Confused about an ex-girlfriend
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We had a chat last night and came to the conclusion that I'll be moving home to my parents at the end of the month as things up here just aren't working. Despite being two hours away she's quite happy, or at least says she is, to try a long distance thing and come down a couple of times a month to try and keep something going. Not sure why she would offer to do that if she wasn't interested - that's quite a commitment in my eyes.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
Your whole comment is based on your personal experience I guess? You can't tar everyone with the same brush. Everything you've just said goes against what she says and does but only I can say that. To you she's just a waste of time but you can't get an accurate grasp on it without being me.
I appreciate the advice but I'm still going ahead as I have nothing to lose from it. Thank you anyway!
I appreciate the advice but I'm still going ahead as I have nothing to lose from it. Thank you anyway!
All that jazz said:
One can only comment on the (limited) details provided. Unless you wish to add to your OP that she was crying rivers of tears into your pillow and was pleading and begging you not to go? If that didn't happen and you only got the token offer of visiting you twice per month "to try and keep something going" then it's pretty clear she does not have much in the way of feelings for you - certainly not the sort of feelings you want her to have for you.
It sounds to me like you've been friend zoned by her and are now firmly in FWB territory. She's showering you with just enough platitudes to keep you on the hook and make you think that the relationship is going somewhere and you're falling for it like a sucker. Women are good at this s
t (even the young ones) and know most men will hang off their every word, especially if they're fit and attractive. It's only when you get older and you've been through it a few times that you wise up to it and can spot the signs from a mile away.
She was literally crying her eyes out begging me not to go. Then the second time we had that same talk she was crying again and then a couple of days ago when we sat down and spoke about it in depth she cried again. She's either the most convincing liar or, more likely, doesn't want me to leave.It sounds to me like you've been friend zoned by her and are now firmly in FWB territory. She's showering you with just enough platitudes to keep you on the hook and make you think that the relationship is going somewhere and you're falling for it like a sucker. Women are good at this s
t (even the young ones) and know most men will hang off their every word, especially if they're fit and attractive. It's only when you get older and you've been through it a few times that you wise up to it and can spot the signs from a mile away.All that jazz said:
Perhaps if you'd mentioned that before you might've received different responses. 
OK, so she's cried you a river umpteen times and pleaded and begged you not to go, but you've decided to be a heartless b
d and ignore all this and send her packing? 
I'm not sure who's the victim here anymore . Also, tears from an 18 year girl are inevitable regardless of the content of the bad news so don't read too much into that.If it's true what you've written above (
) and you're not grossly exaggerating what actually happened, why have you not returned home and tried to make a go of it? I'm beginning to see a picture emerging that it's you that's messing her about, not the other way round. I think it's six of one and half a dozen of the other here.Just do what you want
. You'll figure it out in the end!I'm surprised nobody has asked for pictures or a custard test yet with this being PH.
We're officially unofficially back together again - we're not labelling things at the moment incase it puts pressure on it to work. Things aren't perfect but we're both working on it to try and make it work and we are no longer arguing. Still living away from home as I got offered a job that pays well so I can stay up here.
Not sure if anyone cares anymore but thought I'd leave one last update.
Feel like I've proven a lot of people wrong on here. We've never been better since I last posted on here and things have only got better between us. Unfortunately I had to leave my job and take medical leave as my health has taken a turn for the worse and now I've got to move back home. Moving day is tomorrow so no going back now. We've both agreed that we will try and make things work long distance and she's even considering dropping everything she has up here to move down with me.
Feel like I've proven a lot of people wrong on here. We've never been better since I last posted on here and things have only got better between us. Unfortunately I had to leave my job and take medical leave as my health has taken a turn for the worse and now I've got to move back home. Moving day is tomorrow so no going back now. We've both agreed that we will try and make things work long distance and she's even considering dropping everything she has up here to move down with me.
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