Domestic abuse and likely course of action?
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I suppose there is no typical course of action in these situations, but I'm wondering if anyone has any experience of how these things get dealt with.
My OH's sister has been found out this morning to be having a long term affair. When confronted by her husband she responded that she didn't have any regrets and just wanted fun. Not exactly helping her cause by the sound of it. Unfortunately he has apparently resorted to slapping her before jumping in his car and driving off from the family home.
She has reported it to the police.
I've not heard anything else since then, but my OH is concerned about the immediate impact on their 3 children and is particularly worried that the reported violence might result in their dad been dragged away by the police, or social services involvement over the kids.
Just after some insight into likely course of action if possible. I've fortunately never experienced these sorts of things and am at a bit of a loss what to expect.
My OH's sister has been found out this morning to be having a long term affair. When confronted by her husband she responded that she didn't have any regrets and just wanted fun. Not exactly helping her cause by the sound of it. Unfortunately he has apparently resorted to slapping her before jumping in his car and driving off from the family home.
She has reported it to the police.
I've not heard anything else since then, but my OH is concerned about the immediate impact on their 3 children and is particularly worried that the reported violence might result in their dad been dragged away by the police, or social services involvement over the kids.
Just after some insight into likely course of action if possible. I've fortunately never experienced these sorts of things and am at a bit of a loss what to expect.
bodhi808 said:
My OH's sister has been found out this morning to be having a long term affair. When confronted by her husband she responded that she didn't have any regrets and just wanted fun.
Unfortunately he has apparently resorted to slapping her before jumping in his car and driving off from the family home.
She has reported it to the police.
My OH is concerned about the immediate impact on their 3 children and is particularly worried that the reported violence might result in their dad been dragged away by the police, or social services involvement over the kids.
He will get arrested for it.Unfortunately he has apparently resorted to slapping her before jumping in his car and driving off from the family home.
She has reported it to the police.
My OH is concerned about the immediate impact on their 3 children and is particularly worried that the reported violence might result in their dad been dragged away by the police, or social services involvement over the kids.
Nice of her to say no regrets.
SpydieNut said:
markiii said:
indeed, if it was simple slap, not exactly a big deal
- not sure the police will agree with you there.Octoposse said:
Yes - he is extremely likely to be arrested. Bail conditions possibly not to be at family home. Risk assessment which will inform involvement of other agencies. Prosecution.
Hypothetically what if he'd gone out and got laid, told the wife he just wanted some fun and she slapped him on the way out (or slapped him then threw him out as is more likely)?Pablo68 said:
Octoposse said:
Yes - he is extremely likely to be arrested. Bail conditions possibly not to be at family home. Risk assessment which will inform involvement of other agencies. Prosecution.
Hypothetically what if he'd gone out and got laid, told the wife he just wanted some fun and she slapped him on the way out (or slapped him then threw him out as is more likely)?Thanks for the heads up guys, we hadn't considered that bail might prevent him returning to the house.
The latest story is that she swung for him first. No idea of the truth in this. OH's sister is a drama queen at the best of times and making snide remarks is quite normal behaviour.
Husband has a temper on him but to my knowledge has not been physically abusive in the past.
Do social services often get brought in for a one off situation like this? I suppose from their view they can't be too careful where children are concerned.
The latest story is that she swung for him first. No idea of the truth in this. OH's sister is a drama queen at the best of times and making snide remarks is quite normal behaviour.
Husband has a temper on him but to my knowledge has not been physically abusive in the past.
Do social services often get brought in for a one off situation like this? I suppose from their view they can't be too careful where children are concerned.
It's impossible to say what is likely to happen as there are so many variables involved depending on the police policy and how far the wife wants to push it.
He could just get a verbal warning, or he could end up in court on an ABH charge.
He could loose access to his home and likely children for the immediate future.
The loss of control for just a moment could cause him a whole word of pain and inconvenience.
He could just get a verbal warning, or he could end up in court on an ABH charge.
He could loose access to his home and likely children for the immediate future.
The loss of control for just a moment could cause him a whole word of pain and inconvenience.
PurpleMoonlight said:
It's impossible to say what is likely to happen as there are so many variables involved depending on the police policy and how far the wife wants to push it.
He could just get a verbal warning, or he could end up in court on an ABH charge.
He could loose access to his home and likely children for the immediate future.
The loss of control for just a moment could cause him a whole word of pain and inconvenience.
Unless he admits it, wouldnt it be next to impossible to prove it?He could just get a verbal warning, or he could end up in court on an ABH charge.
He could loose access to his home and likely children for the immediate future.
The loss of control for just a moment could cause him a whole word of pain and inconvenience.
Eclassy said:
Unless he admits it, wouldnt it be next to impossible to prove it?
Maybe, but that doesn't mean he won't be charged and have to attend a hearing to decide.I got charged with GBH and I wasn't even in the house when the alleged incident occurred. Apparently she smashed a glass over her own head then called the police and claimed I did it. A true loony.
Depending on which force but he is likely to get arrested, if his OH claims she is scared of him the bail will result in him being banned from the vicinity of the family home. As has been said before a risk assesment that may involve interviewing children.
If it's a force that follows current guidelines then he will be prosecuted NOT cautioned. If a divorce ensues he will find it very difficult having access to his kids, even supervised.
Best advice get a brief and arrange to attend Local station ask for a Member of the safeguarding team to deal with the appointment and under no circumstances admit a thing regardless of what anyone says to him. Also get a proper brief not a duty solicitor who is paid for the attendance and not by the hour, if he advises your BiL to say 'no comment' bin him and get a proper one.
If. He gets this wrong it could end his world.
Vindictive
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If it's a force that follows current guidelines then he will be prosecuted NOT cautioned. If a divorce ensues he will find it very difficult having access to his kids, even supervised.
Best advice get a brief and arrange to attend Local station ask for a Member of the safeguarding team to deal with the appointment and under no circumstances admit a thing regardless of what anyone says to him. Also get a proper brief not a duty solicitor who is paid for the attendance and not by the hour, if he advises your BiL to say 'no comment' bin him and get a proper one.
If. He gets this wrong it could end his world.
Vindictive
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