Blackmail, I think...
Discussion
RegMolehusband said:
Isn't now the time to go to the police and stop this guy before he does the same to somebody else?
Yes i did say that to her, but i think she is scared of any repercussions this may have hence why she wants to leave it as a very last resort.Her partner will probably be having more of a say in which way it goes.
oh this
Rude-boy said:
In addition to this the sort who would seek to blackmail someone are quite likely to have fingers in other pies and not being the brightest might end up losing one or more of said fingers...
from what i'm told is very true.Rude-boy said:
Would just like to thank the misogynistic runts who have outed themselves on this thread.
Your contributions have been noted, even if not being noteworthy, and you have been judged accordingly.
Well I would just like to thank you for outing yourself as an idiot.Your contributions have been noted, even if not being noteworthy, and you have been judged accordingly.
Your contribution has been noted, even though it was unexceptional, and you have been judged accordingly.
AndrewEH1 said:
Rude-boy said:
Would just like to thank the misogynistic runts who have outed themselves on this thread.
Your contributions have been noted, even if not being noteworthy, and you have been judged accordingly.
Well I would just like to thank you for outing yourself as an idiot.Your contributions have been noted, even if not being noteworthy, and you have been judged accordingly.
Your contribution has been noted, even though it was unexceptional, and you have been judged accordingly.
It is one thing to say "Stupid woman, put herself in this position, made her bed and must lie in it." Which is fairly much what 'Anothernameitist' posted. It is quite another to start posting up 'Slag' and the like.
It is quite obvious from your posts that there is a nerve touched re the cheating partner. Hman suggests that it touches a nerve with me, the action does not, the duplicity of approach to a female who has cheated Vs a male does however 'exercise' me.
When a partner cheats on another (and given that i have not lived in a box my entire life I have been in both the bloke in the wrong and the wronged bloke) it is most certainly a huge issue. Some relationships survive it, some do not. Some will go on to cheat again, some do not. To treat a woman who has cheated on her partner differently to a man who has done so is a view so backwards it makes the ISIS interpretation of the Koran appear forward thinking. Actually it is almost as advanced as their spin on gender equality.
Simply put we have absolutely no idea why on earth the lady cheated. Perhaps she is locked into a long term relationship with a man she fell out of love with many years ago, she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was weak, the net effect being that the next morning she realised how stupid she had been and that, like the last 15 years, she really did want to spend the next 15 with existing bloke. Who knows., We don't. Yet there are people more than quick to judge based on no knowledge of the situation.
I may have outed myself as an idiot in your eyes, I will some how manage to struggle on in life with that knowledge. More interesting to me though is that it wasn't you i was thinking of when i wrote my post, yet it has had quite some reaction from you. Well done.
Rude-boy said:
AndrewEH1 said:
Rude-boy said:
Would just like to thank the misogynistic runts who have outed themselves on this thread.
Your contributions have been noted, even if not being noteworthy, and you have been judged accordingly.
Well I would just like to thank you for outing yourself as an idiot.Your contributions have been noted, even if not being noteworthy, and you have been judged accordingly.
Your contribution has been noted, even though it was unexceptional, and you have been judged accordingly.
It is one thing to say "Stupid woman, put herself in this position, made her bed and must lie in it." Which is fairly much what 'Anothernameitist' posted. It is quite another to start posting up 'Slag' and the like.
It is quite obvious from your posts that there is a nerve touched re the cheating partner. Hman suggests that it touches a nerve with me, the action does not, the duplicity of approach to a female who has cheated Vs a male does however 'exercise' me.
When a partner cheats on another (and given that i have not lived in a box my entire life I have been in both the bloke in the wrong and the wronged bloke) it is most certainly a huge issue. Some relationships survive it, some do not. Some will go on to cheat again, some do not. To treat a woman who has cheated on her partner differently to a man who has done so is a view so backwards it makes the ISIS interpretation of the Koran appear forward thinking. Actually it is almost as advanced as their spin on gender equality.
Simply put we have absolutely no idea why on earth the lady cheated. Perhaps she is locked into a long term relationship with a man she fell out of love with many years ago, she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was weak, the net effect being that the next morning she realised how stupid she had been and that, like the last 15 years, she really did want to spend the next 15 with existing bloke. Who knows., We don't. Yet there are people more than quick to judge based on no knowledge of the situation.
I may have outed myself as an idiot in your eyes, I will some how manage to struggle on in life with that knowledge. More interesting to me though is that it wasn't you i was thinking of when i wrote my post, yet it has had quite some reaction from you. Well done.
Rude-boy said:
The irony is strong in this one.
It is one thing to say "Stupid woman, put herself in this position, made her bed and must lie in it." Which is fairly much what 'Anothernameitist' posted. It is quite another to start posting up 'Slag' and the like.
It is quite obvious from your posts that there is a nerve touched re the cheating partner. Hman suggests that it touches a nerve with me, the action does not, the duplicity of approach to a female who has cheated Vs a male does however 'exercise' me.
When a partner cheats on another (and given that i have not lived in a box my entire life I have been in both the bloke in the wrong and the wronged bloke) it is most certainly a huge issue. Some relationships survive it, some do not. Some will go on to cheat again, some do not. To treat a woman who has cheated on her partner differently to a man who has done so is a view so backwards it makes the ISIS interpretation of the Koran appear forward thinking. Actually it is almost as advanced as their spin on gender equality.
Simply put we have absolutely no idea why on earth the lady cheated. Perhaps she is locked into a long term relationship with a man she fell out of love with many years ago, she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was weak, the net effect being that the next morning she realised how stupid she had been and that, like the last 15 years, she really did want to spend the next 15 with existing bloke. Who knows., We don't. Yet there are people more than quick to judge based on no knowledge of the situation.
I may have outed myself as an idiot in your eyes, I will some how manage to struggle on in life with that knowledge. More interesting to me though is that it wasn't you i was thinking of when i wrote my post, yet it has had quite some reaction from you. Well done.
A good post. To use a term like "slag" is wrong. What's the equivalent term for a man?It is one thing to say "Stupid woman, put herself in this position, made her bed and must lie in it." Which is fairly much what 'Anothernameitist' posted. It is quite another to start posting up 'Slag' and the like.
It is quite obvious from your posts that there is a nerve touched re the cheating partner. Hman suggests that it touches a nerve with me, the action does not, the duplicity of approach to a female who has cheated Vs a male does however 'exercise' me.
When a partner cheats on another (and given that i have not lived in a box my entire life I have been in both the bloke in the wrong and the wronged bloke) it is most certainly a huge issue. Some relationships survive it, some do not. Some will go on to cheat again, some do not. To treat a woman who has cheated on her partner differently to a man who has done so is a view so backwards it makes the ISIS interpretation of the Koran appear forward thinking. Actually it is almost as advanced as their spin on gender equality.
Simply put we have absolutely no idea why on earth the lady cheated. Perhaps she is locked into a long term relationship with a man she fell out of love with many years ago, she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was weak, the net effect being that the next morning she realised how stupid she had been and that, like the last 15 years, she really did want to spend the next 15 with existing bloke. Who knows., We don't. Yet there are people more than quick to judge based on no knowledge of the situation.
I may have outed myself as an idiot in your eyes, I will some how manage to struggle on in life with that knowledge. More interesting to me though is that it wasn't you i was thinking of when i wrote my post, yet it has had quite some reaction from you. Well done.
RegMolehusband said:
Rude-boy said:
The irony is strong in this one.
It is one thing to say "Stupid woman, put herself in this position, made her bed and must lie in it." Which is fairly much what 'Anothernameitist' posted. It is quite another to start posting up 'Slag' and the like.
It is quite obvious from your posts that there is a nerve touched re the cheating partner. Hman suggests that it touches a nerve with me, the action does not, the duplicity of approach to a female who has cheated Vs a male does however 'exercise' me.
When a partner cheats on another (and given that i have not lived in a box my entire life I have been in both the bloke in the wrong and the wronged bloke) it is most certainly a huge issue. Some relationships survive it, some do not. Some will go on to cheat again, some do not. To treat a woman who has cheated on her partner differently to a man who has done so is a view so backwards it makes the ISIS interpretation of the Koran appear forward thinking. Actually it is almost as advanced as their spin on gender equality.
Simply put we have absolutely no idea why on earth the lady cheated. Perhaps she is locked into a long term relationship with a man she fell out of love with many years ago, she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was weak, the net effect being that the next morning she realised how stupid she had been and that, like the last 15 years, she really did want to spend the next 15 with existing bloke. Who knows., We don't. Yet there are people more than quick to judge based on no knowledge of the situation.
I may have outed myself as an idiot in your eyes, I will some how manage to struggle on in life with that knowledge. More interesting to me though is that it wasn't you i was thinking of when i wrote my post, yet it has had quite some reaction from you. Well done.
A good post. To use a term like "slag" is wrong. What's the equivalent term for a man?It is one thing to say "Stupid woman, put herself in this position, made her bed and must lie in it." Which is fairly much what 'Anothernameitist' posted. It is quite another to start posting up 'Slag' and the like.
It is quite obvious from your posts that there is a nerve touched re the cheating partner. Hman suggests that it touches a nerve with me, the action does not, the duplicity of approach to a female who has cheated Vs a male does however 'exercise' me.
When a partner cheats on another (and given that i have not lived in a box my entire life I have been in both the bloke in the wrong and the wronged bloke) it is most certainly a huge issue. Some relationships survive it, some do not. Some will go on to cheat again, some do not. To treat a woman who has cheated on her partner differently to a man who has done so is a view so backwards it makes the ISIS interpretation of the Koran appear forward thinking. Actually it is almost as advanced as their spin on gender equality.
Simply put we have absolutely no idea why on earth the lady cheated. Perhaps she is locked into a long term relationship with a man she fell out of love with many years ago, she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was weak, the net effect being that the next morning she realised how stupid she had been and that, like the last 15 years, she really did want to spend the next 15 with existing bloke. Who knows., We don't. Yet there are people more than quick to judge based on no knowledge of the situation.
I may have outed myself as an idiot in your eyes, I will some how manage to struggle on in life with that knowledge. More interesting to me though is that it wasn't you i was thinking of when i wrote my post, yet it has had quite some reaction from you. Well done.
fatjon said:
I didn't see anyone who made any distinction between a man and a woman cheating so your comments on gender equality seem quite irrelevant. As for why she cheated being excused by any of those factors mentioned, well they are not excused. There is an accepted order in which to do these things, dump old partner, start relationship with new one. Dropping your knickers (or trousers) before ending the first relationship gets you labelled quite correctly.
Amen.If it helps SJWs sleep at night - the bloke (not the partner) is also a slag. Or a b
d, whichever word suits.If she is unhappy with the current relationship - dump the guy. It really is as simple as that. Hedging your bets and cheating on someone because it's illicit, exciting, or whatever, but you still want the security of the existing relationship - whether that's emotional or practical (e.g. roof over your head) is t
ttish behaviour regardless of gender.EDIT: Maybe Haymarket should be taken to task for censoring b
d but not slag. The patriarchy strikes again!Edited by Durzel on Wednesday 2nd December 10:43
fatjon said:
I didn't see anyone who made any distinction between a man and a woman cheating so your comments on gender equality seem quite irrelevant. As for why she cheated being excused by any of those factors mentioned, well they are not excused. There is an accepted order in which to do these things, dump old partner, start relationship with new one. Dropping your knickers (or trousers) before ending the first relationship gets you labelled quite correctly.
To be fair there is no immediate distinction in the thread itself but the thread is an illustration of the sort of comments regularly seen on PH when it is found that a woman has put a leg out of bed compared to the sort of reaction that we see when it is a bloke who has done so. I do not offer excuses for the lady in questions action, indeed my imagined scenario could be well out of line with reality. Perhaps the lady is actually a serial cheat and possibly in line for some strong labelling - but we don't know. That is what gets me a little (as much as one ever can with internet debates). Woman cheats - insta slag. Man cheats - what's the back story before we suggest that he is better suited to the single life?
I do also agree that there is an 'accepted order' that one should follow. At 39 I am also well aware that the World is not in primary colours but many, many different shades. That has taught me that, especially when it comes to relationships, it is wrong to immediately hit the nuclear button until there is sufficient information to do so. For me it isn't that far from calling someone a rapist just because you are aware an allegation has been made against them, with no other facts to hand.
Durzel said:
EDIT: Maybe Haymarket should be taken to task for censoring bd but not slag. The patriarchy strikes again!
d but not slag. The patriarchy strikes again!
Trust me I am far from Mr PC at times. I just have a romantic notion that you judge a person for who and what they are as an individual regardless of colour, religion, sex, sexual orientation, etc. Stand or fall on your own merits. Word for word this was in the local paper, lady slept with married man, male friend of lady blackmailed married man along with lady, he paid then some more, 3rd time he went to police
Lady and male doing blackmail got over a year in prison, lady had young kids, was surprised how serious they took it and threw the book at them (no previous offences etc)
OP: tell friend to go to police with evidence
Lady and male doing blackmail got over a year in prison, lady had young kids, was surprised how serious they took it and threw the book at them (no previous offences etc)
OP: tell friend to go to police with evidence
Rude-boy said:
Trust me I am far from Mr PC at times. I just have a romantic notion that you judge a person for who and what they are as an individual regardless of colour, religion, sex, sexual orientation, etc. Stand or fall on your own merits. Also - it's a subject that touches close to home for many I'd wager. I'm sure a significant proportion of people on here will have been in the same position at some point in their lives - either being oblivious to a cheating partner, or finding out about it. That tends to colour opinions.
TwistingMyMelon said:
Word for word this was in the local paper, lady slept with married man, male friend of lady blackmailed married man along with lady, he paid then some more, 3rd time he went to police
Lady and male doing blackmail got over a year in prison, lady had young kids, was surprised how serious they took it and threw the book at them (no previous offences etc)
OP: tell friend to go to police with evidence
Or get a copy of this article and send the blackmailer the link.Lady and male doing blackmail got over a year in prison, lady had young kids, was surprised how serious they took it and threw the book at them (no previous offences etc)
OP: tell friend to go to police with evidence
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