what can we do about our neighbour?

what can we do about our neighbour?

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V8 Fettler

7,019 posts

131 months

Monday 28th July 2014
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Must be awful living near to other people

A500leroy

5,078 posts

117 months

Monday 28th July 2014
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smiffy180 said:
Hah, that would be fine if it was ours. However it's not and its also buried under a layer of stones in the garden. Meaning I can't walk across it now without checking every step
This.! Get a decent fence around your garden and bins and padlock it, hopefully you've already got blinds on your windows to stop the onset bh looking!

smiffy180

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6,017 posts

149 months

Monday 28th July 2014
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V8 Fettler said:

Must be awful living near to other people
Just her. Other side is fine smile

smiffy180

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6,017 posts

149 months

Monday 28th July 2014
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fesuvious said:
I have four letters for you OP

GTFO.

Been there with a nuts neighbour. We moved.
We are very close to buying a house. Just because of contracts, moving costs etc we don't want to. Unless it got silly bad like some neighbour threads I've seen on here.

Tunku

7,703 posts

227 months

Monday 28th July 2014
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Change you neighbour by changing address. Only way, I'm afraid, unless you can get her sectioned.

Steffan

10,362 posts

227 months

Monday 28th July 2014
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TooMany2cvs said:
smiffy180 said:
So now we're fed up of her and want her gone, we rent and like it here except her. She terrorises us and enough is enough. My OH is pregnant and doesn't need the stress. Anything we can do?
Three options, basically.

- Smile, shake your head, accept she's got issues, and just live with it.
- Move.
- Get legal with a restraining order, after plenty of exact time-and-date documentation.

One of those is the most expensive, most stressful and least likely to do anything. Three guesses which.
LOL at that. I must agree the op needs to consider carefully what he wants.

Good neighbours are rarely achieved by combative action. In reality these actions are not threatening or serious and really at nuisance level therefore best either resolved by moving or staying put and finding a way to jog along without hassle. If the op cannot do that then I really do think discretion is the better part of valour. Litigation is likely to be very expensive and unlikely to resolve anything in such cases.

ging84

8,789 posts

145 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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smiffy180 said:
-everyone's business is her business
smiffy180 said:
-every single time without fail if we have someone at our door wether it be a friend coming over or a person doing a questionaire she'll be at her door/window listening in. ...
a nosey neighbour eh? Wouldn't want to live near one of them


smiffy180 said:
-she's up at all times of the day, I don't think she sleeps!
smiffy180 said:
until we heard her bhing to other neighbours claiming that we force her to take our bins out!?...
smiffy180 said:
-We overheard her having a conversation with the neighbours opposite complaining that our curtains were always closed and they can't see inside our house! WTF!?...
smiffy180 said:
Crazy lady was watching us but with all lights off, this is not like her as she in very nosey and normally outside to join in other people's business. At around 5am my OH heard the male cat and let him in, this time is also around the time crazy lady's husband gets in - between 2-6am depending on what shifts he has worked

smiffy180

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6,017 posts

149 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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ging84 said:
smiffy180 said:
-everyone's business is her business
smiffy180 said:
-every single time without fail if we have someone at our door wether it be a friend coming over or a person doing a questionaire she'll be at her door/window listening in. ...
a nosey neighbour eh? Wouldn't want to live near one of them


smiffy180 said:
-she's up at all times of the day, I don't think she sleeps!
smiffy180 said:
until we heard her bhing to other neighbours claiming that we force her to take our bins out!?...
smiffy180 said:
-We overheard her having a conversation with the neighbours opposite complaining that our curtains were always closed and they can't see inside our house! WTF!?...
smiffy180 said:
Crazy lady was watching us but with all lights off, this is not like her as she in very nosey and normally outside to join in other people's business. At around 5am my OH heard the male cat and let him in, this time is also around the time crazy lady's husband gets in - between 2-6am depending on what shifts he has worked
I don't understand your post, are you trying to say I'm nosey because I can overhear her outside?

Some Gump

12,649 posts

185 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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Op,

Easy solution.
Let her have the cats, because cats are rubbish anyway.

Buy a dog.

See how easy that was? Everyone's a winner!

KingNothing

3,159 posts

152 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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What you need to do is, you and your OH need to get some cat costumes, put them on and walk around the garden, crazy lady will then tempt you to come into her house (or kidnap you), you can then observe her unnoticed in her own house in order to come up with why she is like she is, then be released before her husband comes in from nightshift.

CallorFold

831 posts

132 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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She sounds like a total psychopath haha - I'd be barring the doors and windows and buying black-out curtains!

stuartmmcfc

8,653 posts

191 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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smiffy180 said:
ging84 said:
smiffy180 said:
-everyone's business is her business
smiffy180 said:
-every single time without fail if we have someone at our door wether it be a friend coming over or a person doing a questionaire she'll be at her door/window listening in. ...
a nosey neighbour eh? Wouldn't want to live near one of them


smiffy180 said:
-she's up at all times of the day, I don't think she sleeps!
smiffy180 said:
until we heard her bhing to other neighbours claiming that we force her to take our bins out!?...
smiffy180 said:
-We overheard her having a conversation with the neighbours opposite complaining that our curtains were always closed and they can't see inside our house! WTF!?...
smiffy180 said:
Crazy lady was watching us but with all lights off, this is not like her as she in very nosey and normally outside to join in other people's business. At around 5am my OH heard the male cat and let him in, this time is also around the time crazy lady's husband gets in - between 2-6am depending on what shifts he has worked
I don't understand your post, are you trying to say I'm nosey because I can overhear her outside?
I understand his post, it does sound like the situation is making you a bit paranoid?

smiffy180

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6,017 posts

149 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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stuartmmcfc said:
I understand his post, it does sound like the situation is making you a bit paranoid?
Yeh our friends did not believe a word of how bad she is until they experienced it. Anyone is welcome to find out, you might feel like a celebrity with the attention she'll give you though hehe

JM

3,170 posts

205 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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smiffy180 said:
-she's been caught (not on camera) dumping her garden waste in our 3rd garden.
Worst look at me and my three gardens post, ever!



smiffy180

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6,017 posts

149 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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JM said:
Worst look at me and my three gardens post, ever!
Hah it's great biggrin want to convert the 3rd to a parking space but not sure I'll be around long enough

ging84

8,789 posts

145 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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smiffy180 said:
I don't understand your post, are you trying to say I'm nosey because I can overhear her outside?
My point is you are complaining about her watching you and listening in to you
but you are doing the exact same thing to her
stop paying so much attention to her and half the problems you've mentioned would be solved

CYMR0

3,940 posts

199 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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smiffy180 said:
We're trying to put up with her for now. Next move we're buying, just a little short on deposit but should be sorted by Christmas. I was just seeing if anyone had any legal advice for the mean time "/
Legal advice for the meantime? Christmas is five months away.

If you were there for much longer, you could look at an injunction or eviction via her (presumably social) landlord but for the remaining time you have left you can either put up with it, engage with her without going legal, or move altogether. Sorry.

smiffy180

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6,017 posts

149 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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CYMR0 said:
Legal advice for the meantime? Christmas is five months away.

If you were there for much longer, you could look at an injunction or eviction via her (presumably social) landlord but for the remaining time you have left you can either put up with it, engage with her without going legal, or move altogether. Sorry.
Thanks for the input, I just wanted to check if there was anything I could do.

Red Devil

13,048 posts

207 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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smiffy180 said:
We rent.
smiffy180 said:
want to convert the 3rd to a parking space but not sure I'll be around long enough
You would definitely need the consent of your landlord for this*. What makes you think this would be forthcoming?

 * and he/she in turn may need to obtain planning permission from the local authority.

TinyCappo

2,106 posts

152 months

Tuesday 29th July 2014
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If shes happy to steal your cats imagine what she will be like around your new baby?

One to either burn at the stake or move away from very quickly!

We have a similar crazy lady problem 3 doors down only it used to be a quiet bloke who was nice enough, but one day I saw in full drag and jokingly asked was he off to a stag doo......

Turns out he wasn't and now wants to be known as Maureen.....And has since acquired 10 cats......Fruitloop doesn't even begin to cover their behaviour since.