Adultery, Off Duty BiB given a hiding, Mexican Stand-off

Adultery, Off Duty BiB given a hiding, Mexican Stand-off

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Baryonyx

17,990 posts

158 months

Sunday 21st September 2014
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Will the marriage ever be the same after discovering the wife was passed around the station like currency?

9mm

3,128 posts

209 months

Sunday 21st September 2014
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Replacing roles here, I was once in the position where the one party who didn't know what was going on was Bib's wife. Attempts were made to persuade me to keep quiet but I thought there was more chance of saving my marriage if all the parties knew the score, and it would at least make it much more difficult for my rival to carry on the affair, with his wife wise to his antics. In the end, both marriages failed but I gained some satisfaction from the ststorm that followed me forcing my rival to come clean to his wife.

In hindsight it was doomed from the moment I found out, but I never had any interest in thumping anyone. Waste of time and energy and it would have exposed me to risk. Far better to fk with his life completely legally. It's easy to say your wife is to blame, but it's not so easy to take that on board when your rival has gone out of their way to help end your marriage. Play with fire and all that.

OP - tell him he's welcome to her and that you hope he tastes a bit of you every now and then when he's down on her. Or anything else about her sexual preferences. He'll never fully get it out of his mind. wink

Tannedbaldhead

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2,952 posts

131 months

Sunday 21st September 2014
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9mm said:
Replacing roles here, I was once in the position where the one party who didn't know what was going on was Bib's wife. Attempts were made to persuade me to keep quiet but I thought there was more chance of saving my marriage if all the parties knew the score, and it would at least make it much more difficult for my rival to carry on the affair, with his wife wise to his antics. In the end, both marriages failed but I gained some satisfaction from the ststorm that followed me forcing my rival to come clean to his wife.

In hindsight it was doomed from the moment I found out, but I never had any interest in thumping anyone. Waste of time and energy and it would have exposed me to risk. Far better to fk with his life completely legally. It's easy to say your wife is to blame, but it's not so easy to take that on board when your rival has gone out of their way to help end your marriage. Play with fire and all that.

OP - tell him he's welcome to her and that you hope he tastes a bit of you every now and then when he's down on her. Or anything else about her sexual preferences. He'll never fully get it out of his mind. wink
I have to agree with everything you've said here. I think the hubby in question has let his rival off lightly. He did have the power to damage his career and wreck his marriage. He lost that power when he gave in to his base instincts. From what he told me the marriage is over but inspite of what his wife did to him he was angry at the way BiB treated her once he realised his own marriage was in jeopardy. I think he also took umbrage at the BiB playing the you can't mess with me I'm a policeman card. All he has is the satisfaction of being one of the few people who has stiffened a copper and walked off scot free. It was hardly worth it as his marriage is over and I have a feeling that that's the sort of thing that in the long term you don't get away with.




Devil2575

13,400 posts

187 months

Sunday 21st September 2014
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PugwasHDJ80 said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Why would you be bothered about the other man. He doesn't owe you anything, he never made you any promises and never entered into a contract with you. It's the cheating spouse that's your problem.
this all over

what is the matter with some people- the BiB didn't do anything to your mate, it was your mates wife. Its not up to any third party to ensure anybodyies marriage is in good order
This. His problem is his wife not the bloke she was having it away with.

Red Devil

13,055 posts

207 months

Monday 22nd September 2014
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PugwasHDJ80 said:
Its not up to any third party to ensure anybodyies marriage is in good order
Can we now expect a sudden massive influx of marriage guidance counsellors applying for JSA? smile

roofer

5,136 posts

210 months

Monday 22nd September 2014
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dingg said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Why would you be bothered about the other man. He doesn't owe you anything, he never made you any promises and never entered into a contract with you. It's the cheating spouse that's your problem.
100% - its the wife who is the problem
Agreed, once a tripe hound ...

Eclassy

1,201 posts

121 months

Monday 22nd September 2014
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Wrong move.

He should have simply obtained policeman's wife's number and told her everything that has transpired. Maybe sex it up a bit by saying his wife is now pregnant for bib and has also tested positive for HIV.

Thats what I'd do bib or not. I dislike bib so to discover one sticking it to the missus would be the end of me furious

Mk3Spitfire

2,921 posts

127 months

Monday 22nd September 2014
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Eclassy said:
I dislike bib:
Really? But you do such a sterling job of disguising it?

Don

28,377 posts

283 months

Tuesday 23rd September 2014
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In these situations its better to clean up your own mess and leave others' well alone.

Should simply have put divorce matters into motion and set up camp.

FredClogs

14,041 posts

160 months

Tuesday 23rd September 2014
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Was bib shagging fellas missus whilst on duty?

Did he take down her particulars and show her his truncheon or did she reach around and grab his night stick?

There are not enough details in the op.

Lobsta

12,543 posts

180 months

Tuesday 23rd September 2014
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dingg said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Why would you be bothered about the other man. He doesn't owe you anything, he never made you any promises and never entered into a contract with you. It's the cheating spouse that's your problem.
100% - its the wife who is the problem
These ^^^^ divorce and move on.

singlecoil

33,313 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd September 2014
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Eclassy said:
I dislike bib
That's comparatively mild. Some of the posters on S,P&L worship at the altar of police loathing and hatred. They try to disguise it but the sheer remorselessness of their anti-police posts tells a different story.

One of them is, this very minute I expect, scouring various regional websites looking for negative stories about the police so that he re-start one of the anti-police threads and post the mostly irrelevant links.

Mk3Spitfire

2,921 posts

127 months

Tuesday 23rd September 2014
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One of them is, this very minute I expect, scouring various regional websites looking for negative stories about the police so that he re-start one of the anti-police threads and post the mostly irrelevant links.
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Who on earth could you be talking about?