Disposing of property now ex wants it back!

[fred flange]

After a very acrimonious split from my then partner i was told several times by her including text messages to get rid of her stuff as she didnt want it back.Now 2 months later surprise surprise she wants it back,but i have chucked it out where do i stand as she is now saying its a criminal matter.

[Funk]

Do you still have the text messages from her?

[LordHaveMurci]

Do you still have the texts from her?

Does she have any proof you disposed of her stuff?

Would the cost of you 'storing' her gear outweigh the value anyway?

Edited by LordHaveMurci on Friday 27th February 13:57

[Soov535]

fred flange said:

After a very acrimonious split from my then partner i was told several times by her including text messages to get rid of her stuff as she didnt want it back.Now 2 months later surprise surprise she wants it back,but i have chucked it out where do i stand as she is now saying its a criminal matter.

Police won't be interested.

Did you keep the texts?

[moffat]

fred flange said:

she is now saying its a criminal matter.

It's a civil matter only.

[hornetrider]

fred flange said:

as she is now saying its a criminal matter.

Lol.

[fred flange]

yes i do have the texts ,ive even had a PIN issued on me for harrasment as she wouldnt answer my calls or respond to my texts when i wanted my stuff back from hers,she is a proper nut case since this kicked off and i just want to get on with my life.

[LordHaveMurci]

Ignore her, don't reply to texts, don't answer the phone, she'll get the message eventually & clear off.

[coopedup]

Tell her to jog on...

[austinsmirk]

she can't.

she has no pants or running shoes.

[coopedup]

austinsmirk said:

she can't.

she has no pants or running shoes.

ooops sorry missed that one

[FrankAbagnale]

Where does she sit on the hot/crazy matrix?

Edited by FrankAbagnale on Friday 27th February 17:30

[robinessex]

Ask her to list what's missing, and provide pictures. Deny any of it ever existed.

[Corbeliere]

Give MI6 a call and tell them she keeps talking about going to Syria.

[soad]

Had to Google PIN (Police Information Notice). Learned something new.

[H20MRV]

Change your mobile and landline number? Ignore the headcase is what I would do and record any calls if she persists, you can get the app for your mobile no problem and buy a answer / recording phone.

[BobSaunders]

Give a reputable solicitor a call - they will be able to give some free advice on the phone quickly and honestly and if things escalate (they probably won't) at least you know of someone to call on - most reputable solicitors will give you five minutes on the phone for free if there is potential business at the end of it.

Keep the text messages (screenshot them as well just incase you lose your phone or delete the messages).

I dated a 9 hot/9 crazy for a bit, fun while it lasted and ticked a few life achievement boxes, however total headcase and had to go. Solicitors became involved.

[T0nup]

Interesting...

Why does she want the stuff back? OR, is this just another way for her to somehow hang on to some element of control over you? Is she, in some warped way, hoping to try and keep you in her life?

To suddenly want stuff back that she knows she told you to dispoe of sounds suspiciously like a mental woman thinking she'll test your responses. If you say "Fine, it's here for you to pick up," she knows you couldn't bear to part with it and thus probably still have feelings for her. Thus, she has control over you. Or, you say, "Sorry, I ditched it," and she goes all righteous on you and thus, has control over you.

If this sounds far fetched, believe me, when it comes to the mental, it happens.

[Devil2575]

Ignore the texts and change your number.

It doesn't sound to me like she is in the mood to be reasonable so i'd not even try to engage with her.

[lukefreeman]

Got her phone number? Sounds hot.