Struggling with 2nd baby...
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Have a 4 1/2 year old and a 12 week old.
The boy was a piece of cake, really easy to look after, didn't cry much, slept through etc. etc.
The girl however is proving to be somewhat difficult, for me at least. She's perfectly normal and healthy, but she's a little ill at the moment (doc says viral infection), and it's causing her to cry all the time she's awake.
Compared to other babies we know, she's still really good, but she just seems to get me really upset.
I'm very laid back, but I'm finding myself increasingly annoyed by her screaming...I know she can't help it, but I'm finding myself getting angry - not taking it out on her, but raising my voice and probably taking it out on the boy and SWMBO.
Anyone experienced similar? I love her to bits, but I ordered a quiet baby and the wife says she can't find the receipt!
The boy was a piece of cake, really easy to look after, didn't cry much, slept through etc. etc.
The girl however is proving to be somewhat difficult, for me at least. She's perfectly normal and healthy, but she's a little ill at the moment (doc says viral infection), and it's causing her to cry all the time she's awake.
Compared to other babies we know, she's still really good, but she just seems to get me really upset.
I'm very laid back, but I'm finding myself increasingly annoyed by her screaming...I know she can't help it, but I'm finding myself getting angry - not taking it out on her, but raising my voice and probably taking it out on the boy and SWMBO.
Anyone experienced similar? I love her to bits, but I ordered a quiet baby and the wife says she can't find the receipt!
I'm no expert but do you think it's possible that with your son as well, the extra strain and the crying is taking an effect on you?
Do you need a break?
Or maybe you should talk to someone? We all learn to associate a response with something in our environment and sounds like you've anchored a state of annoyance with her crying which maybe you didn't do with your lad?
Honestly the doctor may have some good ideas but be aware that you're annoyance can destroy the relationship you have with your son and your wife.
Do you need a break?
Or maybe you should talk to someone? We all learn to associate a response with something in our environment and sounds like you've anchored a state of annoyance with her crying which maybe you didn't do with your lad?
Honestly the doctor may have some good ideas but be aware that you're annoyance can destroy the relationship you have with your son and your wife.
OP, I feel your pain I really do. My son just turned 4 and my daughter just turned 1.
Both of ours were a f
kin nightmare with colic, reflux, crappy sleeping patterns etc etc.
A few things:
1. It really does get better, quickly. Hopefully by 6 months old.
2. Can you and your wife take turns to sleep in a quiet room while the other does baby duty for a night?
3. A break really might help, even just a night away. Can you get a sitter you trust?
4. Develop a taste for whisky.
HTH.
Both of ours were a f
kin nightmare with colic, reflux, crappy sleeping patterns etc etc.A few things:
1. It really does get better, quickly. Hopefully by 6 months old.
2. Can you and your wife take turns to sleep in a quiet room while the other does baby duty for a night?
3. A break really might help, even just a night away. Can you get a sitter you trust?
4. Develop a taste for whisky.
HTH.
At least you are aware that you may be taking it out on the others. Try and keep that in mind as the day presses on. Lack of sleep can be a killer so im sure thats playing its part too. Have the docs given her anything for her virus? Calpol etc? Can give them a very rough tummy. Wont be a barrel of laughs for your daughter either. You can only hope that as time passes it eases up quickly. Just keep in mind that it isnt your little boy's fault and he is probably fed up too of the crying etc. See if its possible then go outside for a few mins when it gets really overbearing for you - take your boy with you and kick a ball around for a while. Anything to release the tension!
Sounds more like colic than viral for her to be crying all the time. My boy has just had his first bout of illness, he was definitely more tearful but he wasn't crying the whole time he was awake. if it is colic just remember it will pass soon, same goes if it is viral, try and think how it must be for your little one, it can't be nice for her either to feel the need to be crying all the time.
Any family able to look after her for a few hrs so the rest of you can go out for a bit of a break?
Any family able to look after her for a few hrs so the rest of you can go out for a bit of a break?
We has this with our second after an easy peasy first baby. T'was a big shock to the system.
As previously mentioned, it's probably coelic, but the most important thing to remember when she's screaming, is that it doesn't last for ever, so you just have to grin and bear it for a while....
Good luck
As previously mentioned, it's probably coelic, but the most important thing to remember when she's screaming, is that it doesn't last for ever, so you just have to grin and bear it for a while....
Good luck
I feel your pain, we have had it for 5 months now. Doctors, mid wives and health workers have all said its colic. After kicking off we are now with a specialist who says its not colic but either reflux or a protein allergy. We have tried every thing off the shelf and is currently on anti-acid stuff (on prescription not gavi), but no real effect, it seems the only cure now is patients and time.
Still, I would not be without him for the world.
Still, I would not be without him for the world.
Edited by BGB autosport on Friday 31st December 10:47
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