A friend's bizzare Domestic Violence issue, advice needed
Discussion
PopsandBangs said:
To any BiB here and as an update to the situation, not only is my friend still not allowed in his house, but we have recently discovered that several "reviews" have been written about his business on Yell.com and the like, advising people to avoid as he is a wifebeater/nicked for assaulting a woman/dangerous man etc. Can only have come from this mental womans side, and he only found out through customers trying to give him business... at least one of whom now has their reservations about using him/us. Im lost for words. Is there anything he can do?
Well first off contact yell and get them removed - they won't want libelous comments left on their site. You could also ask that they contact the poster and warn that further comments will result in legal action.gforceg said:
How, exactly, has she been scorned?
She appears to be a wicked, conniving, manipulative snake.
Good luck to the OP's friend.
For all you know the bloke could have beat her daily and bullied her into not seeing the kids. She appears to be a wicked, conniving, manipulative snake.
Good luck to the OP's friend.
That sill doesn't give her the right to take over his home. The courts should not let this happen. It's disgraceful. If she doesn't have kids or the kids are not his she should be turfed out immediately.
photosnob said:
For all you know the bloke could have beat her daily and bullied her into not seeing the kids.
That sill doesn't give her the right to take over his home. The courts should not let this happen. It's disgraceful. If she doesn't have kids or the kids are not his she should be turfed out immediately.
Errr, bit confused here.That sill doesn't give her the right to take over his home. The courts should not let this happen. It's disgraceful. If she doesn't have kids or the kids are not his she should be turfed out immediately.
Either we take the OPs story at face value or we might as well not comment or try to advise at all.
I was merely questioning why the other poster wrote "hell hath no fury..." as if that explained everything. There's no suggestion she has been scorned at all.
He needs a solicitor and quickly (today).
I have some questions is the Non Mol already active? as in, it was served ex parte from the information provided it sounds so.
I believe, but i'm not 100% if she has been granted a Non Mol that opens the door for legal aid for her. This is bad news for your friend as she won't be burning cash speaking to solicitors.
Tell your mate to make a comprehensive list of dates times of contacts, what was said, include everything factual. Print anything that is on the internet right now so it can't be removed and show it to the solicitor.
Get him to change every password on everything (banks, social media, forums, utility companies) to something random that she will not be able to guess. If he has a smart phone get him to check to see if tracking software on it she may have installed. (it's a bit tin foil hat but you would be surprised).
I have some questions is the Non Mol already active? as in, it was served ex parte from the information provided it sounds so.
I believe, but i'm not 100% if she has been granted a Non Mol that opens the door for legal aid for her. This is bad news for your friend as she won't be burning cash speaking to solicitors.
Tell your mate to make a comprehensive list of dates times of contacts, what was said, include everything factual. Print anything that is on the internet right now so it can't be removed and show it to the solicitor.
Get him to change every password on everything (banks, social media, forums, utility companies) to something random that she will not be able to guess. If he has a smart phone get him to check to see if tracking software on it she may have installed. (it's a bit tin foil hat but you would be surprised).
Fab32 said:
He needs a solicitor and quickly (today).
I have some questions is the Non Mol already active? as in, it was served ex parte from the information provided it sounds so.
I believe, but i'm not 100% if she has been granted a Non Mol that opens the door for legal aid for her. This is bad news for your friend as she won't be burning cash speaking to solicitors.
Tell your mate to make a comprehensive list of dates times of contacts, what was said, include everything factual. Print anything that is on the internet right now so it can't be removed and show it to the solicitor.
Get him to change every password on everything (banks, social media, forums, utility companies) to something random that she will not be able to guess. If he has a smart phone get him to check to see if tracking software on it she may have installed. (it's a bit tin foil hat but you would be surprised).
Good advice. An ex of mine installed software on my computer which sent her all my emails and passwords. So even after changing them she got in. Luckily she couldn't touch my online banking, but she did go a bit mental on amazon. I got that money back - however neither Amazon, the police or my bank were interested in going after her. Someone put naked photos of her on Facebook from a new account which was set up, tagging her friends and family. Such a shame. I have some questions is the Non Mol already active? as in, it was served ex parte from the information provided it sounds so.
I believe, but i'm not 100% if she has been granted a Non Mol that opens the door for legal aid for her. This is bad news for your friend as she won't be burning cash speaking to solicitors.
Tell your mate to make a comprehensive list of dates times of contacts, what was said, include everything factual. Print anything that is on the internet right now so it can't be removed and show it to the solicitor.
Get him to change every password on everything (banks, social media, forums, utility companies) to something random that she will not be able to guess. If he has a smart phone get him to check to see if tracking software on it she may have installed. (it's a bit tin foil hat but you would be surprised).
photosnob said:
Fab32 said:
He needs a solicitor and quickly (today).
I have some questions is the Non Mol already active? as in, it was served ex parte from the information provided it sounds so.
I believe, but i'm not 100% if she has been granted a Non Mol that opens the door for legal aid for her. This is bad news for your friend as she won't be burning cash speaking to solicitors.
Tell your mate to make a comprehensive list of dates times of contacts, what was said, include everything factual. Print anything that is on the internet right now so it can't be removed and show it to the solicitor.
Get him to change every password on everything (banks, social media, forums, utility companies) to something random that she will not be able to guess. If he has a smart phone get him to check to see if tracking software on it she may have installed. (it's a bit tin foil hat but you would be surprised).
Good advice. An ex of mine installed software on my computer which sent her all my emails and passwords. So even after changing them she got in. Luckily she couldn't touch my online banking, but she did go a bit mental on amazon. I got that money back - however neither Amazon, the police or my bank were interested in going after her. Someone put naked photos of her on Facebook from a new account which was set up, tagging her friends and family. Such a shame. I have some questions is the Non Mol already active? as in, it was served ex parte from the information provided it sounds so.
I believe, but i'm not 100% if she has been granted a Non Mol that opens the door for legal aid for her. This is bad news for your friend as she won't be burning cash speaking to solicitors.
Tell your mate to make a comprehensive list of dates times of contacts, what was said, include everything factual. Print anything that is on the internet right now so it can't be removed and show it to the solicitor.
Get him to change every password on everything (banks, social media, forums, utility companies) to something random that she will not be able to guess. If he has a smart phone get him to check to see if tracking software on it she may have installed. (it's a bit tin foil hat but you would be surprised).
He has engaged with a well respected (female) family law solicitor, who im told is of the opinion that all the (backed up with evidence) visits/stalking/harrassment/messages/phones calls to him, me, several
of his other friends and family will be her downfall. How can she claim to require a court order to keep him away from her when she actively commits these? And the solicitor also says that any claim to the house is not an option.
We sat in a pub next to his place of business this week-she drove past (did not see us) and parked at a "friend" of her's house across the road (i say friend, she has none and is clutching at straws.) An already convicted drink driver, and knowing after 2 hours in there she would have had at least a few glasses of wine, we thought it may be wise to tip off the police before she drove off. It was my advice to not-no proof and probably taking the higher ground to not mess her life up completely.... after todays revelations i wish he had.
Also, funny how she has placed a Non Mol order on him, yet feels it acceptable to drive directly outside my friends place of work know it to be likely he is there.... again we have photogrpahic evidence of this incident which she will be unawre of
of his other friends and family will be her downfall. How can she claim to require a court order to keep him away from her when she actively commits these? And the solicitor also says that any claim to the house is not an option.
We sat in a pub next to his place of business this week-she drove past (did not see us) and parked at a "friend" of her's house across the road (i say friend, she has none and is clutching at straws.) An already convicted drink driver, and knowing after 2 hours in there she would have had at least a few glasses of wine, we thought it may be wise to tip off the police before she drove off. It was my advice to not-no proof and probably taking the higher ground to not mess her life up completely.... after todays revelations i wish he had.
Also, funny how she has placed a Non Mol order on him, yet feels it acceptable to drive directly outside my friends place of work know it to be likely he is there.... again we have photogrpahic evidence of this incident which she will be unawre of
You say they have been together for twelve years, how long have they lived together?
Is she on the electoral role at the address if not where is she registered? If she is on the role their when did that start?
Where do her bank statements go?
Is she claiming JSA? If not is it because he earns to much etc so she cant? It really is not as simple as her name isn't on the mortgage so she has no claim.
Is she on the electoral role at the address if not where is she registered? If she is on the role their when did that start?
Where do her bank statements go?
Is she claiming JSA? If not is it because he earns to much etc so she cant? It really is not as simple as her name isn't on the mortgage so she has no claim.
Sorry can lawyer/anyone in the know give advice here;
My friend attended the court today - they have adjourned the matter until the END OF NOVEMBER due to lack of court time to deal with thr Non Mol and Occupation Order petition.
He remains, after 7 weeks, prohibited to return to his house for now a further 2 and a half months, remains paying the entire mortage, bills, council tax etc, while his ex lives there paying zero, with her name on nothing, not on the electoral role there, no kids, not married to him, and not working. All because she has put forward false abuse claims and states she needs "protection" yet contines to stalk my friend and come near him, even after she had the order created.
What the actual f
k?
My friend attended the court today - they have adjourned the matter until the END OF NOVEMBER due to lack of court time to deal with thr Non Mol and Occupation Order petition.
He remains, after 7 weeks, prohibited to return to his house for now a further 2 and a half months, remains paying the entire mortage, bills, council tax etc, while his ex lives there paying zero, with her name on nothing, not on the electoral role there, no kids, not married to him, and not working. All because she has put forward false abuse claims and states she needs "protection" yet contines to stalk my friend and come near him, even after she had the order created.
What the actual f
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