Divorce advice

[eightseventhree]

Im about to start divorce proceedings and looking for the quickest cheapest way of doing it.

We are going down the Unreasonable Behaviour route uncontested with transfer of property (with no equity) to myself and a clean break agreement

Any advice would be good!

[Ozone]

Sorry to hear about the divorce.

Try and not get wound up and angry. The solicitors are very good at winding you and the other party up because they will make more money. I fell in to their trap.

Stay calm and think of the bigger picture, hopefully children are not involved.

Hope it goes ok for you.

[GT03ROB]

eightseventhree said:

Im about to start divorce proceedings and looking for the quickest cheapest way of doing it.

We are going down the Unreasonable Behaviour route uncontested with transfer of property (with no equity) to myself and a clean break agreement

Any advice would be good!

Don't let her talk to mates or a solicitor!

Otherwise try & keep it amicable. Oh & good luck.

[EDLT]

Buy a new patio?

[eightseventhree]

New patio not an option although has been suggested by a non welsh speaking PH mate of mine!

Trying to keep solicitors out of it, both trying to save cash and there is nothing to get really! unless she wants some potential negative equity !

[grar]

GT03ROB said:

Don't let her talk to mates or a solicitor!

Otherwise try & keep it amicable. Oh & good luck.

Too true, once solicitors get involved its a downward spiral!!

[Fittster]

Key point, are there any children?

[eightseventhree]

No children involved, dog gone to the in-laws-to-be.

So there is just the house with no equity that i'm happy to take on myself (and she is happy to walk)

[dundarach]

If it's truly amicable, get the web - cost me £500 5 years ago all in....

But if you can't trust one another - then that could be risky...

[eightseventhree]

we have spoke tonight and agreed what grounds etc. Both wanting to be out and get on with our lives as quick and painless as possible

[oldcynic]

Lawpack guide to divorce. Don't bother with solicitors if you're agreeing with each other.

You'll have filing fees etc but should be able to avoid any other bills, should be done & dusted in a few months. I did the whole thing myself about 10 years back and it was pretty straightforward.

[ThePrisoner]

eightseventhree said:

we have spoke tonight and agreed what grounds etc. Both wanting to be out and get on with our lives as quick and painless as possible

Then sort it out between your selves. Don't get Matrimonial Solicitors evolved. Serious money coming your way if you do.My advice is ,agree a figure and stick to it.Settle out of Court my friend.

HTH

[cazzer]

And the second you get a whiff that she may have seen a solictor (which she will) go see one yerself or you'll get reamed.

Believe me, even if you think you have nothing to take, they'll take a chunk of yer future.

[Astacus]

BUT do make sure that it is agreed and final. No comming back when (if) the housing market picks up an there IS equity. Learn from those who have made a bit of money down the line and got fleeced after the fact.

[The Moose]

The best advice I've heard is to take a few days off work and go and speak to every solicitor that will see you and give you an initial consult for free.

Apparenty, if you do this, then she can't hire them due to 'conflicts of interests'.

No idea if it's true...but if I'm ever in the unlucky situation you are in, a move I'll definitely be making!

Cheers

The Moose

[oldcynic]

cazzer said:

And the second you get a whiff that she may have seen a solictor (which she will)

You know his ex then?

Perfectly possible to act like responsible adults and not piss money up the wall, even when divorcing.


ETA: If you want to use a solicitor to review proceedings then do so, but don't get them to represent you - no need to pay through the nose for someone else to type letters on your behalf. However if you are agreeing on divorce proceedings then you're better off maintaining the fragile peace and working through the lawpack book "Do your own divorce" or whatever it's called these days.

Our last few dealings with my wife's ex were reviewed by a solicitor to cover our backs, but the fkwit ex had no idea because we wrote our own letters. He eventually had a solicitor representing him and was not being reasonable in any sense of the word.

Edited by oldcynic on Monday 21st February 23:35

[james_tigerwoods]

What no C&H suggestions yet? PH is slowing...

My divorce went easily, we agreed that I was being unreasonable and we signed a "clean break" agreement and it's all clean and done - the clean break is very important.

[ThePrisoner]

cazzer said:

And the second you get a whiff that she may have seen a solictor (which she will) go see one yerself or you'll get reamed.

Believe me, even if you think you have nothing to take, they'll take a chunk of yer future.

[eightseventhree]

hehehehe SWT and all that!

Has anyone done the online route? whats the best site to use ? Or is it much less hassle doing it DIY

[renmure]

My Ex and I agreed everthing between us in a perfectly amicable way. The split of "stuff" we agreed wasn't quite 50:50 (I was getting more stuff) so we agreed that I would go to the solicitor and get the ball rolling. That solicitor rightly said Ex needed an independant solicitor just to confirm she was aware that things were not 50:50 and she was entitled to more and suggested another solicitor in town. Ex had brief meeting with that solicitor and confirmed everthing was as agreed. Total cost for us both was circa £500(ish) to have minute of agreement drawn up and everthing done properly and still amicable.