Dispute over House sale proceeds

[voyds9]

John145 said:

Studied lots of cases then? We have had literally no details on this particular incident.

My fiancée has sourced all the money for the deposit for our jointly owned house. I know for a fact if we split up I should not expect 50/50 as we signed up for because I haven't provided 50%.

Generally in these cases, men assume "I pay the bills therefore I own everything" which is amusing simplistic and dangerously naive.

I don't follow this.

You seem to be saying you don't expect half as you haven't put half in

And if she hadn't put half in she would be entitled to half as she looked after the kids.

[Pappagallo]

Phud said:

In simple terms does not want to accept we were joint tenants and claims verbal contract.

Which is, well not true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I take it there's equity in the sale and she wants more than 50% of it? Or is that there's debt involved and she wants to walk away and leave you to sort it out?

[John145]

voyds9 said:

John145 said:

Studied lots of cases then? We have had literally no details on this particular incident.

My fiancée has sourced all the money for the deposit for our jointly owned house. I know for a fact if we split up I should not expect 50/50 as we signed up for because I haven't provided 50%.

Generally in these cases, men assume "I pay the bills therefore I own everything" which is amusing simplistic and dangerously naive.

I don't follow this.

You seem to be saying you don't expect half as you haven't put half in

And if she hadn't put half in she would be entitled to half as she looked after the kids.

Is it not obvious? She sacrifices her career and all the salary and experience that goes with it to look after jointly owned home and jointly responsible for children and support husbands career/life.

Assuming you break up she's going to be in a much worse position as she will not find a job that would be of a salary expected of someone who had worked continually and not supported the husband.

Is this really such a difficult concept or are you just stupid?

[PurpleMoonlight]

John145 said:

Is it not obvious? She sacrifices her career and all the salary and experience that goes with it to look after jointly owned home and jointly responsible for children and support husbands career/life.

Assuming you break up she's going to be in a much worse position as she will not find a job that would be of a salary expected of someone who had worked continually and not supported the husband.

Is this really such a difficult concept or are you just stupid?

Have you been brainwashed?

[friggs]

PurpleMoonlight said:

Have you been brainwashed?

I completely agree with him.

I'm fortunate enough to have a wife who works, but earns 10k less than me, We have talked about when more kids come along the possibility of her either reducing hours or quitting work, she's on very good pay for her job / hours but if she quit to look after MY kids then she would effectively be out of pocket and out of her career. If we split up then she would have to resume work for money, but it wouldn't be at the same rate as she would have XX years gap, no current experience or reference's. If we did ever split up I would gladly continue to pay my fair share to ensure my kid(s) have a nice life, even it it left me skint.

I have some in laws, one earns an OK wage, the other has just quit work to go to university. Both have their own money both pay the same with regards to bills, but the one who works has a lot of spare money but doesn't like that their partner doesn't. Not a relationship in my eyes, I may earn 10k more than my wife, but when the bills are paid we are both left with the same amount of money, relationships are a team not two individuals

OP, she probably just wants to feel like she's won because you left her, totally understandable as if you bought a house it must have been serious. Send a nice letter asking for it to be sorted before solicitors / court get involved, make sure you have proof of postage / signature asking for it to be resolved by X date so you can move on with your life, if no reply by that date get a solicitor involved, they will send a letter and dare say it will get sorted, she may feel there is still hope?

[ging84]

Assuming he knew the couple were split should a decent solicitor not have seen this coming and taken care of it before it happened?
got some sort of agreement from the 2 before the sale or maybe even recommended they have separate solicitors