Been arressted - am I perverting the course of justice?
Discussion
La Liga said:
understand that, but given the longer-term implications of such a conviction, it seems unwise not to appeal it if it were apparently so weak.
especially as it was mags conviction in front of lay bench ( as the clerk with a lay bench can only tell them the law of the case ) where an appeal in front of the DJ is likely to be somewhat more carefully conducted.
Hi Chaps
Thank you for the input. Good to hear other stories.
A couple of brief points worth mentioning regarding my case:
- A family lawyer from the team I am using has already been in contact with my ex. A diary/rota has been put in place as to when I see my Daughter for the month of May and June. Going forward this type of rota can easily be put in place from month to month.
- My ex would not want full custody of my Daughter. It is when I have my Daughter that my ex spends time with her new guy. She would be shooting herself in the foot by going for full custody and I really can not see this happening. Due to her not getting on with her family and I the only person who will have our Daughter for any length of time.
- A caution albeit not ideal would not be the end of the world. The area that I work in does not rely on disclosures etc
- Representations have today been sent to the CPS.
I will update in due course.
Thanks again for the comments, the support and the advice; it means a lot.
Thank you for the input. Good to hear other stories.
A couple of brief points worth mentioning regarding my case:
- A family lawyer from the team I am using has already been in contact with my ex. A diary/rota has been put in place as to when I see my Daughter for the month of May and June. Going forward this type of rota can easily be put in place from month to month.
- My ex would not want full custody of my Daughter. It is when I have my Daughter that my ex spends time with her new guy. She would be shooting herself in the foot by going for full custody and I really can not see this happening. Due to her not getting on with her family and I the only person who will have our Daughter for any length of time.
- A caution albeit not ideal would not be the end of the world. The area that I work in does not rely on disclosures etc
- Representations have today been sent to the CPS.
I will update in due course.
Thanks again for the comments, the support and the advice; it means a lot.
TROOPER88 said:
Hi Chaps
Thank you for the input. Good to hear other stories.
A couple of brief points worth mentioning regarding my case:
- A family lawyer from the team I am using has already been in contact with my ex. A diary/rota has been put in place as to when I see my Daughter for the month of May and June. Going forward this type of rota can easily be put in place from month to month.
- My ex would not want full custody of my Daughter. It is when I have my Daughter that my ex spends time with her new guy. She would be shooting herself in the foot by going for full custody and I really can not see this happening. Due to her not getting on with her family and I the only person who will have our Daughter for any length of time.
- A caution albeit not ideal would not be the end of the world. The area that I work in does not rely on disclosures etc
- Representations have today been sent to the CPS.
I will update in due course.
Thanks again for the comments, the support and the advice; it means a lot.
Full custody wouldn't necessarily mean that you didn't see your daughter and you ex didn't get time alone with her new chap Thank you for the input. Good to hear other stories.
A couple of brief points worth mentioning regarding my case:
- A family lawyer from the team I am using has already been in contact with my ex. A diary/rota has been put in place as to when I see my Daughter for the month of May and June. Going forward this type of rota can easily be put in place from month to month.
- My ex would not want full custody of my Daughter. It is when I have my Daughter that my ex spends time with her new guy. She would be shooting herself in the foot by going for full custody and I really can not see this happening. Due to her not getting on with her family and I the only person who will have our Daughter for any length of time.
- A caution albeit not ideal would not be the end of the world. The area that I work in does not rely on disclosures etc
- Representations have today been sent to the CPS.
I will update in due course.
Thanks again for the comments, the support and the advice; it means a lot.
It's more about how much influence you have over decision making in terms of parental responsibility and so on, particularly if she had managed ot paint you as some kind of higher risk person ...
Hi Guys
A week last Thursday my lawyer sent me a copy of the representations that were to be sent to the CPS.
I read them and was very impressed.
On Tuesday I e-mailed the Police officer in charge of the case to request the latest copy of my bail sheet as was due to attend last Thursday, the 21st.
She e-mailed straight back with my bail sheet attached but said she was just about to send the representations to the CPS.
I questioned this as felt that the Police were not allowing the CPS enough time to challenge any decisions.
I received a prompt reply and was informed that they would indeed have enough time.
This was Tuesday at 9am.
At 10am on Wednesday morning (24 hours after the Police had read the representations and 24 hours before I was due to attend the Police station) i got a call from the officer in charge......
'Hi Paul, there is to be no further action taken against you'
I questioned as to why this was and was told that the day before my ex withdrew her statement....
The police were on their way to my ex's to get a withdrawal form signed.
It would appear (guessing but to much of a coincidence otherwise....) that the Police contacted my ex after reading the representations and advised her that malicious text messages that she had sent me were exposed in the representations.
Again I can only guess but the thought and fear of being dragged into the case caused her to withdraw the statement.
It will cost me between 6 and 10k in total.
Thank you to all that have offered advice, sympathy and to those who have shared their stories.
Moving forward I will communicate with my ex via e-mail only.
I will try to be the best father I can.
Thank you
A week last Thursday my lawyer sent me a copy of the representations that were to be sent to the CPS.
I read them and was very impressed.
On Tuesday I e-mailed the Police officer in charge of the case to request the latest copy of my bail sheet as was due to attend last Thursday, the 21st.
She e-mailed straight back with my bail sheet attached but said she was just about to send the representations to the CPS.
I questioned this as felt that the Police were not allowing the CPS enough time to challenge any decisions.
I received a prompt reply and was informed that they would indeed have enough time.
This was Tuesday at 9am.
At 10am on Wednesday morning (24 hours after the Police had read the representations and 24 hours before I was due to attend the Police station) i got a call from the officer in charge......
'Hi Paul, there is to be no further action taken against you'
I questioned as to why this was and was told that the day before my ex withdrew her statement....
The police were on their way to my ex's to get a withdrawal form signed.
It would appear (guessing but to much of a coincidence otherwise....) that the Police contacted my ex after reading the representations and advised her that malicious text messages that she had sent me were exposed in the representations.
Again I can only guess but the thought and fear of being dragged into the case caused her to withdraw the statement.
It will cost me between 6 and 10k in total.
Thank you to all that have offered advice, sympathy and to those who have shared their stories.
Moving forward I will communicate with my ex via e-mail only.
I will try to be the best father I can.
Thank you
TROOPER88 said:
Hi Guys
A week last Thursday my lawyer sent me a copy of the representations that were to be sent to the CPS.
I read them and was very impressed.
On Tuesday I e-mailed the Police officer in charge of the case to request the latest copy of my bail sheet as was due to attend last Thursday, the 21st.
She e-mailed straight back with my bail sheet attached but said she was just about to send the representations to the CPS.
I questioned this as felt that the Police were not allowing the CPS enough time to challenge any decisions.
I received a prompt reply and was informed that they would indeed have enough time.
This was Tuesday at 9am.
At 10am on Wednesday morning (24 hours after the Police had read the representations and 24 hours before I was due to attend the Police station) i got a call from the officer in charge......
'Hi Paul, there is to be no further action taken against you'
I questioned as to why this was and was told that the day before my ex withdrew her statement....
The police were on their way to my ex's to get a withdrawal form signed.
It would appear (guessing but to much of a coincidence otherwise....) that the Police contacted my ex after reading the representations and advised her that malicious text messages that she had sent me were exposed in the representations.
Again I can only guess but the thought and fear of being dragged into the case caused her to withdraw the statement.
It will cost me between 6 and 10k in total.
Thank you to all that have offered advice, sympathy and to those who have shared their stories.
Moving forward I will communicate with my ex via e-mail only.
I will try to be the best father I can.
Thank you
Good job. Now she's signed off, push for the police to convict her for malicious communications!A week last Thursday my lawyer sent me a copy of the representations that were to be sent to the CPS.
I read them and was very impressed.
On Tuesday I e-mailed the Police officer in charge of the case to request the latest copy of my bail sheet as was due to attend last Thursday, the 21st.
She e-mailed straight back with my bail sheet attached but said she was just about to send the representations to the CPS.
I questioned this as felt that the Police were not allowing the CPS enough time to challenge any decisions.
I received a prompt reply and was informed that they would indeed have enough time.
This was Tuesday at 9am.
At 10am on Wednesday morning (24 hours after the Police had read the representations and 24 hours before I was due to attend the Police station) i got a call from the officer in charge......
'Hi Paul, there is to be no further action taken against you'
I questioned as to why this was and was told that the day before my ex withdrew her statement....
The police were on their way to my ex's to get a withdrawal form signed.
It would appear (guessing but to much of a coincidence otherwise....) that the Police contacted my ex after reading the representations and advised her that malicious text messages that she had sent me were exposed in the representations.
Again I can only guess but the thought and fear of being dragged into the case caused her to withdraw the statement.
It will cost me between 6 and 10k in total.
Thank you to all that have offered advice, sympathy and to those who have shared their stories.
Moving forward I will communicate with my ex via e-mail only.
I will try to be the best father I can.
Thank you
Genuinely heartbreaking mate. Having been on the end of a serial-cheating ex with one or two of my friends, I cannot imagine what it must be like with a child thrown in the mix. You've been a credit to yourself though and handled the situation brilliantly. As much comfort as words on a screen from a stranger on the internet can mean, I really do hope you find yourself coming out of the darkness and somewhat into the light now and hopefully when your daughter is of an age that she can understand it all, she'll realise what a poisonous wench her mother sounds like.
uk_vette said:
Have zero communications with her.
It would only lead to further custodial time at the police station.
She will still have it in for you.
I would be inclined to agree. It would only lead to further custodial time at the police station.
She will still have it in for you.
And as for comms, maybe you need some standard email templates to use that could never be viewed as antagonistic?
Dear x,
I hope you are both well. As discussed on xx/yy/zz I will collect <name> on Thursday at about 6:30pm and bring her home on Saturday at 11am.
Kind regards,
Etc
Oh, and I think you can add on a Google email gadget that puts a delay on emails sent at certain times, in case of "passionately drafted " emails?
Jonno02 said:
Genuinely heartbreaking mate. Having been on the end of a serial-cheating ex with one or two of my friends, I cannot imagine what it must be like with a child thrown in the mix. You've been a credit to yourself though and handled the situation brilliantly. As much comfort as words on a screen from a stranger on the internet can mean, I really do hope you find yourself coming out of the darkness and somewhat into the light now and hopefully when your daughter is of an age that she can understand it all, she'll realise what a poisonous wench her mother sounds like.
Thank you. A genuinely nice post 
With regard contact with my ex, I plan on e-mailing her. She had tried calling me a couple of times.
I will do as has been suggested:
Dear xyz
Here with the days/times for the following month when I am available to see our Daughter...
Many thanks.....
If I keep things amicable then I stand every chance of maintaining a good relationship with my Daughter.
Cheers
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