It's all a bit sad....

It's all a bit sad....

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surveyor

Original Poster:

17,768 posts

183 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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In a reflective mood tonight.

A friend with whom I was at University dies in her early 50's unexpectedly earlier this year.

Now found out that her youngest son (mid to early twenties I think) also died a couple of weeks ago.

Tragic in a number of ways, but especially for my friends mother and oldest son.

Life's short folks. Make the most of it - and if your struggling to cope for gods sake talk to somebody who can/will help.

driverrob

4,687 posts

202 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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I'd echo those sentiments.
As a retired teacher, still in contact with a number of ex-students via Facebook, I am always saddened at the news of the death of another of them.

Life may not seem short - until you discover that mother nature has decided to end it earlier than you expected.

Chebble

1,906 posts

151 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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Believe it or not, I've found myself musing things over regarding mortality recently, yet I'm only 25. No doubt that sounds rather silly to those older (and probably wiser) than me, but I think I'm at an awkward age where I'm not quite a 'young lad' anymore but I'm not exactly old!

I'm not a God fearing man (the exact opposite), or a believer in fate, but I do believe that whatever you do, when your number is up, it's up.

That said, despite my not so advancing years, I've seen too many acquaintances/friends die for my liking.

Getting older scares the st out of me.




danllama

5,728 posts

141 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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I lost my mum when I was 15. I realised then how suddenly it can all end. That experience pretty much hardened me to the loss of any friend or relative.

Whatever will be, will be.

Zerotonine

1,171 posts

173 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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I had a old school friend die at 19 with testicular cancer, then a couple of years later another went in a head on collision with a drunk driver, then this year one has committed suicide, an acquaintance has died at 21 of cancer, another has testicular cancer and not anywhere near 50s yet.

Life is far too short, and the reaper has a taste for those not yet at their prime. Live life while you can.

Chunkychucky

5,942 posts

168 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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danllama said:
I lost my mum when I was 15. I realised then how suddenly it can all end. That experience pretty much hardened me to the loss of any friend or relative.

Whatever will be, will be.
Same happened to my mother when I was aged 16. Don't think I ever properly came to terms with it, tried killing the pain with booze/drugs/self harm, now 8 and a bit years on I feel as though I am able to accept it and remember her without being overwhelmed.

A friend of mine died recently from a pulmonary embolism, had driven to a train station car park, got out of his car and collapsed dead. Thank God it didn't happen when he was driving, but guess his number must have been up

FiF

43,960 posts

250 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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It was brought home to me with the death of a comedian / broadcaster / author whose work I had enjoyed over the years, and despite never having met him had felt some connection due to us sharing a birthdate.

danllama

5,728 posts

141 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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Chunkychucky said:
Same happened to my mother when I was aged 16. Don't think I ever properly came to terms with it, tried killing the pain with booze/drugs/self harm, now 8 and a bit years on I feel as though I am able to accept it and remember her without being overwhelmed.

A friend of mine died recently from a pulmonary embolism, had driven to a train station car park, got out of his car and collapsed dead. Thank God it didn't happen when he was driving, but guess his number must have been up
Sorry to hear that mate. To be honest, I really didn't deal with it well, but life was st for a long time after and kept me distracted. 13 years on now. Crazy to think she's been gone almost as long as I had her.

It does get easier.


Eric Mc

121,779 posts

264 months

Saturday 10th October 2015
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People you know die. People you know and care about die. It happens more and more as you go get older and go through life. At some time it'll happen to you.

I have no problems dealing with any of this. I certainly don't let it get me down or morose.

mrtwisty

3,057 posts

164 months

Sunday 11th October 2015
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Eric Mc said:
I have no problems dealing with any of this. I certainly don't let it get me down or morose.
Good for you Eric. Nice comment just after a couple of guys have been discussing losing thier Mothers at a young age.

I mean come on guys, don't let it get you down!





Stay classy Eric.

Corpulent Tosser

5,459 posts

244 months

Sunday 11th October 2015
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Chebble said:
Getting older scares the st out of me.
Give it another 35 or so years and it will no longer scare the st out of you, it will fking terrify you

Eric Mc

121,779 posts

264 months

Sunday 11th October 2015
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mrtwisty said:
Good for you Eric. Nice comment just after a couple of guys have been discussing losing thier Mothers at a young age.

I mean come on guys, don't let it get you down!





Stay classy Eric.
Death IS a scary experience for youngsters. I know this from personal experience as I lost my best friend to a road accident when we were both only 12 years old. I think that event did harden my approach to death. Consequently, I've tried not to get too downhearted about the process. As I said, it's sad when someone you love or care about or knew well departs - but life does go on and at some point we have to face the fact of mortality ourselves.

I have a very large circle of friends and aquaintances that covers a very wide age range frm teens to mid 80s (mainly through my involvement in amateur operatics and my model club) and over the 30 odd years of involvement in these groups I've lost track of the funerals I've attended.

aw51 121565

4,771 posts

232 months

Tuesday 13th October 2015
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To be fair, one does get jaded about death...

I've been widowed twice - first time aged 32 and second time aged 44 - and one gets cynical about it sadly quickly frown . I am fine with it and have largely got my head round what has happened, please don't worry smile .

What is "normal" in this area? EricMc is "normal", as am I - and many of us posting on this thread are "normal" as well. Food for thought - he deals with death in his own way, as do I as well as quite a few others on this thread dealing with it our own ways as well scratchchin , and we pass out the other side fairly unscathed (but not understood by those who have - lucky them smile - narrowly missed the close attentions of the Grim Reaper's scythe thus far wink ).

glenrobbo

35,077 posts

149 months

Tuesday 13th October 2015
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Hmmmm, an interesting topic. scratchchin

At my age, it is inevitable that I am losing more and more friends to the Grim Reaper. But there is a plus side!.... As my Uncle Geoff once said, he was happy that he had no enemies ........ 'coz he'd outlived all of the bcensoredrs! biggrin

And remember, you should always attend peoples' funerals, or they won't come to yours.

Every morning when I wake up, I stretch out my elbows, and if there's no wood there, I know I'm in for another good day. smile

It is important to live each day to the max, don't put off stuff you'd like to do until 'sometime in the future', do it whilst you still can! And most importantly, be happy! It's a lot better than brooding about mortality.....

Oh, and just remember that birthdays are good for you: The more you have, the longer you live! wink

Now then, what's next on my bucket list??????


That's all folks......





Edited by glenrobbo on Tuesday 13th October 10:46

driverrob

4,687 posts

202 months

Tuesday 13th October 2015
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glenrobbo said:
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That's all folks......


Who said "nostalgia's not what it used to be?

getmecoat


Edited by driverrob on Tuesday 13th October 18:09

driverrob

4,687 posts

202 months

Tuesday 13th October 2015
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glenrobbo said:
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That's all folks......


Who said "nostalgia's not what it used to be?

getmecoat


Edited by driverrob on Tuesday 13th October 19:17

Eric Mc

121,779 posts

264 months

Tuesday 13th October 2015
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aw51 121565 said:
To be fair, one does get jaded about death...

I've been widowed twice - first time aged 32 and second time aged 44 - and one gets cynical about it sadly quickly frown . I am fine with it and have largely got my head round what has happened, please don't worry smile .

What is "normal" in this area? EricMc is "normal", as am I - and many of us posting on this thread are "normal" as well. Food for thought - he deals with death in his own way, as do I as well as quite a few others on this thread dealing with it our own ways as well scratchchin , and we pass out the other side fairly unscathed (but not understood by those who have - lucky them smile - narrowly missed the close attentions of the Grim Reaper's scythe thus far wink ).
And I've just been told that my wife's brother has been diagnosed with possible pancreatic cancer - and we'll more than likely have to look after him as he has mental health issues as well. I'm beginning to get very innured to talk of death to be honest.