Naming your first child and your input?

[BrabusMog]

I'm interested to hear the thoughts of people on this.

Did you have much of a say on the name of your first born? Did it mean something to you? Or did you just roll over and let the missus decide?

[Butter Face]

We both came up with ideas for our daughter, eventually we had two names that we both liked, the one I liked is her first name and the one my wife liked is her middle name.

But if your wife picks a name and you like it, just go with it!

[jimothy]

Ours was a joint decision. I originally wanted my late grandmothers name as her middle name but my idiot brother did that for his bd offspring so we ended up with a first name that uses it (whilst still a normal name, not a council estate name!)

Middle name was her suggestion and I was happy with it.

[HTP99]

Fortunately both myself and the wife have very similar views on many things; including children's names and we both like names that are not common and a bit different, but are still traditional as opposed to some made up chav crap.

The eldest; 23 now, her name was chosen because the wife babysat for a girl with this name and we both liked it, especially as it is a traditional but not often used name; Frances, her middle name is the wife's nan's first name.

The youngest; 16 now, I really wanted to call her Freddie/Freddy, the wife was dead against it as a) she wasn't keen on calling a girl Freddie/Freddy and being as our eldest was Frances; introducing your children as Freddie and Frances is a bit sad; which on reflection it is.

At the time we watched East Enders and there was a character called Saskia (bit of a psycho), we really liked the name as it was a bit different so that is the name that we chose, since then we have have found out from records that only two Saskia's were registered in England and Wales that year. Saskia doesn't have a middle name; we couldn't decide between using my mum's name or my grandma's so in the end didn't bother, and anyway I don't really see the point in them.

Edited by HTP99 on Thursday 26th November 08:32

[C.A.R.]

There's so much pressure on young mums nowadays to come up with a unique name, they often come out with all sorts of mental. I had quite a lot of involvement, so we had a rarer name for our first born but not a stupid one.

[mike80]

Butter Face said:

We both came up with ideas for our daughter, eventually we had two names that we both liked, the one I liked is her first name and the one my wife liked is her middle name.

Similar for us, although we both like the first name!

[KrazyIvan]

Had my Daughter's name picked out long before she was conceived, was a name I had always like and the wife agreed.

We agreed 3 names for our son with her picking one, but the instant he was born I felt it didn't suit him so changed it to one of the others.

For reference the names are Alexia and Aidan.

[Vixpy1]

We chose names that she liked, but that had been used in my family for generations, so that kind of worked well

[Rosscow]

I thought of both of our daughters names (first and middle names, both daughters), was fortunate that the wife liked them as well!

[Matt_N]

We had 3 names in mind for a boy and 2 for a girl, we were blessed with a gorgeous little boy but it took 3 days to work out what name suited him best, but he definitely is a Henry.

[BrabusMog]

Here's the thing...

My missus is Swedish and we split our time between the UK and Sweden equally. We still haven't quite decided where we are going to raise the children, but we have one on the way. Whilst my heart says Sweden, my head screams UK. And, as such, we now have a problem with her name choice. I don't mind it in Sweden, although it is a bit old fashioned, but she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.

My group chat with my best friends has polarized opinion on the best way to proceed, the current best suggestion is put both these names in a hat, along with a "wildcard" third name, and have a non-partisan person pick from the hat. Whilst I think this is a good idea, the thought of having a son called Bengt in a UK school still troubles me.

First world problems, eh?!

[dillenger]

As me and the wife are quite spiritual people we went along with the Native American Indian way of naming our child.

Picking her name after the first thing we looked at out of the maternity wards window after she was born.

Some of our friends don’t like it, but our daughter …. Two dogs fking…. Loves it

[Ki3r]

HTP99 said:

Fortunately both myself and the wife have very similar views on many things; including children's names and we both like names that are not common and a bit different, but are still traditional as opposed to some made up chav crap.

The eldest; 23 now, her name was chosen because the wife babysat for a girl with this name and we both liked it, especially as it is a traditional but not often used name; Frances, her middle name is the wife's nan's first name.

The youngest; 16 now, I really wanted to call her Freddie/Freddy, the wife was dead against it as a) she wasn't keen on calling a girl Freddie/Freddy and being as our eldest was Frances; introducing your children as Freddie and Frances is a bit sad; which on reflection it is.

At the time we watched East Enders and there was a character called Saskia (bit of a psycho), we really liked the name as it was a bit different so that is the name that we chose, since then we have have found out from records that only two Saskia's were registered in England and Wales that year. Saskia doesn't have a middle name; we couldn't decide between using my mum's name or my grandma's so in the end didn't bother, and anyway I don't really see the point in them.

Edited by HTP99 on Thursday 26th November 08:32

My sisters middle name is Frances, after my mums nan I believe. She hates it for some reason, but seeing as Frances was always known as Fanny it could have been a lot worse!

I've not got kids, but as long as it's not called Jake I'll be happy. All kids called Jake are horrible kids.

[Rosscow]

dillenger said:

As me and the wife are quite spiritual people we went along with the Native American Indian way of naming our child.

Picking her name after the first thing we looked at out of the maternity wards window after she was born.

Some of our friends don’t like it, but our daughter …. Two dogs fking…. Loves it

[BrabusMog]

Rosscow said:

dillenger said:

As me and the wife are quite spiritual people we went along with the Native American Indian way of naming our child.

Picking her name after the first thing we looked at out of the maternity wards window after she was born.

Some of our friends don’t like it, but our daughter …. Two dogs fking…. Loves it

Brilliant

[dave_s13]

BrabusMog said:

Here's the thing...

My missus is Swedish and we split our time between the UK and Sweden equally. We still haven't quite decided where we are going to raise the children, but we have one on the way. Whilst my heart says Sweden, my head screams UK. And, as such, we now have a problem with her name choice. I don't mind it in Sweden, although it is a bit old fashioned, but she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.

My group chat with my best friends has polarized opinion on the best way to proceed, the current best suggestion is put both these names in a hat, along with a "wildcard" third name, and have a non-partisan person pick from the hat. Whilst I think this is a good idea, the thought of having a son called Bengt in a UK school still troubles me.

First world problems, eh?!

If that G is silent then he better be pretty thick skinned. If there was a lad in my high school called "Bent" and he showed signs of weakness life would have been hard, very hard.

I love a gay bloke as much as the next queer but I would not call my lad "bent".

Is there there Swedish word for the English derogatory meaning of the word bent? Suggest to your wife this is what it will likely be turned into at school.

Getting through school is hard enough.

Oh and my 3 were named by my Mrs pretty much, but I love their names so it's all good.

Edited by dave_s13 on Thursday 26th November 09:36

[Adenauer]

My wife chose the Christian names and I chose the middle names.

And I think Elise and Delahaye are pretty good as middle names go.

[BrabusMog]

dave_s13 said:

If that G is silent then he better be pretty thick skinned. If there was a lad in my high school called "Bent" and he showed signs of weakness life would have been hard, very hard.

I love a gay bloke as much as the next queer but I would not call my lad "bent".

Is there there Swedish word for the English derogatory meaning of the word bent? Suggest to your wife this is what it will likely be turned into at school.

Getting through school is hard enough.

My missus looks at it in a "sink or swim" kind of way and has questioned how he will get through life if he hasn't had a tough childhood I can sort of see what she means, but at the same time I wouldn't attach weights to his swim shorts to make sure he doesn't find swimming too easy, if you see what I mean?

And the "G" isn't silent, but it's not pronounced that strongly, either. It's the Swedish version of Benedict, I think.

[rsv696]

BrabusMog said:

Here's the thing...

My missus is Swedish and we split our time between the UK and Sweden equally. We still haven't quite decided where we are going to raise the children, but we have one on the way. Whilst my heart says Sweden, my head screams UK. And, as such, we now have a problem with her name choice. I don't mind it in Sweden, although it is a bit old fashioned, but she wants to call him Bengt, after both her grandfathers. I can just see hear the taunts on the playground now if we did decide to base ourselves permanently in the UK. But she is also pushing back on my choice of Oscar, so we have reached a bit of an impasse.

My group chat with my best friends has polarized opinion on the best way to proceed, the current best suggestion is put both these names in a hat, along with a "wildcard" third name, and have a non-partisan person pick from the hat. Whilst I think this is a good idea, the thought of having a son called Bengt in a UK school still troubles me.

First world problems, eh?!

Mrs Rsv is Swedish too. We decided on English names that work in both countries. Ben could be a good compromise. You have to careful - you'll probably know this, but Pippa means "bonk" in Swedish for example! My mrs spotted an army fitness campaign a few years ago called "Get fitta" which translates as goat fanny

[Pints]

BrabusMog said:

My missus looks at it in a "sink or swim" kind of way and has questioned how he will get through life if he hasn't had a tough childhood I can sort of see what she means, but at the same time I wouldn't attach weights to his swim shorts to make sure he doesn't find swimming too easy, if you see what I mean?

And the "G" isn't silent, but it's not pronounced that strongly, either. It's the Swedish version of Benedict, I think.

What about Ben?