Any divorce lawyers on here?

[Ari]

Rick101 said:

We bought a place together after around 4 years. Exactly 50/50 on the deposit and 50/50 monthly's into a bank account to cover and house related costs from a boiler service to the Netflix subscription.

Both have plenty of cash left and though we have our 'own' money that doesn't of course stop you spending it on taking the other half for a meal out or weekend away.
I'm still bemused every time I get asked how I got 'permission' for an Exige.

Works for us and every time I hear a tale of woe yes I do feel a little bit smug.

I wonder how smug those 'tales of woe' felt prior to actually becoming tales of woe..?

[Ari]

austinsmirk said:

don't forget everything you had or bought is a depreciating asset. So that £4000 suite is now worth £200, 10 years later, yr £1000 TV is now worth £50. In fairness with no children, you have little to argue about.

Yes, but try telling her that you're keeping the £4,000 suite and the £1,000 telly and giving her £125 as her half as they're 'depreciating assets'...

[Ari]

Wombat3 said:

My ex was quite put out when the Offset mortgage account moved from being 50% drawn down to 100% & the joint accounts were emptied the day I discovered what she was up to. She went ballistic that I had stopped her drawing any money (and cancelled her joint credit card). The funds sat in a deposit account off-setting the mortgage balance so it didn't cost anything but it preserved what was there in the first place.

So you were working on the assumption that ALL of the money was yours to control and NONE of it was hers so felt entitled to completely remove her access to it?

And she left you, you say..?

[Wombat3]

Ari said:

Wombat3 said:

My ex was quite put out when the Offset mortgage account moved from being 50% drawn down to 100% & the joint accounts were emptied the day I discovered what she was up to. She went ballistic that I had stopped her drawing any money (and cancelled her joint credit card). The funds sat in a deposit account off-setting the mortgage balance so it didn't cost anything but it preserved what was there in the first place.

So you were working on the assumption that ALL of the money was yours to control and NONE of it was hers so felt entitled to completely remove her access to it?

And she left you, you say..?

Yes, and yes.

Always amusing to see people judge when they don't know the first fking thing about what went on and what the financial and other circumstances were (or indeed what the end result and final division of assets was).

The simple point being made is that in such circumstances you protect yourself as far as you can. That doesn't mean you try and fleece the other party, it just means that where possible you make sure they can't fleece you.

tt.

Edited by Wombat3 on Thursday 1st September 00:28

[Red Devil]

Lawbags said:

GT03ROB said:

As a basic rule what yours personally became marital assets the day you married. The concept of yours & hers disappeared the day you said "I do".

In that case, is the ring included in that asset 'pot'?
I'm not fussed about it's return, but it has significant monetary value.

Read this. Those who are talking about it being a gift are conflating the situation where the marriage doesn't take place. In that case no asset calculation is required.

[stuttgartmetal]

ciege said:

Having been through two....

Give her the ring mate, why on earth would you want to keep it...even if you paid £5k it's worth substaintially les than this now.

Savings, how much does she want, I would have thought 50% of 7 years worth would be in my head to loose, any less bonus.

Pay up, move on quickly stay friends.

Even if it hurts, agree out of court
Lawyers love divorce
Of course they'll tell you you'll win.

[Rangeroverover]

I really wouldn't worry about "stuff", my ex is paying lots per month in storage for stuff that is now probably worthless; the best way to win is to be happy, know you have behaved like a gent and move on; eventually my divorce was about £6k in fees, could have been far less. The lawyer kept writing useless letters such as.

"We have today written to Mrs R regarding x"

I would then be billed for the letter to her and also the letter to me telling me they had written to her. I asked them just to email me a copy of each letter, without a "custom" letter to me as I felt it was ramping up costs. I then get a letter "Thank you for your letter requesting us not to write to you"

[bad company]

Rick101 said:

http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...

That one is 131 pages long!!!