideas????
Can anyone think of a car-related event that could be sponsored?
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